are you possessive?

I guess in everything, overdoing it is also not good. It's good to be a possessive person sometimes because your concern is always focus on the person you love and make an effort to make the relationship smooth. But there are instances that we became domineering to the point that they feel suffocated which could cause misunderstanding. We all have our own identity so we must at least respect that.

me personally not in the slightest possessive towards my partner, I know how it feels being on the recieving end of possessiveness....wow long word for me @ 9.30pm...lol We are born free souls, in a way should stay that way, but have consideration for those around you. We only say these things to our partner out of caring for them, but too much we smother.

I am a possessive person. Some people like possessive people. My husband never seems to complain. The crazy thing about dating someone is possessive is when they stop being possessive over you then something it probably wrong lol. I am possessive to a degree and I do try to pull back. My husband is also possessive (but not as possessive as me) so I think we just speak the same crazy language.

I don't think you are saying these things because you are concerned. You say it because you are posessive or dominant. You like to set the rules. This has nothing to do with being concerned or love someone. If you love someone you do what is best for that person, you let that person have his/her own life experiences, you trust that person so there is no need to check/control or think he/she will leave you for someone else one day. I am not possessive, I don't check out my husband (although I only know men who did that to me and so is my husband if we are together). What you have to realize is that if you stay that way sooner or later all the (love) feelings for you will be gone and the only one you can blame for that is yourself. I tried to explain this to my husband too. Since he loves to hang around with his friends whenever he likes.

Yes, I am. I guess it goes with showing that you love the person you are with, but over the years I have matured..especially after having a baby. I think having a baby kind of assured me that he is mine, so the possessiveness have kind of gone down.

Ya i am also possessive.But not in the case of partner in the case of all like friends,family etc.For example i have a best friend.And i will think that he should give priority to me only first then only to others.Even me, I will give priority to him only.In the case of family also,My parents should give priority to me only first than to others.I know, my thinking not good.But what to do..I am the person like that only.

I don't really control my boyfriend. Both of our line of work require us to communicate with others, a lot. If I told him not to talk to them, he'll be out of work and so will I if he did the same. I trust him and willing to let him be with others. He also knew I don't attract easily so don't try to be too possessive as that will only make me feel suffocated.

with reference to your post, i consider myself a possessive a partner. however, my possessiveness only goes out to a certain person. that i do not know why i am very jealous when this lady is always around. that, according to my partner, this lady is just her friend but, i always feel annoy whenever that lady is always in our home before.

hi there, i think, i must say, i am not possessive and i am also not a jealous type of girlfriend. i let my boyfriend hang out with other people, meet new friends, and go on a boys night out. he used to be possessive of me before and i did not like it. but i understand because it is our first relationship. like we are each others first boyfriend and girlfriend just try not to be possessive, just let her know that you care for her and you love her and try to talk to her about your feelings more often. good luck and happy mylotting

I am not possessive, i think so. After reading your discussion i texted my boyfriend to know/to make sure. One thing i know is that my boyfriend is very much possessive, he's working abroad and if im out with friends even in malls and it's only 4:00pm he'll freak out, keep calling me. Oh my he wants me to stay at home..I feel bored and just want to fresh up. He got jealous and wants to break up with me at the end of the day we'll be talking in skype and I wont hear anything from him. Just so cute of him sometimes, I don't feel bad in it. I just think he loves me so much..

Yes i am possessive about every matter. I thing it is good.

When I was at college I have a boyfriend who was very possessive. It wasn't fun at all and drove me crazy. I lost a lot of close friends because of him. I ended up hate him until now, it was over 12 years ago.

Yes, I am because I want lose my love. Love is such difficult thing when we hold it tight it's gonna break, but when we hold it loosely it's gonna run and comes to the end...,

I am not possessive but my boyfriend was. He's my first boyfriend and during our first 3 months together, I didn't really know how to be in a relationship, funny right? So, when he started telling me the things that I can and I can not do, it freaked me out. I felt like suffocating. But then, he tried to explain to me his reasons for doing such thing. At first, I understood that he's only doing it for my own good and that he's just trying to protect me, so I followed his rules. But, later on, I realized that I am not happy anymore. I could not do the things that I love, couldn't even wear the clothes I like and it's even harder to make new friends, especially if its a guy. I had to report to him every single detail of me, from what i wear to what i do or say. It's really not a good feeling. I believed I enter this relationship to be happy in love and being together, but his possessiveness told me otherwise. I never did the same thing to him though. I want him to be himself, do whatever he likes, as long as its not harmful to him, to anybody or to our relationship, because that way I can get to know him very well. I can trust him more and more. So, I hope, guys could do the same thing. Let your girl be herself and discover how beautiful she is, in her own ways. TRUST and RESPECT is the most important thing in a relationship, invest a lot of it. Show your partner your love and concern by respecting her opinions and trusting her to do the things on her own ways. I told my boyfriend about how I felt about his possessiveness, he did understand me and now we're even more happy than ever.

i'm also a bit possessive..but i always control my possessiveness..i always make sure that my partner and i meet half way on the do's and dont's.. too much of it really kills a relationship..because when you hold something too much, it'll find way to find some space to breathe..so take it easy on your being possessive..

I used to be possessive, but I realized that it was not good and it didn't help on our relationship.