Do you like to get married?
By pramod_123
@pramod_123 (20)
March 9, 2012 7:29am CST
Many people like to get married, they wait for get married. I don't know why they wait and get dreams for marriages. I don't like to be married. I like to be alone till end of my life. I think we can live with out marriage also. If everyone stops marrying the population comes to 0 count. Actually i don't the positive points in married life. My friends they were happy before marriage, became dull after marriage, I asked them they said you will also know after getting married.
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12 responses
@harini23 (84)
• India
9 Mar 12
Many people like to get married because they will think that they will get a better partners and they want to spend their rest of life with them.But the actual thing is,Marriage will be colorful when we get a right person.Right person in the sense, he or she should match to our opinions and our requirements.If we wont get a right person means, marriage will be like a hell.They can't live happily.so in marriage there will be positive and negative also.we have to take right decision while choosing the partner i feel.
@pramod_123 (20)
•
9 Mar 12
As you said, in this billion people how can we select a suitable person to us. We can select correct person in love marriages because before marriage only we can know about the person but in arranged marriage we will know after marriage. In case arranged marriage they talk to us nicely, we can not find identify their behavior before marriage in a short period of time.
@harini23 (84)
• India
9 Mar 12
I agree with u that we cannot identify whether the person is correct or not if we see them at once in the case of arranged marriages.But everybody cannot fall in love.If anybody gets true love, That's their luck.But this luck will not come to all.
And in that case, they should go for arranged marriage only.And mostly arranged marriages were taken care of by parents.They will check whether that person's family is good or not.After checking their background only they proceed further.so there will be not much problem after marriage if we get good family.And nobody can't do anything if arranged marriage goes wrong,If our fate is not good.
@shynepapin101 (1879)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Mar 12
Pramod_123, I guess everybody has his or her own obligation to the world as a whole and to me I think marriage is one, but not in all cases have I heard of everybody getting married and being excited when married, there are exceptions that i have heard of, that is people who are still single and not wanting to get married.
There is also the possibility of the worlds population coming to 0 like the you said but I don't think that will eventually happen, because people are bound to be married and produce their own children. One other thing like you mentioned, your friends who became dull after getting married, I guess it's what they wanted, although with marriage comes more responsibility because you now have to take care of your family being the man and you are always lacking when it comes to having fun.
Being married puts your in a state where you have to work harder and earn more in other for your family to live a good life so definitely when you are looking for ways to make more money then you will have no time for fun.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
13 Mar 12
If there were no marriage Does not mean the population will go down to zero! Many kids are born without their parents even meeting! There are sperm banks and adoptions and many couples who will stay together without the marriage! I'm with you ! From an early age I knew I would have to choose between love Or marriage, I chose love!
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
If you asked me, the question would be "Do you like to get married again?" because I now have a wife and two kids. It's still posssible for me to get married again if my wife permited me to. Why not.
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
How old are you exactly?
If you are young, then it is expected that you would want to be alone or unmarried for the rest of your life. I was also like that when I was younger.
When I worked at the hospital, there was a lonely old patient left alone in her room. There wasn't anyone who is willing to stay 24/7 with her in the hospital and take care of her. She told us that it is important that we get married and have children, because being alone is a terrible thing. Being in that situation, being lonely is obviously unpleasant.
I'm not trying to oppose you. But I just hope that you know what comes with being alone your whole life or being unmarried.
The best thing we could do is find our true love who we can share a happy life with. Mind you, not all married lives are dull. It can be beautiful so you have to be open to that possibility.
But, there is no rush, right? Think it over.
Me, well, I don't wanna get married now but I am starting to think about how my life will be if i'm married to my current boyfriend. it's a pleasant thought, but i don't worry about that now.
people can change their minds, can't they?
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
you know,you can say that for now,after days,months or even years,,,,but there will be a time you will realize that youre too tired being alone in your life. i had also the same belief before that marriage or being married to someone feels like sucks,,,you couldnt decide because your partner is getting in the way,,,,yeah,also you two will clash again and again and it gives you feeling of regret,..but believe,having a married life is so fulfilling to every individual,,,there will be someone who will be by your side if you feel so tired,taking care of you.he/she will come to you because he knows youre having emotional.
if youre a man,you will hate a nagging wife...but as yourself,y u marry her in the first place?its because you love your wife..you can work on that...
i thought i would had my wedding months for now.but he chose to leave me without reason.i really want to be with him but i had never get a chance.he broke up with just a few days ago and felt the world was so cruel...it never gave us the chance...now,im still hoping theres someone who will love me and will stay with me always and forever...i want twins for god's sake?...how can i have my twins made with love if i will not allow myself to get married and have a simple life with them....being a parent is fulfilling..
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
not for now. Not even thinking of getting into it. I dont easily commit to something big or requires the whole me to be that involved.
When i was in college, i didnt have a boyfriend by choice. Because i thought i cant handle schooling and having a relationship.
If i want to get involved, even just for an affair, i should really/must be committed.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
9 Mar 12
I agree there is changing a lot in many cases people get married. They do get dull, men are no longer interested in their wifes (as soon as she is his wife), life is in many cases each day the same and their is less fun the longer you are married.
If the population will be 0 if everybody stops getting married I doubt. There is no reason to get married if you want children. There are more single mothers in this world as married ones.
I like my single life way more as the married life I had. I still like to be alone. I am married now again but my husband lives in Africa and I live in my own country. So actually I am still living a single life. He wanted to be married. It's important for him and his status. To me it's not.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
being married has a lot of responsibilities, being a wife, mother, and so on. It is great to have a partner and children beside us too but also it is a challenge to be a married person. I know that when i get married all these things I must take into consideration in making my decision, do i really want it? or am i ready to be committed to these responsibilities? these are really the questions. i think for now, it is best to be single, because then we are free to do whatever we want and feel like, to go wherever we wanna go. these things it's hard to do freely when we are married because we have responsibility to our partner and children. each and everyone of us has different views on marriage. you don't have to be married to be happy. being married is not always happiness because of responsibilities.
@mariab2000 (740)
• Canada
9 Mar 12
I think it depends on each individual and it is the choice of each person to get ot not get married in life. I have been married for a few years and I am very happy in my married life. I have someone special as my partner to share my feelings and happiness/sadness with him. We have many happy memories together and we want to share the rest of our life together. just being with each other makes us happy. However, not everyone has a happy marriage eperience so maybe the friends you talked to aren't happy with their marriage but just because they aren't happy doesn't mean you won't be happy either. It depends on finding the right person for you...
@vinodhkanna2005 (153)
• India
9 Mar 12
marriage is the essential thing in our life we have to do. Marriage will give happiness as well as fulfill to our life. By doing marriage we have many benefits like There is some one is there to take care of us on old age. There is someone there to share our happy and sad feelings. like that there are many benefits are there. If life is full of happy then the life is waste. We need to have both happy and sad. Without problem in life is waste. So, Marriage will give happy and sad both we can enjoy after marriage. so, dont feel we can live without marriage. If you do., then you will lose many good things in life to enjoy.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
9 Mar 12
As of the moment I do not like to get married.Because I have not found the person whom I am willing to spend my great and bad days as well as I am still unwilling to sacrifice a part of me to be able to please the other person. I do think that marriage is not for all, it will come if it comes and only those who are willing can succeed in this area. Your friends become dull after marriage, it is not because of marriage per say. It is because they of the trials that both of you will be facing, the compromises you made just to keep the marriage intact.