being in a relationship and planning to be with your ex

Ex = exit for me and there is a very good reason for that. If both have their problems she should better ask herself why she loves guys with problems that much? Does she need the feeling to be needed? And what if one day the guy doesn't need her anymore? I think both are a bad choice and she should to on to her life, get focused on the future instead of back to the past and get stucked there. I think she is just too scared to live and that is why she feels more comfortable with the ex. This way she doesn't need to invest in the newer relationship or her own future.

yes actually about 2 or 3 weeks ago there was this girl who couldn't decide if she wanted to stay with her current bf or choose me, so i started a convo here and got some help and i was told to sit down and have a talk with her and have her figure out what she wants, she didn't really know but we had a long convo and afterwards i just told her good luck with her current relationship and walked out. guys shouldn't be put in that position cause in the end some of us can or will get hurt so i chose neither of us getting hurt and never talked to her again.

oh i think i was in such a situation but not with an ex but with another man i thought i was falling in love with. but then, as fate would have it, i chose him over my bf of 3 years and then... it did not turn out well too. i fell out of love and the rest is history. i always thought that we have firm decisions and we know what we want or love, but until you decide on what or who to choose, you are being unfair.

It is simple. You said her current beau does not love her the way she Wants? Then she should go back to her ex. This is not 18th France. back then , if she were rich or if her current were rich, she could keep both! But these days she should follow her heart. If she stays with her current beau , he will Never have All of her heart Or attention, and that is not fair. I hope she will figure this out before it is too late.

That is greedy. She can't have both, she's already hurting the two in the process. Why can't she realize that? If this happens to her, well good luck. She got issues and she can't drag both along with her. I mean person like this should be punished, how could she do that? 6 years??? And she's still not aware of the situation? Very selfish, she's thinking only about her happiness, that is not love she is giving because if you are truly in love with the person, you won't think of any other else to love. If you love both guys, then just choose one, it will never work if you own both. And in this case, whatever her reason, I hope she just end it up soon, she should not create further damage.

yes but my friend is a guy. He was stock in two girls which is also my friends. He can't decide who will he choose. I told him some of questions like, who in the two girls can make him feel much comfortable and can make him more happy when his with her. I know choosing in the two is very complicated and very hard to do but its a reality that he must face. He must choose and make the right thing happened.

I don't think it is fair for a new relationship to exist when an old one still has the flame burning. the new relationship never really stands a chance. Reeolve the feelings of one relationship before taking on another. that is only fair to everyone involved.

To answer your question I've never been in a situation like that before and I've had a few friends who have been in situations like, and considering what your friend is doing it's not right to either of those guys. I think she should take some time apart from BOTH of them, get her thoughts together, figure out what she really wants in a relationship, then have a discussion with both of them and make her choice. She can't keep juggling those guys, I mean people's feeling are at stake here. She needs to be a woman about hers and make a choice, and make it quickly.