In a relationship..but still lonely :-(

I think the secret is you have to be comfortable with yourself, we all get lonely at times but we must learn to be happy with our selves and be happy when alone to be happy within that space of our own...be very carefil you do not put your partner off you must think what it would be like to lose him and he needs to feel appreciated and if he feels you are not that happy with him he may go ...

I'm sorry. That's a rough space to be in. Growing up, I had a lot of bad relationships. I stayed in them because I defined myself by being with someone. I felt incomplete on my own. I always felt I needed a guy in my life, or things weren't worth it. Because all I wanted was to get married and have kids and I can't do that on my own! Now that I'm older and wiser, I see things differently. I stopped dating guys just because I was lonely. Now I'm finally in a successful relationship. One where we communicate with each other all the time. Communication is key to making things work and keeping them working! You need to speak with your bf about how you feel. Is it better to stay with him and suffer and be miserable? No. You'll grow to regret and possibly even resent him! Good luck!

As you are best friends before you involved in the relationship, so you know each other very well and you may find that after involved in the relationship, there are few new things to discover, and you can not get the excitement from each other. If a life is full with excitement, i do not think you can bear that, it will make you tired out soon. A peace and harmonious life may be a best choice to many common people. Taking good care of your partners now, and you will find out the upsides of the relationship. Maybe you can do something you have never done with her, so you can get what you want in the relationship.

I'd rather a guy talk to me like a friend than all lovey dovey. I also couldn't stand being around someone and spending all my time around them, so you seem to have my dream relationship, you lucky woman. I would just wait it out for awhile. Sometimes people get busy with work or school and you hammering them about feelings and your relationship isn't going to help anything. Just causally mention that you'd like to do something together when he gets time.

I think that when you meet the right person, you will know. You will feel happier and better-love is a wonderful thing. I personally don't think its wrong to count on someone else to make us happy. Bottom line is that when I met my husband, I became happier! I feel whole, like an empty part of me has been filled. Being alone in this world is sad sometimes. Being with the wrong person is too. If you have doubts-about his honesty, faithfulness, trust...-these are things that you will feel 100% secure about when you meet the right one. In your situation, I would say to give up the relationship before it destroys your friendship. You want his friendship, and you never know...people change. Ten years from now, he may be the one...keep your chin up and you'll get through this!

This is where the majority of relationships fail because Disney lead us to believe that "Happily Ever After" was all there is to maintaining a healthy relationship. A relationship is hard to maintain when we think only of ourselves. Yes communication is a necessary tool in any relationship, however there is a point that some things go unspoken. You knew going into the relationship what his goals were for his career. On a side note I will say that you have to love to teach in order to become a teacher. So I would guess that it's not only his career goal but it is also his dream to become a teacher. Now more than ever he needs someone that he trust and loves at his side. This act of selflessness on your part will mean more to him than spoken words. It is the trivial thing in a relationship that mean the most. Small gestures like a quick kiss, huge or any number of small things that are taken for granted. Be subtle with your gestures of intimacy to him. Before you can have a fire you have to have the fuel for it. He is so caught up in his work and studies that if he has to think about it then you can forget it. He is so mentally exhausted by the end of the day that only the primal instincts are functioning. Learn more about yourself in this time. A good starting point is here http://www.5lovelanguages.com/, http://www.naphill.org/ . Dreams are the very essence of desire and if you force him to choose you over his dream you will lose him for good. Become a part of his dreams not the alternate choice. Find something that the two of you can share every day together. Make it a ritual habit for the both of you to do. Give him the affection that you want in return. If he is slow to respond that is okay because habits are not formed in seconds. When you go on this trip do not go with any other preconceived notions other than to have a good time. Believe it or not you manifest your thoughts into your life. Which is one reason that you are feeling the way that you are right now. Your thoughts are making you miserable right now. Replace those thoughts with happy thoughts of better times. Believe in yourself as well as your husband. Make a list of things that make you happy and look for ways of implementing them into your relationship without forcing them. Share your dreams with him when you talk to him. As a matter of fact pick one of your dreams and set a goal to achieve that dream soon. You will find that you will not be lonely any more because you will give yourself a purpose. "Dreams are often put aside and forgotten because we allow ourselves to get overwhelmed with what we perceive to be the best that life will provide for us. It is when we start to understand that we are in control of or lives, that we begin to set a new course for our lives to follow. Without dreams we lose our passion for life and our desire to thrive. As our dreams are the very essence of love. In order for us to have and maintain a healthy relationship we must aspire to achieve or dreams. To share who you really are as a person you must share your dreams. For love to transpire your dreams must be ascertained. You and only you can make your dreams a reality. Your dreams give purpose to your life in whole. When you achieve your dreams you inspire others to follow their dreams. In turn what you are really doing is teaching others how to love." Jeremy Bailey My the two of you have a long and prosperous relationship together.

