Have you ever?

Yes, I can relate to your post. I have this friend for 18 years. I was always there for her - lend her money, visit her at the hospital, I am the godmother of her child, I was there when she needed a shoulder to cry on, I defend her to her detractors, I encourage her to be better, I cheer her when she's down. Now, we are no longer friends because I didn't like the idea of her having an affair outside her marriage. She ignores me when I call her attention about it & she even made me leave the company we are working in. She was involve with our boss who are also married. Right now, I don't know where the relationship led them.

Once yes and a couple of more times that I suspected something but it is hard to really prove that fact. You really do think that you know a person, but there are times where people do have an entirely different life away from you. Granted, people should and are entitled to your privacy. What they do on their own time is what they do, as long as it does not really effect you to say the very least, it wouldn't matter too much. At least not too much. Yet if it does come back, it is vaguely rather unsettling to an extent. There are times where people just really do live a double life and sometimes it is a small secret. But the skeletons in the closets of some people...boy there can be some doozies. And despite the fact you think you know a person, you are just going to never really know a person out there. completely. And it does really make you wonder about your other friends, what they might be hiding. That does change your life and not for the best.

i dont really get the last part of your post but anyway.. Yes, i used to have a close friend few years back. he knows one of my deepest darkest secrets and eventually he met my sister. They got involved and knew that he shared that secret with her. I got mad and we havent spoke in years. Then one day we met somewhere in our small town. I suddenly felt ok, kinda forgot what happened. We talked for a while that time but that was the last since cause i left town for good the next day. I didnt tell him about cause i thot it doesnt matter anymore. For me, the bond is no longer for the sharing and all that stuff.. He never heard of me after that though he kept on texting me but i refused to reply anymore.

Yes, I relate to your story..what saddens me is that I saw this friend in town today. At times I miss her, but I think we are better off apart. Too much damage has been done. I thought she had my back only to realise she was holding a dagger behind my back.