It is not easy to find good,reliable lasting friends ..

I have found through the years not everyone but a few people will use you for what you have. You have a car they need a ride. you go have lunch, you wind up doing things for them too. That is how friendship is and should be. But I know for me the last few years, I could tell I was of no use to people unless they had something to gain from it. I now do what I love doing walks in the parks, along the beaches, knitting, cross stitching and reading a good book. If someone can be drawn into conversation then we spend a lovely few minutes and they are on their way. I like sitting out working on my crafts and people always stop to view what I am doing. But the deep friendship that was once there does not seem to mean the same. I think Wars, Different Cultures, cause people to be on their gaurd. Unfortunately I welcome to know anyone. I love learning and embrace them as though they are the brother or sister I was never able to have. So I carry respect inside my heart for friendship no matter who the person is. We can always learn something from someone.

You are right there.I have had people that I thought were my friends change over the years and have become people that stab you in the back to other friends.I am now just keeping in contact, with a few close friends that I can really trust.

Ya I agree with you. Indeed, good friends are really hard to find. But you know I still believe that when we are good to others then it's easier to find the same. Though finding good friends would entail a long process. Because we can't identify or distinguish good friends from bad friends in just few days. We need to experience hardships where when during those times, you have friends who are willing to help you. Though it's hard to find good friends but I still believe that there are a lot of good friends out there. Waiting to be discovered.

Yes Kiran it is not easy to get a good friend. We have many acquaintances, but few of them are good friends. The person who comes to help me in my bad days indeed he or she is my good friend. To a real friend we can share sorrows and joys without any hesitation.

correct on that kiran8. that's even a mild way of putting it. my father used to tell me that i wouldn't be able to find a best friend in life. someone who wishes me sincerely well and who would always be there to watch me and put me on the right track. my mom on the other hand says that it's difficult to find a friend (not the best one, just friend) especially of your age. most of the time, they envy you when you slim down, find your guy or be happier. my mom considered a 30 years older woman to be her best friend. she used to be her high school teacher. Lola, as we call her, treats mom like her own child. i think my best friends are my mom and dad ^_^ and the friends around me, some stays some goes but im pretty happy theyre just around

i agree ..friends are not easy to find. i have few friends however they have been with me since my school days...somehow, i have lost touch with my friends from college and offices in the past...i cherish my school time friends...

Finding good friends..retaining the relationship on a long standing level...helping each other in times of need...be helpful in emergencies....all these and many more good gestures bind good friendships to a level of high caliber. But astonishingly enough such relationships are nowadays hard to constitute and prolong.

Everyone will change. When you grow up, you will change a lot, at the same time, your friends are also changing. So you may find that you are so different now and not easy to communicate with each other like when you are young. It is common. Just adapt yourself to it, and thank your friends spending their time with you in you life. And life will be much better.

I agree too. For me, I only have just 3 friends who I talk and chat with most of the time. Perhaps the longest friend I had is my secondary school friend and I've already known him for 7 years. The other two are my polytechnic friends and are in the same co-curricular activity as me. One of them also have the same interest as me which is, aviation and we do go planespotting together. Take for instance, there's the Singapore Airshow 2012 which was held during early February and we went together. I should say they are among my good friends and are trusted people. Although, for my secondary school friend, I've known him for 7 years but after our graduation, I've only met him once in a while and the rest is just chatting on MSN. Firstly, friends are not for us to seek help from whenever we feel like it and then stop when we don't need help. The relationship between friends are supposed to be closely bonded and most importantly, help each other out whenever one experiences trouble. One of my two polytechnic friends, he keeps in touch with friends frequently and talks on the phone too. One thing for sure, he values friendship. There was once I went cycling with him, he treats me to a drink, just a simple drink over a dollar. I wanted to repay him but he said never to mind. In fact, in my opinion, sincerity weighs more in a friendship and that will never change. Recently he complained to me about another friend of his. The thing was that he always treats the other person to a meal upteen times but that guy just doesn't seem to appreciate and even scolds my friend for calling him up. So my friend was kind of upset that that guy doesn't value friendship. So I told him to stop treating and see what will happen. It can be seen if a person values friendship if he/she treats the other person back and even "fights" to treat one another. That's true friendship and it's really rare that we can see something like that. That's why, I feel that we can only have a few true friends which we can rely on in times of trouble. The others are just neutral.

yes it is true, finding a real and true friend is hard. i only have few friends but i make sure they are real friends. i don't regret having only them in my life because they made my life meaningful. even we are miles apart, the friendship is there. they are there when i need someone to talk to, and vice versa. we keep the friendship even we do not see each other.

Hi kiran, how are you? I do have friends since my childhood after getting marriage most of them are busy in their family life. Some are busy in their jobs etc., but we all have good interaction with each other, one more thing is some time we leave a message online or offline for chatting in the weekends. Now i do have few online good friends through mylot and other social sites, all the women are so good and they share everything. Getting good friends and long lasting friends is little difficult but if you interact with them now and then that will keep our relation long. Have a nice day.

Agree. I don't have loads of friends like some people. I do talk to people but I won't consider them all as my frineds. Instead, I prefer to have a few that I can rely on and hang out together.

hi sweet kiran8, hope you fine, you right to say that not easy to find good, eliable lasting friends. For example i add you for two months before, still you not touch with me still now but many time i have tried to response your comments but i not received from your side any reply by you. Therefore i agree with you its hard to meet good friend here in mylot.

Yes, true, loyal friends are hard to find. If you have one, hold on to them and do not betray thier trust. They are the ones who will stick to yu through thick and thin aside from your family.

Definitely Kiran and do you know that what we all are guilty of?..its taking our friends for granted. When a friend says something to us we don't like we list out all the things we had done. But, isn't that the point..u did those out of friendship or were u doing them as loans. This hypocrisy makes me sometimes..both laugh and cry.. BTW, are u interested in writing? If yes, i'll get in touch with you. Mail me at arindom.borah@gmail.com...Please..do subscribe to my blog..it's not going along very well. bye

I agree with you, good friends are really hard to find...dont know who to call my true friend anymore, besides my family of course.

These days it feels like you can't trust anyone. It is crazy! But there is some good ones out there just takes a lot more effort these days to find them.