I had this dream
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
United States
March 11, 2012 5:10am CST
I normally don’t remember my dreams but this time I did. My dream was so sad that it woke me up. It has two parts and maybe more than one layer to a part… maybe. I need to write it all down before I forget it, and then maybe some of you can help me figure it out.
Part 1 of the dream:
There were people I owed money to who were knocking at my door to get paid. I mean they were coming out of the wood work! I didn’t have any money so I paid them by giving away my silverware. The knives, spoons and forks all had the same value. I gave some people more silverware than others, but I don’t know how much money that was meant to be now. I think I knew in the dream, but I don’t know now.
One person was my minister friend who had given me shoes and clothes to wear when I had nothing decent to wear to church. She bought me a pair of SAS shoes that lasted me for more than 5 years… anyway she came knocking also demanding money for the things she has done. She said God only helps with spiritual things and not in reality, and she wanted to get paid for the help she had given me over the years.
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Part 2 of the dream:[/b]
The next part of the dream was that my Ex husband came to me. Apparently he must have been staying with me. I had tried to call him about having to give people silverware to pay them, and he was staying with me or just showed up… I’m not sure, but it felt like he was staying with me because I was fixing to feed him and I was telling him that I had very little silverware left to eat with because I had given it all away to pay people what I owed them.
There was another layer to this part of the dream. There were 2 young kids about 10 or 12 in the dream. They were just there, and then there was an attractive young woman, and my ex husband told me he was marrying her. Apparently he was staying with me so he could not stay at her house before they were married. I’m only guessing that part, because that is what it felt like.
Here is yet another layer… I was embarrassed that the woman saw me crying. I felt like I had to explain the reason I was crying… not because he was marrying her, but because everyone was coming to me with their hands out for payment and I had to give them my eating utensils because I had nothing else to give.
The main element of the dream is giving away my silverware for payment. There were people coming to me for payment that I didn't even owe... like the guy and girl from Lizard lick Towing on TV.. I watched that series until I went to sleep.
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I think this was an essential part too: [/b]
Then my minister friend also came demanding money from me for things she had done in the name of the Lord... this sort of surprised me because what we do in the name of the Lord to bless people, we don't keep track of to ask for repayment... God blesses us when we give. I always gave from my heart and never asked to be repaid... this was all in the dream as an undercurrent, but it was unspoken.
I have my own thoughts of what the dream means, but I would like to know what other people think.
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7 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Mar 12
your dream is very easy, it is a mishmash of things that have been on your mind which is very common, the most common type of dream.
You are worried about paying your bills in real life, silver represents something of value, so that is what you used to pay them. Your recently wrote to you x on facebook that is why he is in the dream, and the show you watched before you fell asleep was in the dream, this is a very common dream.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
12 Mar 12
the connection with the tow truck is you have been wanting a car for a long time but you can't afford one so that is why it fit so easy in that dream
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I only paid one bill this month, so I will have to juggle better next month… these hospital bills are crazy… that’s why I don’t like going to the hospital even when they were afraid I was having a stroke… I have these bills afterwards. It seemed so natural that the guy and girl from Lizard Lick Towing was in my dream and wanting money… I guess they must have repoed a car I don’t have…lol!
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@derek_a (10874)
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11 Mar 12
. To me this seems like a karmic dream. As a Zen practitioner, I see karma as something that we create every day in every moment. Some karma is good, some not so good, some just bad. Some karma may be trivial from a conscious point of view, some not so trivia. But from a subconscious point of view, trivial and non-trivial can get mixed up depending on our past experiences.
At a subconscious level, we are our own judges and how we judge also depends on our life experiences that have moulded our sense of right/wrong. Guilt can come up for anything, and because the subconscious does not reason, we can see failure as something to be judged and feel guilt about not winning, not getting it right, not paying attention and so on. We can see the karma (debts) we need to pay based on our past conditioning of what it right and wrong. The subconscious can hold an opinion that something is wrong from way back in our childhood, until it becomes conscious in the here and now, and then if it is no longer considered wrong can let go of it and we can experience a form of "forgiveness", completion or closure.
