Single parenting

South Africa
March 8, 2012 12:52pm CST
Having been raised by mom alone, I cannot help but wonder if i will be depriving my kid with the security of growing up in an environment where there is mom and dad. I love my baby's daddy and he treats me well, but cannot get over the disappointment I went through when dad left us... Now, I know I am tough and can survive without a man beside me, but wouldn't that be doing my baby injustice. She is a year only old.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
9 Mar 12
I am wondering how come your baby's dad just left you? What happened to that? So if her father giving a support with your child?
• South Africa
9 Mar 12
My baby daddy never left Metatronik. We are engaged, for over a year now. He still wants to get married to me, I just dont know anymore now that we have a kid.
• South Africa
9 Mar 12
Thank you all so much for your responses guys, I promise I am going to consider how everyone of you has responded in making my decision. MyLot is the place to be.
@riempie9 (1021)
• South Africa
10 Jun 12
You will not be depriving your son because he will have all your love and attention. The most important thing for small children is the fear that their parents will leave them; it was my fear too as a child. Today parents are more educated about how to raise kids, and you are doing just fine. Tell him that he is safe... that mommy loves him.
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
learn to let go your disappointment bout your dad. its a poison and will make you unhappy as will your love ones. do you have a happy childhood? focus on that, you are still lucky to have your mom with you rather having a dad and mom growing up with unhappy memories. regarding your baby's situations, you only making injustice if her dad conveys his feelings that he wanted to be a part of you and your baby's life and you decline.if that is the case and you have a different reason that you did not mention here, just pray and ask guidance in making a decision that will change your life for the better. May God bless you.
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
Being a Single Parent is a TOUGH JOB. No one can ever beat that except mother or a father depends on the situation. Lucky i am, both my parents raised me when i was a kid but unfortunately when i was in second year high school something unexpected happen ruin our perfect figure. I belong now to the famous status in this generation-broken family. It wsnt so easy for me to accept it because one of my fave person will not be my saviour anymore :( but life goes on. you should keep the faith and fight for what you have. Everything happens for a reason and I know that God has a purpose. keep smiling! :)
@Lisona (177)
8 Mar 12
I raised 2 children single handed, I was never married due to my own insecurities, I always made sure that they still had their father in their lives, My parents divorced when I was a child and I reckon its the way we veiw what a relationship is by our parents, a cycle so to speak. Now I am in a very stable relationship,very happy,the children are happy, had no trouble or bother with them whats so ever. which I am surprised for teenagers hahaha. In fact I think children that have been raised single parent seem to be more mature for their age, but then are they having a childhood?..I would often question myself all the time about exactly what your saying. all I can say is don't make them grow up to quickly let them have a childhood..all will be good and I bet you are an awesome mum too :0)
• Canada
8 Mar 12
Every child deserves the best life that can be provided by those who love them. Just because the child took two people to create her doesn't mean they both love her. I believe raising a child as a single parent isn't a bad thing as there are some two parent homes that are horrible and that's no good for a child at all. Do your best and that's all she needs to feel. I am sure your family will love her as well so there is more love. You were raised by a single mom did you feel like you missed out on something?
• Lesotho
8 Mar 12
Every kid deserves to be brought up in a stable home. If you think that getting married will provide your kid with that, then I say, go for it, especially since you say you and your man love each other. I don't think you should project what happened to you over your kid's future.