People who promise things they won't do

Hi adnileb: I didn't know this aspect about your country. But at least you know that when you are making serious promises it's better to be careful to not betray someone. ALVARO

Hi adnileb: That's the only way we can be in peace with ourselves and at the same time be mature and get the respect from the people. ALVARO

Yes, my friend. For serious matters, everyone should be cautious with the words they speak.

Integrity is often times over looked because it is a trivial characteristic. As much as we would like to put our best foot forward for others and get so much as a small bit of gratitude; it rarely ever happens. There are countless numbers of examples out there to prove this point. A relationship where in the wife is unsatisfied because her deeds seem to go unknownst to her husband. A little boy that tries his best to get his fathers attention and approval. Yet his father says time and time again that he will be at the next game. Only to never be seen there. A broken heart is a broken heart no matter how it was broken. Yes it is hard to deal with people like that. Intent is the true nature of the answer to this matter. We would like to think that we all have good intentions for others. However, most people do not think before they speak. What a different place this world would be if only more people would think before they speak. "The road to Hell is paved with good intentions." If you can think for yourselves then you can avoid people like this not through any form of rejection simply through your character. If you are know for being a helpful person then those types will never darken your door as a friend because that will be far to much work for them. They will however try to take advantage of your good nature when they want something from you. Although they can not hide their true nature for long as it will be forced out of them when it comes time to repay that debt. "You have to have a bad day in order to know what a good day is." The same goes for friends. It is up to us to learn from our mistakes and move on with our lives. When you do something good for someone do not expect anything in return. Or your true intent is not to help others it is only to help your self. Yes good thing will come to you but so will the bad thing. This is where your attitude will play a large part in which type of person that you will become. Think before you speak and become more aware of the people that you have as friends. "Birds of a feather flock together." If you do not like who you are then change your self into the man/woman that you would like to be. Selfless acts are not easy to preform by any means. This is why so many relationships fail and are failing all around the world. I could go on and on about this topic but I will stop here because like I said in the beginning this is a trivial part of life. I know that it seems to be an overwhelming part but it only leads to more and more human traits that would take a lifetime to cover here. If you only take away one part of this then may it be that you THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK AND ACT! God speed to you all.

Hi winston: I am sorry to hear that. It's always a difficult decision to get to the conclusion that you can not trust in someone because he doesn't deserves it, specially if it's one of your friends. @mindless: I think this lead us to be more selective with our friends. Some may have good intentions but they can cheat on us in different ways and when this happen we lost part of this trust in human kindness. ALVARO

Hi Pose: Thanks for your answer. I had this same feeling because, for me trust is very important. I can imagine how could I have a relationship when I don't even know if this person is lying to me and this applies to no matter what kind of relationship we are talking about. Some people feel the need to be dishonest to feel more popular maybe or because they want to impress, some others can't stop lying even to themselves making promises that they won't accomplished. In the end this behaviour affect their own self-esteem. ALVARO

Hi doran m win: I think that's a really good decision. Taking your promises seriously is teh first step to make you remember just in case you want to promise something to you or to someone else that you will really work to make it. ALVARO

Hi mega matt: I agree. Some people are so accustomed to make promises when they don't really want to do what they say that is just disgusting and they feel no shame to say these words. They just want to take your confidence and use you that is simply bad. At least some people who don't have the discipline have the intention to make what they say but they fail because they don't work. But the ones who already know that they are going to betray you ALVARO

Hi lady: That's a possibility but at the same time this means that they don't value what they say or give little importance to their promises. When I promise something I try to be serious about it so I'll try not to forget it and keep it in my mind. ALVARO

Hi jing bautista: I never ask people to always do what they say because I understand that there are situations we just can't control. However if we don't cultivate self discipline and if we don't value the importance of making real the things that we promise this will be a real problem. ALVARO

Hi dodo: That's truth. The reaction people who are always lying is always as negative as their actions. I feel betrayed when people lie to me and they don't even try to accomplish their promises. ALVARO

Hi jaiho: Dealing with promises is a very delicate subject, at least for persons like us who value the importance of trust and who regret having the terrible experience of being betrayed but someone who was supposed to be our "friend". I think it's a very wise decision to take promises so seriously. ALVARO

Hi kasivis wanathan: I think that accepting that you have a weakness in your personality in this subject it's a good point to start. Try to read articles about how to cultivate your self discipline. Maybe you should try to start with some small goals like being always at time, doing a special activity, etc to improve your discipline. I think that when people lose their trust in themselves that's a big problem and can affect your self-esteem ALVARO

Hi enelym: I agree. We can help a friend with this bad habit and show him/her the consequences of his/her actions and why it's affecting our relationship. But in the end it's up to them to decide whether they want to change or not. I don't like to deal with the third group because when they ask you for a favour, you know deep in your heart that there's almost a 100% possibility that they won't return your favour. ALVARO

Hi clr: Exactly. Unfortunately some people don't make that step so they just talk and never go ahead and agree with their commitments. If you don't really make an effort to make it, your promises would be just words. ALVARO

Hi dazzled lady: I think your reaction is fair. I actually try to stay away this people from me because they probably end up hurting me or I hurt their feelings with my angry reaction depending on how important was that promise to me. ALVARO

Hi rashme: And the worst part in some cases is that they even get angry when you remember them that they have to pay Some friendships has been destroyed because someone is too greedy that he/she ask for money to his/her friend but never return it back. ALVARO

Hi craziest queen ever: I agree with you. In the end they will have to face with the consequences of their own actions. I guess some people are so accustomed to lie that for them it's so easy to promises things they know they won't do. They deliberately try to fool you and that's disgusting. ALVARO

Hi smile moon: I hope you make some really good efforts to keep your promises. Good luck with that and thanks for your answers. ALVARO