People do not have enough patience.
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58676)
Delhi, India
March 11, 2012 6:49am CST
Hi all!
I have observed time and again that people do not enough patience to listen to others. I've seen this happening at our work place and at public places.
If you are giving your suggestions or an opinion on a certain issue, the others won't allow you to finish your point and will jump the gun.
In their hurry to show off their knowledge and wisdom they will just interrupt you in between your talk.
And many a time without listening to the complete narration they will shoot their arrow.
I fail to understand why can not they be little bit more patient so as to allow the speaker to finish his/her point and then say something.
Do you also face these kinds of people?
And do you allow the speaker to complete his/her pointh then only you respond to the issue being discussed.
Please share your views and experiences with us. Many thanks in advance.
Have a nice day.
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30 responses
@shwetat195 (628)
• India
11 Mar 12
yeah, i agree. i remmbr in our childhood we had a subject called moral science and we used to b taught this again and again not to interfere when others are speaking. besides other morals...i guess people tend to forget these morals and as u said.... interfere...speak lies, make fun of others....it really irritates me when some one lies to me for nothing....during my professional life , i faced wht u just mentioned and i had to keep my patience to maintain professional ethics. people create a perception and wants to prove their point. it happens all the time at work place....i learnt my lesson and try to b patient myself...u cannot change ur boss, ur colleagues , ur work place...the thing which u can change is urself...:)
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi Shweta!
First of all heartiest congratulation on hitting your first century.
I must appreciate
that you touched the core point of my discussion, which other respondents did not touch so far.
It is really nice that you could still recall your moral science lessons and you know the importance and value of being a patient listener. I think many people forget about these basic things.
You are right that sometimes to maintain the decorum and professional ethics, we need to be more patient, when someone unnecessarily interrupts us, while we are in between completing our point/suggestion.
You are on the dot when you say that people have pre-defined perceptions and they would just come out with their own views (based on their own perceptions), without giving any heed to other's point of view.
And your last point and very import suggestion is also worth pondering over and worth remembering - "we can not change our boss/colleagues etc. but it is for sure we could change ourselves and changing ourselves is in our own hand."
I will keep your advice in mind.
Last but not the least, one of the best responses so far.
Many thanks for taking time for joining us with your candid views in this discussion.
that you touched the core point of my discussion, which other respondents did not touch so far.
It is really nice that you could still recall your moral science lessons and you know the importance and value of being a patient listener. I think many people forget about these basic things.
You are right that sometimes to maintain the decorum and professional ethics, we need to be more patient, when someone unnecessarily interrupts us, while we are in between completing our point/suggestion.
You are on the dot when you say that people have pre-defined perceptions and they would just come out with their own views (based on their own perceptions), without giving any heed to other's point of view.
And your last point and very import suggestion is also worth pondering over and worth remembering - "we can not change our boss/colleagues etc. but it is for sure we could change ourselves and changing ourselves is in our own hand."
I will keep your advice in mind.
Last but not the least, one of the best responses so far.
Many thanks for taking time for joining us with your candid views in this discussion.3 people like this
@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
11 Mar 12
yes, they don't listen. Interupting because they feel they are right and no one else knows what they are talking about. And, yes, they get excited at putting forth how they feel. Patience is not something they have alot of. They need to take their turn and be polite. That will be the day.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
Hi Cel!
It means you also face these kinds of people who show little patience before interrupting others. Hope these kind of people will learn to be polite and respectful to others. Thanks for joining us.
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@celticeagle (166976)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Mar 12
I don't know patience. Polite is good.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Mar 12
hi dpk yes so many people just c annot wait for things whether it in talking with one other or in other facets of life. even here on mylot the newcomers want instant big money and without lifting a
finger. i hate it when someone constantly breaks into what I an saying and has not even listened the start of my conversation.so he is not even making any sense.,
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Mar 12
Hi Deepak, that's absolutely right 
! Guess what ? may be at times I too do that, when I hear a person talk about something I quickly add something that is connected to that, but on second thoughts it may be highly irritating to the other person .I know this because I have a friend who never listens to anything that I may say, just goes on and on about her sons, family blah blah and when I say something she gets diverted and shows halfhearted interest so nowadays I never bother , just let her have her say LOL...it is much better now, she is happy babbling and I dont feel bad because my talk gets cut off 
- have a great week ahead deepak
! Guess what ? may be at times I too do that, when I hear a person talk about something I quickly add something that is connected to that, but on second thoughts it may be highly irritating to the other person .I know this because I have a friend who never listens to anything that I may say, just goes on and on about her sons, family blah blah and when I say something she gets diverted and shows halfhearted interest so nowadays I never bother , just let her have her say LOL...it is much better now, she is happy babbling and I dont feel bad because my talk gets cut off - have a great week ahead deepak @dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi Kiran!
