What to do???
By di44ito
@di44ito (494)
Bulgaria
March 11, 2012 7:02am CST
Hi people i have a big dillema and i don`t know what to do. On 9th march i had birthday and invited some friends at home. One of my girlsfriends (let`s call her A)have a boyfriend (let`s call him B) he and one other of my girlfriends (let`s call her C) had been fighting all the night (with words not really fighting). In one moment I and A were in the next room and my sister told me that she saw B and C kissing. What to do? I haven`t seen them with my eyes, but i don`t thing that my sister will lie me. I don`t know how to ask C if this really happened, because she can tell me everything, no matter what happened. I don`t know also if i have to tell A what her boyfriend did. I can`t talk with the boy, because i don`t know him really well and i don`t have his phone or something like this. So please someone to help me and say what will you do if you were on my place. I asked two of my other friends and one of them told me to talk with the boy, but how i already said i don`t have his phone or something so i can`t get in touch with him and it will be stupid for me to ask his girlfriend to give me his number, because i don`t know what she can think. My other friend told me to talk with C and if she say that this kisses are real to talk with A and tell her what happend, but in this case i don`t what to say to both of them if this thing is true. This is a really bad satuation for me both of the girls are really good friends for me and it will be really difficult to talk to them.
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7 responses
@hagmic22 (49)
• Israel
11 Mar 12
This whole situation sounds really complicated. I didn't understand what is the relationship between B and C and between C and A. If we guessed that B and C had kissed, we still wouldn't know it meaning (do B and C have a romance or the kiss was a coincidence, does B cheat A).
As someone who is not know these people, I can say that if I were you, I would leave it and continue with my life.
However, I understand that the situation which you stepped into makes you feel uncomfortable, because this two girls are two of your close friends. So, I may suggest you to talk with C about it. I don't know what will she tell you, but I think you can talk with A about her boyfriend, and give her clues about him. I mean, don't talk about the party directly, ask A how is B as a boyfriend, whether she is serious about him and so forh.
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@di44ito (494)
• Bulgaria
11 Mar 12
A and B are together for 5 years now. B and C know each other for 3-4 months and they have seen each other 2-3 times. I don`t know about the kiss if it was romantic or something else, but also i don`t know how to ask C, it`s uncomfortable for me. I don`t know what to do i want to leave it behind and leave it to them to make the right thing, but i`m not sure this will happen. Also i don`t want to lose both A and C and i think that if i talk to them this can reflect on their attitude to me.
@kheigh (215)
•
11 Mar 12
If i were in your position, I would talk to C. She's a friend, right? Ask her to be honest with you. Think of what she's going to say and try to understand if she has a reasonable explanation. Are C and A friends? If they are, tell C to tell A. I mean, if B and C really did kiss. If C is a real friend to A, she should be the one to tell A. If she doesn't want to tell A, then tell C that you'll tell A. Because no matter what explanation C gives, A's boyfriend still cheated with her. Assuming that they really did kiss.
so basically, talk to C. tell C to tell A. If she doesn't, you tell A. It will be hard for you too but you would have to do it if you really are a true friend. To both of them.
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@di44ito (494)
• Bulgaria
11 Mar 12
A and C are not really friends they are both my friends, but know eacj other for a small amount of time and have seen each other 2-3 times only. Thanks for your opinion you are the second person that tells me that i have to talk to C. My sister told me to leave them alone to do what they want, but i thing it`s not right in the same time i don`t know even how to begin this talk with C :X
@lucy19851120 (261)
• China
11 Mar 12
HI di44ito:
It's a command cases in the very open mind countries,
YOU Of course see the many goods girl friend or boy has been stolen by their closest friend,for what to make a great war between the three of them,
What's the reason? we can't give the excatly explaintion,to be honest,we don;t want this happen anywhere.
As you meet one of this role,I agree with the first floor friends idea,you shall think of the best way to talk to the B and tell him the bad effects and the real suiation to deal with the relationship with your A friend,the love feelings are the two people going and complex,you can't and won't see this happen again,right?
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 12
How can you tell her about the kiss when your proof was your sister? It's not that your sister was lying but you still can't tell her something like that and then tell her it was your sister who saw the whole thing. You're a friend to both of them. Unless they open up to you, it's best to stay at that.
@emilytd18 (114)
• Philippines
12 Mar 12
I think it is still best to talk with your friend C first. You wouldn't want both of your friends fighting just because you said a hearsay to any of them. Confirm your facts first and then decide whether you'll tell it to your friend A. Anyhow, if it is really true, I personally think that she deserves to know. You wouldn't want any of them ending up with a jerk like B, so do your best to make their eyes open with what's really going on. Just be a good friend to both of them, I am sure they will understand. :)
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@suzukigirl1970 (106)
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11 Mar 12
Was there anybody else who saw what happened? Maybe you could get them to say something instead of getting involved yourself.
@Olleenz (3398)
• Indonesia
11 Mar 12
If you meet A with C, you gonna start war and you might lost all of them.
You had three choices:
1. Just shut your mouth and pretend not know what happened
2. Ask C about it and ask her to leave B before situation become worse
3. Tell A & C that B already cheat on both of them
But if I were you, I gonna shut my mouth