Dreams are a path to the subconscious, and in the workshops I have led in my own groups, we discovered that each element of a dream is a part of our conditioned character. Which when remembered can be reflected upon and become completed (forgiven/closed).
In the group we used to work on each element of the dream until links were made with the dreamer's past and subjected to present day awareness - re-experienced and finished with so that the individual could free up any internal conflicts. Some conflicts were strong and emotional, others were just interesting. All tended to be very revealing. The dreamer is the only person who can interpret his/her own dreams. Communication is a form of externalising the internal conflicts, thus bringing resolution. This can be done by writing or verbally communicating.
I have found dreams fascinating in my work in the way that they have the potential to enhance potential. 
_Derek
_Derek
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Hi Derek_a,
First, Derek, I want to thank you for being my first responder, and I also want to say that I appreciate your thoughts and beliefs here. I had some thoughts while writing my dream down last night… like mistakes made in my life, and wishing I could make different choices. I think most of us can say that we could have made better choices in some areas of our lives. It does help to rethink things and deal with them in life. I’ve been doing a great deal of that to overcome the hurts that have occurred to me in my past from my childhood years to adulthood.
However, I believe more in symbolism of dreams… like something that seems bad and upsetting may not even be what it looks like on the surface. I also believe that different things in the dream are all reflections of the house… like the other people in the dream are different reflections of the self. I will reveal more of what I believe about this dream as the discussion advances.
@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Hi, PQ, I am not real good with the meanings of dreams, but just from knowing you here and reading your discussions I see that you are willing to pay your way, or pay your debt, regardless of what it takes, even if it requires you to part with your silverware. or whatever it is that you own.
You know that you have been blessed, and you know that you have nothing with which to repay God, and that is why it seems so impossible that the preacher expects you to pay her. Maybe you are worried about her having her needs met.
Your ex is someone that you wish could move on, re marry or start a new life somehow, but you two are still tied together. You cry because that tie will always be there, you have a daughter together.
As for people that you do not even owe, well sometimes we get bullied and we begin to feel like we owe everyone.
On the other hand, as in A Christmas Carol, it may be that we should say that your dreams may be a bit of indigestion. Something you ate too close to going to bed is haunting you by making you uncomfortable in your dream.
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
12 Mar 12
One of the worst nightmares I ever had in my life I had eaten a huge garlic dill pickle my grandmother had made. I took a scene from a book I had been reading and began to live in it with a few twists ala Edgar Allan Poe thrown in. You know, I need to go back and read the book, and see if what I dreamed was really in it, that was over forty years ago. . . and the book was The Sword in the Stone, but as I said it had a rather Poe twist to it.
I do know that we work on our day to day issues in our dreams, and I appreciate your BR.
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I live your response here. I granted you the BR. I do sometimes eat before going to bed. I try not to but I think I did before this dream. I am the kind if person who has an ethic to pay my bills. It does get hard. This month I could only pay one bill and my life insurance.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
11 Mar 12
poor girl. it sounds like a terrible night nare. so i guess you figure silverware is all you have left worth money
its quite sad. you must worry a lot about such things. its depression causing this im sure. i know how you feel. living with your kids and not having much. 
how did we get here?@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Hi Bun,
I’m glad I’m not feeling the depression much anymore. I stay busy in the house, and I’ve picked up the habit of ironing. I used to hate ironing and now I find it very therapeutic. I do have a conversion disorder so my depression, stress and anxiety converts to the inability to talk. Ironing seems to help me.
Yes, my feeling was that I have lost so much and I was giving the last thing I had of value away for a good purpose… to get rid of any debt that I owed. I had a sense of relief when I woke up even though I was crying in my dream.