It means that you are willing to confess that you are also a victim of these habit and you knowingly or unknowingly interrupt others to add something to their point, when they are going on and on ......
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As regards your friend who tells long stories without listening to you or others, it is proper to interrupt her in between the lengthy and often tediously boring stories.
Many thanks for sharing your experiences with us.
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As regards your friend who tells long stories without listening to you or others, it is proper to interrupt her in between the lengthy and often tediously boring stories.
Many thanks for sharing your experiences with us.2 people like this
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
11 Mar 12
Some people are very high handed and my friend is a bit like that, but she does have her good points too ...The problem with me is that when people go into long winded explanations I get impatient because I am able to see what they are leading upto ? and instead of being short and quick , they beat about the bush.At such times I do interrupt - however, all said and done it is not a good habit and I must correct myself and do try my best to do so...
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@harini23 (84)
• India
11 Mar 12
Personally i feel that, i have enough patience to listen somebody's narrations.most of my friends they will share all their feelings with me only.And i also like to listen whatever they say.First i will listen,After that i will express my opinion to them.But sometimes i really have no patience when somebody is giving a big class like u should do this,u should not do that etc..
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
I do hope harini that your patience will reward you in the long run and people around you would be happy to talk to you. Thanks for sharing.
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@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
11 Mar 12
There are a lot of times that I am guilty of such. I am one of those who doesn't have a lot of patience and wanted my mouth to open up so wide that I am a nuisance already. I believe it's something that I need to work on myself to become a better listener and become wiser. I agree with you that we need to respect the others who are still talking to finish before we can butt in and do our talk. I really admire people who have the skill or ability to make the discussion becomes wonderful because they display their patience such that I am stunned in awe. I hope and pray I can be a good listener first before a good speaker with a lot of substance in my words. I learn from your discussion and thank you so much for this.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
Hi!
It is good to hear that you are aware that sometimes you interrupt others, even if they have not finished their point and you need to improve upon it. I hope getting rid of this kind of habit will surely help you in the long run.
We also learn from each other.
Thanks for sharing.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
11 Mar 12
Hello deepak, nice discussion.....but I will tell you frankly that I am also a very bad listener and also born without patience
It all depends on how the person talking is expressing himself/herself.....It is up to speaker to make his topic attractive and interesting to drive the attention of these bad listeners like me and many.........
some people repeat same things again and again, some talk about things which we already know very well.......some people give long explanations and some completely lose the track....and thus the whole thing becomes boring and not worth listening any more.
One reason can be lack of time as you know today's life is so busy and everyone is in hurry so even if they are interested in hearing, they have to cut it short.
If some people are doing this just to boast their knowledge or have no manners how to respect someone who wants to help him/her....then obviously it is not right. This kind of behavior is common feature of human nature and I think almost everyone must have experienced this kind of situation many times in life. You are not the only one.....so be happy.
It all depends on how the person talking is expressing himself/herself.....It is up to speaker to make his topic attractive and interesting to drive the attention of these bad listeners like me and many.........
some people repeat same things again and again, some talk about things which we already know very well.......some people give long explanations and some completely lose the track....and thus the whole thing becomes boring and not worth listening any more.
One reason can be lack of time as you know today's life is so busy and everyone is in hurry so even if they are interested in hearing, they have to cut it short.
If some people are doing this just to boast their knowledge or have no manners how to respect someone who wants to help him/her....then obviously it is not right. This kind of behavior is common feature of human nature and I think almost everyone must have experienced this kind of situation many times in life. You are not the only one.....so be happy.2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi aps!
Am a bit surprised to hear that your consider yourself as an impatient listener..... .
You are right narrating lengthy and repetitive stories/dialogues could be irritating and one tends to lose her patience.
However, not listening to any brief point or suggestion and giving immediate reaction can be termed as ill mannerism.
