my boyfriend is not trying to find a job

Have you heard about cash flow? Because those two words are the reason why people become FILTHY RICH!

Hi Constancenunn and welcome to my lot. If he won't work then the best thing you can do is move on. He is too old to stop acting like the whole world owes him and to me by you supporting him he thinks that you owe him. It says in the bible that a man that won't take care of his family (you) is worse then and infidel. Wish I could remember where it says that but alas memory is shot....LOL I lived with a man for 3 years and he wouldn't work I finally got sick of it and told him to either get a job or it was over I was done. He didn't find a job and thank God I did move on!

the economy is tough right now and it IS hard to find a job but it is even harder if you are not even looking! here in canada, if you are unemployed, in order to get your money for being unemployed, you have to prove that you have been job hunting. sounds like your man is lazy.

ya i think may be he will much economy as a excuse for being happy with you and with having money from you or it may be that it will be the true situation for him... moreover i think he is trying to cheat you by using economy as excuse....

Its good to have a partner who had a job..But is it ur partner having a pension? If he had then its ok for him having no job....

Well have you ever see him try if he did tried look for job then what he said about economy is not an excuse but if you never see him try to look then he might just use the economy as an excuse. You can see if he really can't find job or just an excuse by suggesting him to try apply at walmart, walmart hire people at all ages regardless or Good Will he might get a better luck there.

This would be frustrating for me, too. Does he contribute in other ways - cooking, cleaning, running errands? A relationship has to feel like it's between equals so unless there are medical reasons, he need to be contributing in some way.

Did He have a job when you met him,or was he actually made unemployed in the last few years as a result of the economy? What Experience and skills in work has he at this stage in life? Admittedly,a 60 year old (depending on skills and experience) might be less employable than someone newly qualified,but if there's nothing available for his skills,sitting home and blaming the economy for him not getting on any available "horse" isn't doing any good..the "horse " isn't going to come to him..He has to go looking for it...good luck motivating him,if you're hanging in there...

Well, in times like this, people would want to employ younger people to boost efficiency. As for your boyfriend, I think he could find some easy work to do maybe, security guard? I understand your plight and it's very bad for the lady to be the breadwinner except in certain situations. But your boyfriend is able-bodied and so, I believe that he should be able to find something to do right? There's no right or wrong for the man not to earn money but it's usually the case that the man should earn money for the family.

I know in the US it is hard to find employment. I bet it is stressful paying all the bills when you have one income. I know for me it is hard because Randy is not working (due to a serious foot condition he is not allowed to work) and I need to take care of him full-time because the house we live in is not handicap accessible. We live with my parents which has been hard because my parents expect me to pay all their bills plus my own bills. we are trying to get government assistance, but it has been a slow going process. I hope you can leave him so your stress level can decrease and you can start saving up. the economy is bad, but he should be looking for work.

hi there, but he is 60 now, did he even use to have a job before reaching this age?

I can't answer that question of yours about his reason about the economy, all I can say is, That if a person really wants to do something for a person that they love they will find a way not to burden them or give them a reason to leave, I was unemployed a couple of years back, but i made sure i find someway to avoid that person not wanting me to be there for her anymore.

In my opinion, he finds something fishy about our economy today. Getting a job is not enough to shoulder financial needs. Most people nowadays with high amount of salary are still buried in bad debt. (The higher the salary, the higher the tax) And it is not necessary to find a job if you want to earn money. Have you heard about Passive Income? (Income even without a job/work.)

I have been through 4 company shutdowns and I am 54 years old. My last company moved to another state and I loved where I was working, especially the pay. I am now working for half of what I used to make and less hours. I know for sure if your man doesn't have skills or a creative mind he could at least clean buildings or hold signs for a company on the street corner. I wish you two a more prosperous and healthy relationship.

It sounds like an excuse. I know that the bad economy has killed some of the better paying jobs, but there are several minimum wage jobs out there that are available. I think a lot of people don't want to take them because they think they're above it or something, but in all honesty, I'd rather be making like seven bucks an hour than nothing at all. Luckily, I've recently snagged a few jobs waiting tables and I make oodles of money. There are several older people doing the same job as I am and they are awesome at it. I can't tell you how to run your relationship, but I can tell you that I personally wouldn't have put up with it as long as you have. You need to do what's best for you and you need to try to have a conversation with him where you are telling him how you feel without it seem like you're blaming him.

It's not easy to find a new job when you're 60 in my country. I wiss him and you good luck

It is true nowadays it is very difficult to find a perfect job, but a person should at least try...There are small odd jobs that he could do and you'd actually love and respect him for that. My fiance is unemployed but nowadays he does odd jobs and no matter how little the money is, he plants a smile across my face everytime he brings something home..To me it says he is trying to turn our loves around one step at a time. No, your man should try looking..