do you worry like i do when it comes to your better half?
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
March 9, 2012 9:28pm CST
Me and hubby got this conversation last night, i told him that i worry over him..lol
like when he is out at night with friends - i worry. like what if he met an accident..or some stupid guy starts shooting or something.. and the things like that. he said i am being paranoid. I said i cannot help it. I DO WORRY.
sometimes when he is out with friends, usually on a friday night and when it is a night out with his friends they really go home around 3 in the morning! I find myself not being able to sleep..or end up being awake by 1 am and thinking where is he...which i also get mad sometimes coz he often fail to send me a message on where he is!
so do you also worry like this? or you can sleep the night away without your husband?
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7 responses
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
10 Mar 12
I suppose worrying is 'essentially' a woman thing. In my opinion, being concerned about the welfare of your loveone is supposed to be a good thing, because that activity can be directly associated with the 'love' and the manifestation of its attributes. But worrying is not usually a good thing becuse you have no control over whatever you are worrying about.
Indeed, because of the vagaries and vices of the environment that your loveone has to live and work in, you (being the partner) would have reason to be concerned. However, it is expected that you should have some confidence in the decision making capabilities of your partner. In addition, it is expected that you should have already extablished a healthy degree/level of trust in your relationship with your partner, hence the 'insecurity' factor of your relationship should be either at a minimum or non existent!
If you trust your partner, and you are not insecure about love shared between you and your partner, I suggest that you may gently remind him to be careful whereever he/she goes, and go to sleep.
Worrying cannot change whatever may happen, or is destined to happen to your partner while being away from you. If -God forbid- should something happen (that is unexpected), being rested (physically and mentally) may allow you to be better able to make appropriate decisions.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
i do trust him, there is no question on that and i am secure of the love... i am more concerned on the other factors that surrounds him.. like the people around him, people who can do harm..and accidents..
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
10 Mar 12
Since you both have a great relationship, you have nothing to worry about. Love him, hug him and continue to show him you care, then go and sleep. Your love, and the power of your love will take care of him, and return him to you at nights, or wherever he goes. Stop worrying, as that (worrying about thing you cannot change) will not help either of you my dear.
@sanofer (525)
• India
11 Mar 12
it is women's nature to worry about her loved ones always. Even though they are safe,we always think about our loved ones and we always think about what they are doing now and did they eat anything and the list about worrying goes on. I an not married. But still i worry about my close friends and it is our nature and we cant change it.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
i guess it is in our nature to really worry. I do that..even with my kids i doooo worryyy a lot lol. hubby says i am paranoid but just cannot help it!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Mar 12
back when i had a husband i was the same way. problem is you are more worried because of what happened to your husbands friend. did they ever find out who killed the friend?
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
yes probably why i feel this way is because of that too.... the killer is still at large :(
@ifa225 (14460)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
Same here with me
not only hubby..i also worry about my kids if they come home late..many fantasy would hunt my head
but most of them..i am afraid of loosing them
i should try to get rid this paranoid..but i just cant help
maybe this things happen because we r women and love them very much
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
same. when i am at work, i always worry about my kids at home too.. i guess it is natural for us to feel that way
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 12
I do worry about my hubbys safety when he is gone. He doesn't go out at night like that though because neither of us feel comfortable with the other one staying out all night alone. Or with friends. This way there are no marital problems that come into play.
When he used to drive a cab at night though I was terrified all the time. It was terrible and I did have a very hard time sleeping with him gone.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
oh well.. me and hubby had this agreement that he can go out during friday night...hmmm but i guess worrying is still normal...
@citcit01 (4)
•
10 Mar 12
Have you been feeling i could feel like to my boyfriend, when he is busy and go back home over late night. I feel worry , i worry about his healt.But i lefting this worried on all day i think i'll be grazy.
On the word to much worred, we must trust about our lover. They have responsibility for what their doing.So , take out your worried make a women stronger.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
10 Mar 12
I do worry about my hubbys safety when he is gone. He doesn't go out at night like that though because neither of us feel comfortable with the other one staying out all night alone. Or with friends. This way there are no marital problems that come into play.
When he used to drive a cab at night though I was terrified all the time. It was terrible and I did have a very hard time sleeping with him gone.