At my (new) work place I've observed that staff is not ready to listen to any advice/suggestion and they feel that they know everything and do not hesitate to interrupt me even before I complete my point. (And same thing is often done by the my better half, which leaves a bitter taste in mouth).
I also try my best to be patient with others and try to give my reaction, when they have finished their point.
Many thanks for enriching the post with your candid thoughts.
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You are right narrating lengthy and repetitive stories/dialogues could be irritating and one tends to lose her patience.
However, not listening to any brief point or suggestion and giving immediate reaction can be termed as ill mannerism.
At my (new) work place I've observed that staff is not ready to listen to any advice/suggestion and they feel that they know everything and do not hesitate to interrupt me even before I complete my point. (And same thing is often done by the my better half, which leaves a bitter taste in mouth).
I also try my best to be patient with others and try to give my reaction, when they have finished their point.
Many thanks for enriching the post with your candid thoughts. 1 person likes this
@allknowing (136446)
• India
11 Mar 12
It sometimes becomes necessary to interrupt as some have the tendency to give speeches in a conversation
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi ak!
It is OK to interrupt when the speech is long and tedious but when people do not show enough patience even to listen for 1-2 minutes, then their interruption and behaviour irritates.
Thanks for joining.
Hope you are doing fine.
dpk
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@princess8881 (1630)
• South Korea
11 Mar 12
Im sorry about your experience..
I dont really have that kind of experience or even though I have.. I would actually tell them to just listen to my point before they react haha I am that kind of person.. and i if I dont have the guts to tell it to them.. usually I just try to stay away from that kind of people..haha 
I know I am mean sometimes..but I do make sure I dont do things I dont want other to do unto me:)
I dont really have that kind of experience or even though I have.. I would actually tell them to just listen to my point before they react haha I am that kind of person.. and i if I dont have the guts to tell it to them.. usually I just try to stay away from that kind of people..haha I know I am mean sometimes..but I do make sure I dont do things I dont want other to do unto me:) 2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi prince!
Atleast you have the guts to tell them that they should listen to you before coming out with their side of view. It is better to stay away from stubborn souls, if one could afford to.
Thanks for kick starting the post and sharing your views.
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@almond24 (1248)
• Hungary
11 Mar 12
I'm afraid they often don't even mean to be rude.
Some people interrupt you when you talk just to let you now that he/she understands very well your thoughts and is able to finish it
But I agree that most often they just want to show how smart are and want to draw attention to themselves.
I also face people like this, and I found that even if they are aware that they interrupt me, they can't change it. I can tell them not to do it, but once they reaally want to tell something they can't stop themselves.
But I agree that most often they just want to show how smart are and want to draw attention to themselves.
I also face people like this, and I found that even if they are aware that they interrupt me, they can't change it. I can tell them not to do it, but once they reaally want to tell something they can't stop themselves. 2 people like this
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi almond!
Yes, you appear right that while interrupting others they just want to show that they are more knowledgeable and smarter than the speaker. It is bold on your part that you tell them without any hesitation not to interrupt you.
Thanks for sharing your views.
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@bethson (10)
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11 Mar 12
I encountered a lot of people like you did. I'm not super kind person and sadly I don't have patience for these kind of person. If I talk and suddenly somebody will interrupt me I would tell them straight to her face to let me finish first or else will leave the situation. I quite hate rude people...
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi bethson!
You are newbie here. Welcome to mylot family.
It is bold on your part that you could tell others on their face that they should not interrupt you unnecessarily, without listening to you. Hope you are able to put across your point of view to them.
Thanks for sharing.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi Lisona!
Welcome to mylot family. You are right that to interrupt someone without listening to his/her point of view could be termed as rude manner and lack of etiquette.
Thanks for sharing your candid views.
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@ALXCHENG (1)
• China
11 Mar 12
This problem does not always happen in china even people losts their patience or disagree with your opinions.Due to the the characteristic of personality,most chinese likes to put their REALLY point in the last part of conversations,in the other words if you don't listen carefully till they finished,to catch the point is impossible.Obviously to find,the way of chinese conversation often takes too much time ,but we also realize the advantage that the traditional rules brings:not only for respect but also to give speaker enough time to correct their unclear expressed even if they don't realize that,after all to interrupt others doesn't represent how rational your point is.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi Alx!
You are newbie here. Welcome to mylot family.
