why it's always me?

Philippines
March 10, 2012 1:48am CST
everytime there is a small problem here in the office like losing the internet connection, the hiding of the remote control of the air conditioner my colleagues always push me to tell our boss or send him message in his ym. why they can't do it on their own? they also have his number and ym. have you experience about the same?? how do you deal with it? i don't want to offend them if i'll tell them "hey why don't you do it on your own".
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
As long as they see that somebody is willing to do it for them, they will take advantage of that. Try saying no to them and see what happens. It will be difficult at first but they will have to do it all the same.
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
You can tell them nicely that you don't feel like doing that and that maybe they should try doing it themselves.
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
if i do that, would not they be offended or something?
@harini23 (84)
• India
10 Mar 12
Ya.I also faced same situations like u.But sometimes we can take it lite. But sometimes we cant.I used to get angry sometimes.But if we control that angry for 5minutes after then we feel like its a silly point.And we may also think that we are better than them, that is the reason those people are asking us to do those things.
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• Philippines
10 Mar 12
i just ignore their big mouth but sometimes it annoys me. they're better than me i can see it. hehehe. maybe they think that i'm the in charge or something cause i've been here for almost a year. do you think that could also be the reason???
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
you said it right binggaling. i thumbs up on you. hopefully they can do things on their own especially if i'm not around for some important matters...
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
I haven't been in a situation like this. But it does seem frustrating if colleagues are too lazy to act on things on their own. I think they're taking advantage that you don't mind doing it. This is some twisted form of delegation. I think you should tell them to do it themselves since if you don't, this would only continue. But tell them in a professional manner. They might even respect you for doing this.
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
thanks beamer :) i must learn to express what i feel and saying no might be my first step. :)
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
10 Mar 12
They don't do it because till today you keep doing it. So if you refuse say NO they have to do it. So it's you who gave them the idea you will always go over to tell the bad news.
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
so what will i do?? i mean maybe they want me to do it because i've been here for a long time?
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
I tend to be the person like you. My friends would oftentimes tell me to represent or talk to the general manager on behalf of the team on any concern. Maybe because I'm the type of person who applies "straight talk". What I mean is that I'm a straightforward person so if something's bothering me, I immediately approach and talk to the person involved. So, talking on behalf of the team is okay with me. But there are times when I do not agree with their statements/complaints. What I normally do is to tell them frankly that I can not do it. I will cite the reasons why. Since we're professionals, I get no problem on rejecting their requests... Perhaps you can do the same thing too.
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Do not be a pushover. That is what I can suggest for you to do. I have experienced the same thing and it stopped when I had a talk with my colleagues. If you do not want to talk with them, the next time it happens, try to push someone else to do it instead.
• Philippines
15 Jun 12
i asked them to do things before they asked me to do it for them . but i always asked them with please.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 12
I have the same problem before back when at my last work. I used to work with my boss more than others so they tend to ask me to tell him whenever something come up. Even to ask the boss to sign their leave, they still met me to do that. It's annoying. So I had enough and then whenever someone asked me again, I setup the meeting, I asked that person to come and then tell my boss, "He wanted me to tell you that he want you to sign his leave." Eventually they stopped asking.
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
10 Mar 12
I think in every office there is usually one person the other office workers deem as their spokesperson to the boss. It's like at school the kids pick one person to talk to the teacher about things. Anyway, if you don't to be the spokesperson then you have to tell your co-workers how you feel, you have rights and feelings too. If you get positive results from being the spokesperson than maybe you are the right person the others chose. Good luck with it, my lot, friend!
• Indonesia
10 Mar 12
almost like you, my workmates always ask me to tell boss when they have something for her to know. But I never get it as something that annoy me. It means that my friend think that they can bank on me, and it makes me closer to boss as well. I m not nervous or feel afraid of talking or having conversation with her. I feel lucky cos by that my boss also trust me for bigger responsible.
• Philippines
10 Mar 12
You could probably find better words to say in expressing how you feel. It's always nice to letting your feelings out because it will lessen the weigh you're carrying. If I would be in the position, I would probably speak out. I might speak to a person or two in a closed room meeting. Just be frank, tell 'em , I feel flattered sometimes that you're entitling me to speak up for everybody and it feels good to help you guys anyway... But as frequent as it happens, the more I get uncomfortable in doing the task of talking to our boss all the time. I hope you could do it by yourself because I'm really getting uncomfortable being the only one who sends him messages even for the slightest problem we have. I can't focus too with what I'm working on because I need to attend to your needs. I hope that you understand my sentiments. Let's help each other, okay? (then take a bow...lol! just kidding!) You can try saying something like this. It's calm and respectful. I hope they'll listen. Hope this helps! Good luck!