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@ecaron (678)
• Canada
11 Mar 12
I am no expert when it comes to dreams and I usually don't remember mine either except the bad ones sometimes. I think perhaps yours is to do with feeling guilty about getting help when you needed it but that really is nothing to feel guilty about, I have asked for help before especially when I was a single parent and needed food from the food bank or money from social services, I worked a full time job but still couldn't make ends meet sometimes. I usually felt a little embarrassed or ashamed but I soon got over it when my kids were taken care of a little better. Maybe, your dream is telling you that the silverware is something of value and if you have things of value then you could afford other things too. Anyway, it's an interesting dreams and I do think they try to tell us something but if we don't figure it out, that's o.k. because in real life we can figure things out better. Have a good day, MY Lot, friend!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
11 Mar 12
Hi Ecaron,
I appreciate your thoughts here. I’ve been in a bad place before that is for sure. I work hard to earn the extra money I need to get by each month. I see the times when people have helped me as blessings from God, so I wouldn’t be ashamed or feel guilty about it. In fact, the help may have been an answer to a prayer.. which has happened in real life. I’ve tried to refuse the gifts to me out of pride and I’ve been told I can’t refuse because they won’t get their blessing. It would actually hurt them for me to refuse. It is a blessing to them and also to me. It makes me feel good to give back sometimes when I am able. I work hard writing to earn a living that helps supplement my pension.
I think of the silverware more as a symbol. I feel it can represent different things. For instance, silver can represent worry, and it can also be a symbol for more tangible things… and giving away silver can represent gain or losing personal property. I used to watch dream interpretations on Discovery or one of those channels… I don’t think it is on anymore.
In fact, the silverware might not have actually been silver. I have lots of table ware that I just call silverware. But in my dream it might have been real silver.. I don’t know because it is just a generic term I use.
I don’t take the dreams I have as literal because they are so jumbled up. I feel that the symbols may represent something to do with me or my life in general. I also take into consideration the general mood of the dream and try to make sense of it… but sometimes it just doesn’t make sense.
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@kini03 (222)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
wow ,, cool because you remember your`e all dreams part, anyway i know why you remember it ,because the person in your`e dream is a part also of your`e life before.
for me i think it was a sad dream ,they said if you dream a person taht belongs to your`e past life they said you still thinking of it or else hes the one thinking of you .
im not a fortune teller but my advice is face the reality forget the dreams ,because it just a drema,things coundn`t be happen if you wont let it happen.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
12 Mar 12
It's not a matter of knowing the future or anything.. It's just a dream (which I rarely ever remember) that seemed to have a theme. It's just a topic for discussion. Thanks for your response.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I don't really know much about interpreting dreams, but in my psych classes we've learned that dreams are your mind's way of expression and it takes subconscious thoughts as well as your conscious ones. With the paying in silverware, you could somehow feel like you owe certain people for things but not know how to pay them back. Your ex may have popped up in there because you might think of him occasionally, or it's just a memory in your subconscious.
Personally, I don't think everything in a dream has a specific meaning, only if it's like a major theme, like how you said paying people in silverware was the main thing.
Do you think about owing people a lot? Because if you think or worry about something a lot, it'll come back in your dreams. I know it does for me because some nights I wake up crying because in my dreams I somehow get separated from my boyfriend-and him leaving for the army is on my mind a lot.
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@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
11 Mar 12
I know you do worry a lot about your boyfriend going into the military. It’s natural to worry like that, I think. I do worry about finances a lot. Like when I have so many hospital bills to pay and then have to worry about how to put food on the table and stuff.
I also believe in symbolism in dreams…Like about the silverware… it’s like all I had to pay with because everything else was lost. I felt like I had suffered more than my share of loss. It was more of the feeling within the dream I am paying attention to… but also being that silver (silverware) was an element of the dream… that giving it away for a positive purpose, though it may have been painful will bring about good results. That was a thought I had.
