I dont need somebody who just remember me when they need something from me...

That is very common here in my place and in my school. It is just okay if they need something for me as long as when I am the one who is already in need, they would be willing also to help me. It is just a very easy thing. But there are people will just simply ignore you. It hurts so bad.

i really hate people like that well i do not hate the person i hate that they think i am someone who they can expect to do something for them and not plan to do any thing in return later or even talk to me any more until they need something. i have a few people in my life like this that will not call or talk to me until they need something then i am the 1st person they call. it get very aggrivating and i have learned to say "no" but i am also to nice of a person to not help someone if they really need it so i guess there are many times that i am taken advantage of. it really hurts my feelings that those people only think of me as the person that will fix their problem and not as a friend.

Hi. Life is like that only. Our friends and relatives remember us only when they need something from us. People are becoming more selfish and materialistic and human values are getting lost. Perhaps we are also like that we remember someone when we are in some need. Let us take it on our stride because we just can not help it and change others' attitude.

Me neither. I consider these people hypocrites. They will be good to you when they think they stand to gain something which will benefit them. In order to deal with this kind of people, all you need to do is to feign ignorance and just play according to what they want first. But wait, that is not the end. I notice when they are good to you just when they need something, they will shower that person that they need help from, with a lot of compliments. At that moment, you will be tempted to oblige and then, you 'attack'. How would you attack? Here's a very simple way but takes practice to do. After you help them, be sure to insult them with simple, yet requires some time to understand kind of sentence. If you cannot grasp what I'm saying, here's an example. e.g. Two people named Henderson and the other Richard. These two people are performing artistes at a musical and Henderson is having his performance at a local theatre and Richard was invited to go. Henderson and Richard are rivals in the industry and Henderson then said this to Richard: "Hey dude, invite your friends to my performance tomorrow, if you have any." Richard replied with this: "Oh sure! I'll be glad to bring my friends but I would love to be invited to your second performance......if you have any. If you get the meaning, I think you'll be equipped with the ultimate weapon

When my son got his longboard last week, there was this neighbor who used to ignore him who came over and befriended him again. My mother-in-law asked if that kid usually plays with my son but i said no. My MIL said she hates kids or people that only befriends another because they needed something. She's a got a point. And i agree with her. I don't like such people too. They're way too placticky for me.

So many time i take this decision but i cant stay with this. Some days later i forgot all those things and trust those person as usual .. But i would like to congratulate you if u can....

I think everyone one point in there life or another feel this way. I myself have known and still know people of this nature and honestly it sucks when they call on you after you've not spoken to them for weeks or months to ask a favor. You know that they are only calling because they either know you have something they need, or you know someone that can help them. As I've aged, I feel people like that are on the bottom of my list and try to keep my distance from them and go with the flow of dealing with them by not letting them get under my skin. Best of luck trying to avoid them.

Hi Princess, I used to have a friend like that. I feel annoyed, of course. At the end, I just ignore this person. Like you said, I don't need a person who remember me when they need something from me.

Yes, there are people who exploit my friendship and sometimes I get the same feeling as you've felt. But there are some occasions when I approached some of my old friends (whom I almost forgot) for help, and I thought that they might have felt what I used to feel about my other friends who come for help to me only when they needed. And I understood that it's all a part of life and there's nothing wrong when people approach me only in need, because everyone of us are really busy in our daily life and don't have much of time to think about everyone and interact casually and routinely to avoid such feelings. But if I'm sure that a person is so selfish and wants use me for their needs, I'll try to avoid them.

I don't think your wrong at all. I have been dealing with this issue for a long time. I have now finally got some people out of my life that were like this. We shouldn't deal with these kind of people because all it does is hurt ourselves in the long run. The stress it gave me was not worth it. There are a few others I still need to weed out but that will take a little longer. I think we need to protect ourselves because no one else will do it for us.

I had this for years too. So I started to delete them all out of my life. Good news is I feel way more happy, these kind people only give you stress. The other good news is I can be me again (which makes me happy too).

Hi there Princess8881, That is the right way to do it girl. I never do stuff for other people that are not either my family member or my girlfriend. I would never do anything to endanger me in the process of providing help towards my friends. And besides i am really not a very helpful person i should say... Take care now cute one...

My dear you're not wrong to feel how you feel, and you're not being selfish either. There's something called self preservation and that's exactly what you're doing. You've to look out for yourself first, because those same users won't come to your assistance if ever you need it. Furthermore I advise you to stay away, you're trying to do that and I applaud you for taking that step. In one of my recent discussions, a mylotter aptly referred to those type of people as "takers", you don't need people like that in your life. I've had quite a few of those, and it's made me feel really bad that they would only talk to me when they want something, so I CUT THEM OFF. Be around people who can add value to your life, and vice versa. Let them call you mean or selfish, that's their problem, bottomline is they're the fake friends and you deserve to be treated better than that :) So keep your head up, brush them off your shoulders and keep moving on. You're doing the right thing :).

hi cez.. you know what i already encounter a person like that, its not sound really bad, but your right about that.. we must be careful a person especially to those have a bad intension, people like that MAKE ME SO SICK! i used to have a friends like that, even now i do have a friends like that they just want me to become friends because they benefits.. i observe them and all of them is not a real friend they just calling me when they need something from me.. i actually used to treat them every i'm with them, but i think its too much! they just want me because of that.. its really bad): so i decided to make a few but real friend.. than to have a bouquet of friends but have something but intension and they want.. i don't know what they likes that, i do be better to all of them, but i also observe that others their are backstabbers.. so i must be careful in people who i meet.. you too you should be careful, and choice a right friend :)