It is a news to me that people in China tell the real point in the last part of their conversation and therefore, one needs to have patience to get to the main point.
Hope people like you show enough patience to listen to others and grab the real point.
Hope to see you more on mylot with your views.
Keep it up.
Thanks for sharing.
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@jin861224 (2)
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11 Mar 12
Yes, actually I also person that do not have the patience to give other to complete their words ...
My problem is slightly different where by I will not interrupt what they are in the middle of talking, but I myself will start guessing what they will said afterward.
After sometime, I found that this is not only happen to me, also, happen to the people around me like what you have described.
Since then, I started to listen completely other people words and try to understand what they mean instead of guessing in advance.
I am actually still in progress to be a good listener ... :)
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Mar 12
Hi jin!
You are newbie here. Welcome to mylot family.
It is wiser on your part that you are trying to be more patience and trying to listen to others with more attention. Hope if you cultivate this habit, this would help you a lot in the long run. All the best.
Thanks for sharing.
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@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
There are really people like that especially those who claim that they're right all the time to the point that they don't listen to others anymore.For me,the battle should be fair & I hate it when it's not which happens most of the time.Well,I'd give the other person a chance to speak before I have any violent reactions.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Mar 12
Hi!
Yes,there are some people who think that they are right and others can not be correct like them. If one does not have the patience to listen to others till they finish, it could be termed as ill-mannerism.
Thanks for sharing.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
12 Mar 12
How precisely and carefully have you observed present day living modes. Nobody is bothered about the other person.Everyone is running in hectic pace to fulfill their own likes and pleasures.There is little time to care for other people's feelings and expressions.It is all a strange new world!
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
Hi!
Yes people are too engrossed in themselves that they do not have time to care about others and do not have the patience to listen to them. Ultimately, we need to develop more patience in ourselves to tackle others.
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
Patience is a virtue right? well that is something i have to work as well.
but when it comes to work, i can manage my patience.. i do have patience.. i can wait on people, i can talk to them gently even tho they are want to explode.
But i do not have much patience when i am waiting for my husband.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
Hi jazel!
At least you understand that 'patience is virtue' and you try your best to be patience while at your work place. Hope you showing patience pays you.
Waiting for hubby is on a different footing ...........lol!
I won't suggest that while waiting for him you should be 'patient'.
Thanks for joining.
I won't suggest that while waiting for him you should be 'patient'.
Thanks for joining.
many people eager to do a lot things in a short time..they said that time us money..patience means wasting time..thus it is equal with wasting money too
that is a short and not wishful thinking i guess
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 12
Hi ifa!
I agree with you that 'time is money' but not listening to others and interrupting them mid way is not a positive trait. It shows lack of courtesy and etiquette.
Thanks for sharing.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
13 Mar 12
It is all about a rather "now, hurry up" quality in society. There are people who always on the move and granted, that is across the board. If people don't move along, they are going to be swept up. I'm sure that people should show more patience, but they are just going with the flow a lot of times, of the sadly rather insane breakneck pace that is life. Where people are going around and around and around, just not being patient for anything.
We live in a move quickly, go the next thing, now the next thing, now the next thing, breakneck rather quick society. Some people just like to get their points in as well. And let's face it, those kind of people aren't going to listen to you that much to begin with, so you might as well just let them say their pierce. It is almost like their point will be less valid if they don't say it within the next thirty seconds. Oh well, such is life.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Mar 12
Hi!
Yes, you are right people seem to be running here and there and not stopping to listening to others. They just want to convey their own views, rather than listening to others.
Thanks for sharing.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
13 Mar 12
Hi,
Everyone feels important and they want others to hear them first. That’s why the young gen is very impatient. I know it is irritating but these guys/gals are filled with vibrant ideas which make others to accept them. Listening skills need to be improved but these days people follow visualizing skills as well. LOL.
In my case, yes I do listen to the other fully before giving my inputs. Personally, I was too bad as a listener but then I gradually developed the listening skills as professionally we first need to read/listen for performing in a better way.
have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
19 Mar 12
Hi Viju - The problem is not just confined to young generation. There are many middle aged and old people, who would not allow you to complete your sentence and will interrupt instantly, as if they are not going to interrupt, they will lose something.
I am sure that you are a very patient listener and you listen to others first, before coming out with your own views.
Thanks for sharing.
