Best time to get married, before or after I have the baby?

Yeah, i quite agree. The baby would be a legitimate child and no more paper works to amend as to his legitimacy in terms of documents, i.e. birth certificate. Although, probably the concern for being seen pregnant on your wedding day would cause a lot "silly talks" especially for the narrow-minded. Anyways, congrats on your wedding and your baby too.

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Although many people nowadays do not worry about whether they are married or not when they have children, my personal opinion is that it is a kindness to the baby to allow him to be born legitimate. One never knows when attitudes might change or if your son, might someday move to a place in the world where society is no so liberal. No child should be stigmatized for the acts of his parents, but it does happen. One of my aunts was married in the hospital during labor. Best wishes for an easy delivery and a healthy happy child, and also for a wonderful marriage.

Your plan to do it before the baby comes sounds like a good idea. You will be tired and busy being a mommy once the baby comes and it seems like you have already made up your mind and if it is what you both want, go for it!

According to the traditions and customs, you'd better get married before you have the baby. But in this case, you may face some problems. A big wedding ceremony will cost you a lot of energies and make you exhausted, which is not good for the health of your baby and you. And you should not ignore the risk of giving birth to your baby during the wedding ceremony. Considering all these factors, getting married after having the baby is not a bad idea.

if you are sure with your fiance then go ahead. its for the baby's sake after all. you can do a simple civil wedding first then after you are healed and back to church then you can go with a big one, if you still like to. you are right to say to avoid complications and that you can name your son after your fiance's surname right? also, nowadays, the hospital is asking for the marriage contract for the birth registration of the baby and without it, your surname will be placed as the surname of your child. good luck to the coming wedding and have a safe delivery.

Getting married must be done before you do things as a husband and a wife. After you are officially decleared as a married couple. You two are allowed to sleep together.

If you live in the Philippines, it's better to get married before the child is born so that you won't have any problems with the birth certificate later on. It's a bit costly to change information there, though you are now allowed to use the father's name as an illegitimate child, but still you need to change some information in the certificate after you get married. Anyways, you already made a plan to get married, so you can have it before.

When we talk about rightful and legal way and of course religiosity, marriage comes first. Having a baby is actual a product of the invested love from a couple. But since it has all been done, marriage prior to delivery will fix legitimacy of the baby.

U must marry when u are planning to do so.And mostly ,we practice it bfore having a baby.Am i right?So follow what we practice here in our place........ok?

Do it first. After the baby comes you will have no time. At all. believe me. I have a son. I know what I'm talking about.

Looks like your mind is already made up. But what I know for sure is that you will be so tired to do anything...but the choice is yours.

hello my friend congratulation first :) ooh i was agreed in your`e planned :) thumbs up for you and goodluck my friend :)in wedding days :)

ITS UP TO YOU IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED SOON OR AFTER YOUR GIVING BIRTH.. to me you should get married as you can, even though your preggy, if your afraid to lose your love, in reality it happens the time that when the girl is pregnant the guy fade away like a bubble, blows by winds.. so you should be secured your self first having a baby its not so easy even though i don't have yet.. but to my sisters or friends experienced that was so so so stressful having a baby but one thing i suggest to you no matter what happen BABY IS A BIG BLESSINGS! COMES IN YOUR LIFE SO GOOD LUCK! (:

Well, if there is a baby in the works already it was concieved out of wedlock so who cares now? I do agree with doing the wedding first. Hope it all goes well and you have a happy, healthy baby.

I think both from a religious and legal point of view, you should get married before having your baby. Like you said, it would avoid all complications. I'm glad that both of you agreed to do this. I know I'm not in the right position to pass to say this but this is the best thing to do in your situation. Congratulations to your getting married and to you having a baby :)

Hi,mcart~ First of all,congratulations~It is always a pleasant experience to get married with your Mr.Right and have a new member to your family,although I haven't had this kind of experience yet. I think it's a wise choice.After the child is born,there would be a lot of things to do.And also you would need rest after giving birth.So get married before your son arrives.Enjoy the precious two-person world and one of the most happiest day in your life. Wish you happy everyday~

It all depends on you but if I was the one doing the wedding, I would postpone it until a few months later after I have my baby. I just do not think whether you will be able to enjoy your wedding as much as you would since you will be a bit tired. How will you cope up since you need to stand up most of the time?

Well to be honest the best time to have gotten married would have been before you got pregnant at all, but since what's done is done I say to get married before the baby is born. Then if your child asks you about it someday you can honestly tell him or her that you were married before they were born which will help they feel better about themselves knowing that they weren't born in sin.