How do you cope with shyness?

So am I.When I was a little child, I was too shy to express myself. And then when I grow up, I have to express myself to gain a good opportunity to work or other important things . Gradually , I can speak loudly in front of others.

I was very shy when I was younger. I didn't talk in a group and I didn't initiate a conversation with people I didn't know. I tried hard to change that, but it didn't work, and my shyness remained a problem. One day I got my first job in a home health care team in my town and something happened. I didn't try to get rid of my shyness, but suddenly I discovered that I was good at talking to the people that I met in my work. I didn't have to force myself to talk to them or initiate a conversation I just did it and it wasn't hard for me at all. It was a strange feeling because I had always believed that I couldn't do that, but suddenly it happened naturally...

There is a lot more going on with shy people then one might think. How they choose to interact with people is really their own dealing. I'm not going to coax someone into conversation and I wouldn't want anyone to coax me into conversation if the situation had been reversed. There are just some people who are just going to be rather shy or reserved or just don't really feel any connection to the people around them, where they are going to be drawn out of their shell to say the least. Of course, shyness could be a front, because people have been burned before. In reality, they are studying you, assessing you in some cases. Trying to really figure you out. There is really no dealing with them. Whether they are shy because they are, or shy for a moment while they are assessing the situation, trying to figure out if you are really someone that they want to interact with, that point is irrevalant right at the moment. As someone who has done this in the past, I understand and there are times where shyness is a necessity as a survival mechanism.

I am a very shy person, even until now..I don't know why I am like this.. I tried hard to overcome this attitude but it just keeps coming back. It's really hard to be shy- it's like a burden.

I was as a kid, mostly hide. I still don't feel comfortable with other people, not in crowds or at market places. But I do say what is in my mind or is important to me. I had hard lessons in my life, very hard ones. One of them is that if you don't show yourself, everybody will forget about you or they think they can do with you what they like. Also with children you have to protect them and do what is good for them. So you have to open up your mouth. I also tell myself that I am an adult now, I have the right to speak and their is nothing that can happen to me. Most people don't observe you anyway and if it's important to me I write down first what I want to say so I can read it if necessary.

I love singing, but too shy to sing in front of others. Then I joined univ.choir after very impressed by choir performance on my 1st day in university. Hang around with them give me more braveness, little by little, now Im not that shy to sing. Hang around with others who have self confidence really affect me, seems like they got me influence, and I like that.

I have been shy before and still am to a certain degree but not to a point where it made me ill. I over came it by becoming more self confident. If you feel good about yourself then it will be easier to interact with other people. what I did to gain more self confidence was to take better care of myself and made sure that i hang out with people who are their to support me and not their to put me down. It is nice to give constructive criticism but their is a difference between that and by just giving insults.

i'm a shy type of person no matter how i tried not be or at least show up sometimes but nothing happens my attitude of being a shy person still prevail. there are times that i could feel like my tongue is being cut. hahaha! but i never stop trying not to be shy. i took this as a challenge. :)

It sounds like if you get ill from being shy....then maybe you could have aniexty. A person should see a therapist to help you gain skills to break out of your shell. If not a therapist get a self help book from library. Take baby steps and dont get your self overwelmed.