Adult still pees during sleeping
By jhuddith
@jhuddith (222)
Philippines
March 11, 2012 5:19am CST
A radio program health and relationship consultant was reading a letter from a woman who had a problem on bedwetting. She has this problem ever since she was a child until now that she is already an adult. He problem stopped for a while when she got married and got pregnant right away. A few months after she give birth to a baby, i was morning then that she woke up and noticed that the bed was already wet. She thought that it must have been because of the baby but when she checked she have learned that it was her who urinated and not the baby. Her primary problem is not the involuntary urination but the problem is she did not tell her husband about this illness on fear that he might leave her.
I was thinking,how could she hide this from him when they were staying under one roof? Anyways,if you are in her shoes, will you tell your partner about it? How much should you tell your husband/wife about your past life?
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17 responses
@constancenunn (72)
• United States
13 Mar 12
I would just tell my husband baby! I PISS IN THE BED and I have a illness. I would be honest with him to keep arguments down. It's best to be honest and it's depending on how long she kept doing it.
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
Yes, I agree with you. As they say honesty is the best policy. Hiding the illness from his husband will not do her any good. Honesty, also, is the key to trust. If the one that you love can't love you at your worst, they sure can't love you at your best.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
12 Mar 12
I would think the spouse would of had to of known about it. If you have a constant bed wetting problem... your bed is going to stink, your room, your clothes everything. That's hard to not notice. I used to babysit for a lady as a teenager who's brother had one of the bedrooms and he had really bad urinary problems... his room stunk so bad especially in summer when it was hot if you had to get something out of there.
I think something this big/personal has to be shared when it impacts someone you love. I would hope she'd seen a Doctor about her issue. It's not normal and Dr's hear about embarassing stuff all the time... I'd rather suck it up and try to find a solution because the smell the everything would't be pleasant to live with nor going in public smelling as well.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I'm also wondering how her husband had not notice this problem of hers. Anyway, it's best that her husband knows about this. From what I gather, this is more of a psychological thing since she had indeed stopped this habit for some time. She needs to consult a specialist about this. And this she should do with her husband since I think she would have a greater chance of getting cured of this thing with the help of her husband.
@ridhoclick (37)
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11 Mar 12
wow..i can imagine about that..but her husband didn't notice that?what a shame..and why she hide it for her husband?..she must trust her husband that he love her
@Lisona (177)
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11 Mar 12
Personally I would see a doctor might be weak bladder problem, if not could be down to being a very deep sleeper, or some other underlaying stress. Should be open to your partner about absolutley everything in my view. There are there to help you and support you. Shes is probably so embarrassed poor girl, Maybe it would help if she shared her problem with her partner. I know I couldn't have the heart to keep anything that worries me or affects my health from my hubby. After all hes been there with me through child birth.
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
I am in a smiling mood upon reading your wonderful discussion about an adult that still wet her bed at night without knowing it. It might be because of problems in her kidney or that she can't really control it. I don't know but personally, I can sense when I feel urinating. In my childhood years, I still remember bedwetting but when I grew up, I don't do it anymore because I was programmed that it's not good to wet bed as an adult. I just hope that things will be well with her. Have a great day ahead.
@jhuddith (222)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Yes, I do agree with you. We are programmed and told that it is not good to wet bed. But according to her, it was only when she wakes up that she get to recognize that she has already peed in their bed. I do hope she get to tell her husband and have herself checked by a specialist to have this cured. (,")
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
I'd probably tell my husband about it.That way,he could understand me as that is a disorder I've got & not a failed mark in potty training.If he couldn't accept me condition,fine.It's such a shallow ground for splitting up with your partner just when she needs you & your support.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Honesty is the best policy in my opinion. Something like that can certainly not be hidden forever. There are actually treatments out there for adults with that kind of problems and if she were honest about it, it might have been something that could have been dealt with before.
I think it is true with most issues..just deal with it upfront so it can be fixed.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
12 Mar 12
Hi jhuddith: It's interesting how this happen. Even if I don't know the exact case I think maybe she has a problem when she was a child to control her needs. Or maybe it's a worst case and she needs professional help from a doctor because it's just not ok that someone can control her sphincters.
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@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
2 Oct 12
hi,
actually i still believe on that adult still pees during sleeping because it happened to me twice when i was really tired and over fatigued to walked and stand for almost 8 hours,i was really never felt that i pee on my bed but that was happened twice only.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 12
I think she should tell him about her problem. I don't think he will leave her over a small problem like this. Just wear some diapers before go to bed.
@Mashnn (4501)
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11 Mar 12
I think it is always good to tell your partner about your past history especially when it comes to health relateds problems. The problem with her situation is that maybe she thought she would not experience the same problem again since it happened when she was younger. If the husband is the understanding type, I do not think this issue will turn to be a big problem.
@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Yes they still pees during sleeping.But all of us will pees esp. when we drink much water during the day.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Mar 12
My husband knows almost everything that there is to know about my past life before the two of us met.
Now, as far as the bedwetting problem, I think that would be something that would be important for my spouse to know. I also know that it is a medical disorder and a medical condition should never be a reason for a spouse to leave you. That said, I wonder if the woman has seen any specialists about her problem.
@kedralynn (980)
• United States
12 Mar 12
Did she seek treatment for the problem? I'd tell my partner as I tell him everything about my health and about anything that affects him. Me wetting our bed with him in it would be something he'd want to know about! Plus I mean if the guy loves her enough to marry her, he wouldn't walk out on her for having incontinence would he? Hopefully not. I think also then he may be able to help her find treatment. Surgery, medication, therapy. She'll feel better not having to hide it.
@manaleli101 (146)
• South Africa
11 Mar 12
I think she should tell him, he probably has already discovered but is too embarrassed to ask what's going on..
