Different religious beliefs in marriage?
By manaleli101
@manaleli101 (146)
South Africa
18 responses
@joremcute (28)
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22 Aug 12
The bible says that we should not yoke unbelievers because it will be the cause of your problems
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
12 Mar 12
The Christian bible states that a house divided against itself cannot stand. When a person marries someone of another religion and there is no friction, one or maybe both of them is not strong in their faith.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
11 Mar 12
My take is, unless one is not serious about their faith, it can cause problems. I am in such a relationship, (because we thought we believed the same, but now we don't) and it is very frustrating. Our schedules never parallel, we disagree on how to raise our child, and when I work, he is worshiping and vice versa, so this means that when I need help with some heavy cleaning or moving, I am on my own..It's like we live two different lives, we are not one..
@AidaLily (1450)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I don't think "religion" should play a factor in any marriage since it all depends on the person "teaching" at that particular church. There are people who go to churches in the same religion and get different aspects of it.
With that said, I think if one person is far too into the "religion" rather than able to believe in God without "religion", and someone else is spiritual but doesn't believe in "religion" but rather just believes in knowing God on their own... I think that would cause major issues in marriage. Especially if the person who needs to be led by "religion" tries to convert the other person.
I don't think mixing them makes a difference. Since almost every religion whether Judaism, Catholicism, Islam, etc. all have parts in their 'holy' books that are in reference to the other religions, its not really a compromise in the relationship until it comes down to HOW you worship.
@sweetneko (51)
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11 Mar 12
I think taht it dipend of several things:
Are you really sure to love the person that are you getting married with?
That new religion (for you) will remove you some rights?
I think that if you have the answer at this question, you know which is the better choise.
@Simon1223 (903)
• China
11 Mar 12
In my view, it will be more likely to cause problems if people have different religious beliefs get married, especially if there's teaching conflicts between their beliefs. People who believe in a religion should make their life style according to the teaching. Conflicts may occur due to different life styles and will gradually influence the feeling between the couples. So if it is possible, we'd better choose the partner who has the same belief.
@CatrionaLeslie (20)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
Religion has always been a sensitive subject. I do not think that it is a good idea to be married to someone who belongs to a different religion. The beliefs, rituals and traditions of one's religion, play an important role during family life. If couples have different religions, they may have issues with how a wedding should take place, circumcision of a baby boy and what and what not to eat.
@Newyorker06 (79)
• United States
11 Mar 12
It can work out if both parties discuss it before they get married say one is Jewish and the other catholic. They have to decide if the child will have a bar/bat mitzvah, communion or both.Things like that have to be decided before marriage and before kids. It is completely possible for both religions to live together in a marriage the key like any othere marriage is to communicate with one another.
@TheIrishClog (985)
• Ireland
11 Mar 12
I know a number of people in mixed-religion marriages (both always Christian) and most don't have any problems.
One couple I do know of that have always had and probably always will have problems are my parents. Mum is Presbyterian, dad is Catholic. Mum is very open to these things, dad is more pig-headed if you will. I never understood how they thought it was going to work or perhaps it was overlooked when they were still madly in love and in the honeymoon phase of their relationship. There have been so many fights over church/mass/Sunday school etc. in our house that I lost count over the years. It was horrible.
They still love each other and are still together, but this still causes issues. If it was going to cause that many problems I couldn't stick it. This is why organised religion holds no strength for me. I am Christian, but I don't consider myself a church-goer or anything of the sorts.
My man is Catholic, but not practicing and I am Presbyterian in baptism and upbringing, though I attended a Catholic school. I don't foresee it causing any problems as neither of us are into organised religion as such.
@harini23 (84)
• India
11 Mar 12
In the case of arranged marriages parents will not do marriage from different regions.Parents will play a big role in arranged marriage so mostly marry somebody from different region is not possible in the case of arranged marriages.but if we love somebody from different region then definitely we can go for it.
@jamesgreenhalgh1 (29)
• Canada
11 Mar 12
This is a problem we have at our church.
Scriptuly it is important to be evenly yoked so that you both have the same goals and aspirations to live in harmony.
I have seen a few relationships fail because they had different goals, principles, and beliefs.Hope this helps and sorry if it offends some people, but thats what it says in the bible and I believe it.
All the best regards James
@citcit01 (4)
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11 Mar 12
I have a relationship for more two years with some one who different religious.The country when i live this a big mistake, the country law not allow the people who diffrent religions to get married. This is a big problem but take this risk. Though my parent, neighbourd, friends never like this relationship. One day i still want to get married in spite different religious, for me a different religious not a big deal. Love knows no difference, but it is distinction united by love.
I sure we can live harmoniously when we appreaciate each other and believe Gods is only one. So never surrender, love can give you a power.
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
10 Mar 12
I think it depends how the two people concerned love each other, do they love each other to eother one changes to others religion or can the two compromise enough not to make either religion more important than their love. It can work so long as each person within the marriage makes the marfriage no.1
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
10 Mar 12
It might, it might not. I think it de3pends on how serious each of them are about their religion. I think it's important for the two to live together in an apartment longer than most couples, maybe at least a year. Very important to have conversations about it.
@urbandekay (18278)
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10 Mar 12
I think it might be easier to marry an atheist than a person of another faith
all the best urban
@ymitchell42 (79)
• United States
10 Mar 12
There is a problem when you marry those of different beliefs. In order for things to go well in your marriage you must be on One Accord and in line with a vision you have for your family. The problem is instead of being a Christian which is not a religious preference there are so many different types of religion. It seems to be a tradition and the only tradition that is in the Bible is the Last Supper. I believe it will cause problems and break families up. What do you tell your children if you have different beliefs? You have to have one belief and agree on that in order to be Blessed in a marriage.