Would you still feel the love of your partner if you caught him/her lied?
By redgutz
@redgutz (57)
Philippines
March 7, 2012 11:32am CST
will you still stay put on a relationship if you caught your partner lied to you several times, Im in a relationship for almost 2 years and six months, the relationship is not that solid up and down, and having second thought to break it up. I always feel if my partner tells lie or truth, and always caught her, I don't know what to do.
8 responses
@larish (2213)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
If it's a white lie, yes I will still continuously love him. White life is a lie done to make things better. Example: he will tell me that he'll be rendering overtime & finding out that he has created a surprise for me. That will be sweet. But if it's a lie to trick me then I will have second thoughts if I should still love him. Example: rendering OT but the truth is he just went out with another girl.
@mammots (3209)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
to answer your question i would not stay in a relationship for a minute longer if i found out that my boyfriend lied to me. a lie is equivalent to a betrayal of trust and confidence which is very vital to a relationship.
@Kasiviswanathan2k (288)
• India
8 Mar 12
It's always too painful if our pair doing like this, but we can treated to Good one by handling him in soft manner. We should pointing out their lies and mistakes and then we need to thought always frankly to each other this will always avoid problems. But if the pair telling Lie is always hard to Belive and nothing make more pain to our heart.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
The question is which kind of lie is it. Is it too grave to forgive? Is it cheating with others and the partner lied about it? I would give someone a chance if it happens several times. But if I keep forgiving and the person keeps lying even after several times I have forgiven him - well I think I need to think whether things would be right for the both of us or will both of us only suffers in the long run. I would have to give up someone if he keeps doing that.
@mrswhitfield (2044)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 12
If she lied about something important and the lie are unacceptable, may be you should give a hard thought to continue the relationship. Somehow, you have to ask her, if you know that she was lie, about the truth. You need to find out why she lied to you, may be she have reason for that. Some people can give forgiveness, some can't.
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
7 Mar 12
i have caught my husband in a few lies here and there and we were always able to work thro them and we seemed to be closer afterwards. we have had one seperation for 3 weeks and that was the worst 3 weeks of my life but we got thro it. that is how a relationship should be. he makes me the happiest person in the world. we have our ups and our downs but we have found a way to make things work to keep us happy. if u=you are not happy i think may be it is time for a change. let them go and if they come back in to your life later down the road then may be it will work out and it is what it is suppose to be. when me and my husband were in school we broke up when i graduated and some how we found our selves back together with a family :) the longer you wait to break it off the harder it will be for everyone involved...this is just my way at looking at things and i dont know the whole story but i hope this helped some...i will say this if you do not feel that this preson is the one you want to settle down with then set both of you free to find the one that is perfect for you. trust is a major thing in a relationship. if there is no trust you have nothing at all...
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
7 Mar 12
I would still love my husband if he lied to me but it would be very hard to trust him again. It also would depend what he lied about. If its something silly then I don't think it would be such a big deal. If it was about cheating or something like that then the first time I would forgive him. A second time or more I would not be able to ever trust him again and therefore there would be no point in continuing our relationship. It depends I think on the severity of the lie...
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Mar 12
It doesn't matter if your partner is lies or hides something for you. What matters is that you feel unhappy in this relationship. I think if so, you should break up. Give yourself and her the chance to find someone who appreciates you and her the way it should be. A relationship should give you positive energy not break you.