How are you dealing with a current life change?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
March 10, 2012 1:02am CST
Some people are better with handling changes than others. Do you have any big life changes happening in your life? How are you dealing with it? For me I'm just working on some goals as far as a career is concerned. It will be difficult to get everything done but it will be worth it. I have to keep at it and do my best. Even if things don't work out the way I hoped at least I will have tried.
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11 responses
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
10 Mar 12
Life in China changes a lot in the past 30 years. To many of us, we are customed to a life with great changes all day, or change itself are our lives.
If there are no so many changes in the future, we may feel that something lost and uncomfortable. I am a person like new things and full of curiosity. Learning new things, finding new differences in my life is a way to happiness. While in daily life, coping with shifting events by sticking to a fundamental principle is my way.
@wqdayang (137)
• China
10 Mar 12
That's great.
Every day we are in the face of different situation,some of them are great changes and difficult to choose,for example,you are working in a good company and have a steady income,do you have enough encouragement to turn off the boss to get another job for higher salary?
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
@dandan07 I'm glad to hear that you like changes. Changes really does affect our life. We all hope for changes that are especially for our benefit and that of our family. Keep up the good work with all that you are doing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
@wqdayang I agree with you as well. There are at times different changes that we face on a regular basis. It is good for us to be able to handle these well. It would be harder for me to make that type of decision. I know I would have to think about it clearly and try to make the best decision that would benefit me and my family.
@tessa9 (1085)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
I will graduate at the end of April. I am now an apprentice in an office and I hate it lol. I thought it will be fun but they are working me like a cow. I know that I can't complain because I am an apprentice but sometimes I think they are abusing their power over me. They are giving all their task so they have nothing to do. There is only how many hours in the day and I always struggle to finish everything.
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@wqdayang (137)
• China
10 Mar 12
I don't think that's a bad thing.
As a apprentice,it is a chance to learn more,perhaps they are abusing their power over you,but that is a hidden rule,no matter you like or not.
If you tired of the job and get things botched,this will affect your work in the future,few employer will hire you.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I'm sorry to hear that you hate this job. And it would be awful to be so overworked. It makes it hard to enjoy the free time because your so tired. They probably are. I hope that time goes by so that you will be done with that program. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
@wqdayang I think that she will be fine. I'm sure that she is being overworked. At programs like that they do take advantage of those who are learning there. It saves them a lot of money and time. Once she is done she will be able to decide where she wants to go. I'm sure that she will work hard where ever she is. She's just being overworked and that makes everyone tired.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
My life is going to the worst now and I am just living by the day. I usually know how to handle this situation as I have been in this case for so many times, but now seems to be really different because I have ran out of options. I'm still striving to make things work but it will still remain to be seen where all will go. I do hope and pray that I will survive this again.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I'm sorry to hear that your life is so hard right now. I know exactly what it feels like to have those feelings. At times I have felt like I could only take things by the hour not even think about the next day.Just making it hour by hour.I hope that things improve for you. It can be very difficult having to deal with things in life when we are having such a hard time.
@preethaanju (3000)
• India
10 Mar 12
Change is sure to happen and we must all accept this reality.Whehter we like change to happen or not it will.So its always good to be mentally prepared.But its easy said than done. Most people,as per me a good 75% of humans are averse to change,whether it be positive,leave alone negative. We are so much used to a routine lifestyle that even the most minute change creates uneasiness in us.But a sa famous motivational quote says'i am willing to work outside my comfort zone'sums it all.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Yes I agree with you. Changes are always taking place. Things will change with or without our approval. I agree that at times we get set in our lifestyle and when changes happen it throws a lot of us around. But we've got to learn to deal with it in a good way. And continue to move forward with our life.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
12 Mar 12
No really big changes as of late with my life. In fact my life has become mostly peaceful to say the very least with no really huge upheaval in it. Of course, that really doesn't matter, as it can be an extended calm before a really big storm. Change could be right around the corner, sooner than I really think. Sooner than many of us do in fact think. Life is just really going to be all about changes and all about how we deal with them after all.
