Throwing away other people's things...

Thanks for replying.. It doesn't matter that it's late. You have a great day too.. _Derek

Hi Derek_a, Your wife is lucky to have a husband who could tolerate her being a pack rat. My sister always tells me that I need to give up things too but it's really quite hard sometimes. I needed to muster up the courage and guts to give up my most important mementos, souvenirs and personal things. But it's not going to be a problem any more as my husband and I have made a compromise on a lot of things. Thank you so much for the comment. Sorry if this reply was a bit too late. Have a nice day to you and your wife too!

but of course, first you should try and reason with him. maybe you could hide your stuff as well.

Hello Cher my friend, At the time I found out about the incident, I felt resentment, deep anger and totally disgusted. But after giving it a mindful thought, I realized that there should be a reason that it happened. I also believe that it is common courtesy to your partner to check with him or her first before venturing into any action that may cause a rift between the two of you, so I never even in my wildest dreams would do something that could hurt him unless it would be something that could hurt our marriage like a picture maybe of some woman I don't know that had a dedication that could arouse my anger. I'll definitely throw it out after confronting him. I'm sure if I did throw that, he wouldn't dare confront me and he could not hold me in contempt otherwise he would only confirm my doubting instinct. Good thing it hasn't happened in our almost 25 years of being together. Because if it did, I doubt that we could even last this long. Throwing away my most treasured stuff is not enough reason for me to throw away a relationship that practically lasted half of my existence. Yes of course it did enrage me at some point but come to think of it, living happily in the present is more precious than living in remorse. After all, the memories I had with my parents will remain in my heart forever and no one can take that away from me. Thanks for your comment. Have a nice day! :)

Hi Anne25penn, Thank you for the comment. There are really some things people can't part with. I'm sure it's one heck of a job to clean but it is also difficult if you know you could do more but can't. Good day!

Hello Bunnybon7, It was such a luck for your son that you had to move in with him that he found out that he is with a person who may not be a good parter after all. I hope he finds someone who would respect you as his parent and be a good companion to you too that way you know that she is a person with good upbringing and character of integrity. Good luck and have a nice day!

Hello Sherrybelle, Thanks for the comment. You were right to say that it's really important to have your own personal space, and even how small our house is, we managed to keep our own personal spaces. Unfortunately, my daughter rummaged my old stack of bags where these important mementos were kept. Although my daughter asked for my permission, she failed to put back all the other bags back in place, that's when my husband noticed them. Anyway all is well now. I refuse to keep grudges and feel remorse because of that. My husband understands now that he has to keep off my personal things so that there won't be anymore problems in the future. Have a nice day!

Hello Jendean, Thank you for your frank and honest comment here. I did blow my top too when I learned he did that throwing of my stuff, luckily he was at work and I couldn't call him up just then. It was a blessing in disguise that I had the opportunity to mellow down but I did talk to him when he arrived. Somehow there were heated moments but it went well in the end. We had some good compromise and I wish it won't ever happen again. I don't want to live with someone I'll hate for the rest of my life. That would be unhealthy. I too am a sentimentalist and I would have felt the same way you did if it happened to me. I can't say if I can ever forget such an incident too but I wouldn't have known what could have happened afterwards if it did happen to me. Have a nice day!

Hi SomeCowgirl, Thanks for your response. Have a nice day!

Hi BabyBlaZe, Thank you for your response. We did a nice talk. Have a nice day!

Hi Porcospino, It's sad when others don't respect your private things. It's even worse if they don't respect you as a person as well that even after telling them you felt bad about their behaviour, they refuse to give your words any thought and repeated the same thing that troubles you. Sometimes it takes guts and a willful attitude to send your message accross. Otherwise, they will not listen and you'll end up not talking to them at all. I hope it doesn't happen that I won't want to talk to him anymore.

Hi Maezee, Thanks for your response. We share the same sentiments. It really is bothersome when things like these happen. I wish you well. Have a nice day!

Hello Randylovesdar, Good day and thanks for the comment. Sorry if this was way too late. I was so busy with finishing requirements for my daughter's school. As for now, we have resolved this issue. I also wish you'd get all your requirements back so you could do what have to be done for the social security claim. Best regards!

Hi SimplyD, Good day, thanks for the comment. Sorry if this was late. Have a nice day!

Hi Immortal, Thanks for your comment! It is truly upsetting but there's nothing else I could do. I decided to lighten up after all, I still have happy memories with my father that I could reminisce on. Have a nice day!

Yes Lynn, You are right to say that people who respect other people also respect the people and the things they love, hence throwing away things that belonged to them should not be a question but a fact that is a must not. Thanks for the response. Have a nice day!

Hi Sid556, Thanks for the reply. I agree with you 110%. It was such distressing to find out your most treasured of things even though they aren't worth anything monetary was thrown away without your knowledge. I wish I could retrieve them back. My father passed away in 2001 and these cards he gave me in my childhood had been kept for decades already. They were my most precious possessions. I didn't know how he stumbled into my treasure bag. I hated what he did but I just don't want to engage in any fight. I told him how I felt. He just apologized and promised to keep his guard next time but sadly he still couldn't bring those memories back.

Yes Beamer88, you are totally correct. I did talk to him but not on the same day I found out. I had to compose myself first otherwise, there would have been a real commotion. Glad I held back and had the chance to tell him what I really felt without jeopardizing a lot of things. Besides I don't like fights. Thanks for your reply. Have a nice day!

Hi Prudhvimech, Thanks for replying. It's quite disappointing how people would give no regard to other people's possessions and properties. I wish things would change somehow that he keep his word that he'll check out with me next time he finds something he thinks is worth the trash bin.