You and him have some issues. Being in love with best friends sometimes make us wonder, whether it really love or just love as a friend. Sometimes we mistakenly take the second type of love as the first as complicated the relationship. It's best to figure out and find the spark. Of course you feel the connection between the both of you as you're used to be best friends before turning into lovers but is the spark there?

HiSuccess and welcome to my lot. Don't you know that being talked to as a buddy is a high complement he is telling you in a way that he trust you with everything. Don't worry this happens in all relationships. I would go away with him that will give you time to catch up with your relationship. Don't worry he is going through so much trying to be a student and a teacher at the same time is hard work he is probably just plain wore out from all the work load he has on him. It is hard when you first begin a relationship you have to toughen up and give him support he is trying to make his life better and by making his life better it will make your life together a lot better. Stand by him and go through all the bull stuff going on and it will all pay off in the long run.

hi there! i think the lack of time is your main problem. you said you are planning for an Easter vacation, go ahead. that will be your time to have more talks. as i have always said, maintain an open relationship. tell him how you feel and encourage him to do the same. if you want to work it out, be patient and understanding. your luck of time together makes you lonely and that should be address asap. better talk to him about it. hope you can work it out because it is rare that best friends end together and you must be lucky. just to share, i am happily married with my best friend.

I suggest you tell him in person what you feel. Go with the plan to be with him on easter weekend. There are some relationships that is only good for friendship. But for me, I became friends first with my past boyfriends and now to my husband before entering into a relationship.

It happens to many people. I think it means your relationship is not fullfilling or you are lost in yourself. So my advice is to find your real you, ask yourself what you want, what you need to be happy and make yourself happy. Since happiness is a choice.

My advice would be wait it out and see if things change since it seems like that your bf is pretty busy these days with his job and education. He might be stressed due to all of this and might not have time to spend with you but that doesn't mean that he doesn't care for you or doesn't love you. My advice would be to go to together for the easter weekend as you have already planned and see how he behaves there and if anything changes. Good luck...

love comes and born suddenly n that of its grace,, if theres something in the name of any reason of love, but ruled out arole in the commitment. love means obvious that the bias....

I understand that its difficult to be in a position where you feel something is not doing right with your relationship. I admire you for your faithfulness in him and your love is one of those that I consider "enduring love." As I analyze the situation and circumstance, though I may not know the perfect situation, I think that he has another priority than you. As you said, he's a teacher by day and a student by night. It might be good to let him know that your relationship is being affected because of what he does. Listen to what he has to say and draw something from there. YOu can know if he tells you that his master's degree study is important to him. He may explain that it's for your future. From there, you can come up with an agreement so you don't need to be guessing. If he loves you, he will make a plan for you to have a romantic relationship. I believe you can.

To me it sounds like you've already decided what to do but you don't want to admit it even to yourself. There is nothing in this relationship that excites you anymore & any feelings you may have had for each other are now more like feelings between two good friends & less like lovers. I suggest you end it as soon as you can & move on. Both of you need to sit down & admit to each that it's over but that you would like to remain friends if possible.