In the past, when change hit me, sometimes I braced myself for it. Other times, it just struck me and caught me completely and utterly off guard. Still it doesn't really matter how much it catches me off guard. It is really how I deal with change right in the end. And that is the true measure of everything, the true measure of success. How well can or will I deal with change? I think that in the end, I manage to adjust over time. But I have to change somewhat at times to go along with the change.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 May 12
Glad that your life has been peaceful. That is a great thing. I look forward to the time when my life is more peaceful. It hasn't been that way for a while now :). I hope that things continue to stay that way for you. Yeah we've to do our best to adjust to the changes that happen in our life.
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
I admire you for making a decision to handle changes with the best you can, and trying to venture into something different. It may not work all the time the way we want it to be but I know that there's a feeling of satisfaction because you've given your best. As of now, I'm dealing with a very important business matter and it's a new change for me. I believe that success will happen to those who are doing what it takes to be successful and never quitting. Keep up and I hope to know that you succeeded in what you plan to do, knowing that God is good all the time. Have a great day ahead.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 May 12
I agree with you. We do feel good about giving our best even if it doesn't work out. Then we know we have tried to the best of our ability and we are proud of ourselves because of that. Yeah I agree that we have to keep trying. Quitters never win. So we've got to keep working towards our goals even if it requires some adjustments along the way.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
10 Mar 12
i actually dont mind change. i guess i tend to get bored easily so i find most changes good. our oldest daughter is making plans to move away and go to college in the fall so that will be a big change to the family for sure. (we have one other younger daughter.)
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
That is a good thing. It's nice to be able to just go with things when there is a change. I've kind of got my comfort zone and just like to stay comfortably there :). I don't have to hard of a time with change though. I try to be flexible. Your daughter moving away will be a definitely big change. I hope that you and your family are able to spend as much time with her before she has to move.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 12
I just resigned from my job a couple of months ago and start my own business. Since I am my own boss, my mom take it as having lots of extra time and earn huge amount of money daily. Sorry mom, it don't work that way. I need to tell her I earn enough to pay bills and buy food. The business was just beginning. The journey is still long. I need to be fully committed to it to ensure it succeed.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Yes I agree with you. Starting your own business takes a lot of time and work. You definitely have to be committed to it for it to work. I hope that it improves and gets better for you. We all wish that our jobs could make us a substantial amount of money overnight but your right it doesn't work that way. I'm trying to do new things online hoping to earn more. It makes me nervous as I know I need to keep up a certain percentage to keep the type of work that I'm doing.When I fall behind I get nervous. So when we step out of our comfort zone we do have to keep a close eye on what we are doing and how we are doing it. That way we able to do well.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Good day Dominique25,
To tell you honestly, I am in the process of changed. As I am adjusting my means of living. Before, I was living under the same roof with my mother, sisters, brother and sister-in-law. That we are living under one roof. But, things have turned into another phase and I have decided to move out and rent a space in my bestfriend's home. So, I am now in the process of changes. And dealing with this is not as easy as it is. But, I am entrusting God is with me in every detail of my life.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Moving after living with your family will definitely be a change. That is good that you are going to be living with your best friend. I hope that things work out smoothly for you. And that living with your best friend will be good for the both of you. Thanks for sharing your experience with me.
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
7 Apr 12
hi, i like that discussion, have to say that when its time to think of the lossing my job, that i search now for another, but im happy not worried becasue i believe in god and know that i will find one when its time, so im not angry besie i like now spend time online on sites like these
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 May 12
I hope that you have found a job that you like. Finding a job can be tough in the economy that we are living. I also hope that your online work is continuing to help you earn a little extra.
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
At the moment there is no big one in my life but I am anticipating a big change maybe next year. I am working hard and planning to have a change of work place. I am starting to gather my requirements for working outside my country. Now, my heart is always beating fast and I have that fear feeling lingering on me and doubts too. What if I will not be successful there?Will I able to adapt to the culture, the workplace and the people? So many questions but I will not have the answers until I get there. But I do adapt well with the changes once I get used to it. It is just that it is my first major leap. :( But I am trying my best to do mind conditioning that everything will be alright and God will always be there for me. Thy will be done as I do my best all the time.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Changing a work place is a huge change. After we've been somewhere for a time we get comfortable. We know how much we are going to make and when. We typically get along with most of the people we work with. So switching all that is like starting all over with new people and a new place. It's definitely a change.And you are going to be working outside your country as well.I too hope that it all works out very well for you.