She's too fat
By success1625
@success1625 (533)
Trinidad And Tobago
March 13, 2012 12:33pm CST
A mylotter brought up an issue this morning, that made me recollect something a FORMER friend of mine did approximately one year ago.
I was friends with this guy for some years, I knew both him and his wife, I went to school with her actually. He was working(still is )a big time job as an engineer and she was studying to be a social worker. They have a son together and were married for quite some time.
But all of a sudden the guy stops talking to me, and starts avoiding me. A year ago I get a phone call from him asking if he could borrow some money.
I knew him to be a really cool friend, who would help anybody that needed it so I didn't hesitate to help him, even though he didn't speak to me for a whole year, and I'd lost communication with his wife as well.
When we met up for me to give him the money, I asked what was going, because this guy makes tons of money in just one month, he then shocks me with the following:
He'd left his wife the year before for another woman, and was living the high life but it was costing him and so he was now broke. But that's not what shocked me, he further revealed that he left his wife because she was TOO FAT.
Of all the BS reasons in the world, that one made me blow a fuse.
Now when they hooked up, they were both in school, and she was always a heavy set girl and he a slim guy. And of course with marriage and the birth of a son, she got a little heavier.
Well for those of you who don't know me by now, I can't stand stupidity and I'm very vocal about things I'm displeased about and I let him know what I thought about his dumb-@ss self. (I realised then and there why he stopped talking to me for a whole year,lolll)
Now here's the thing, I always say if a guy doesn't like his woman big, instead of looking for some slim chick, take the time, sit gently with your woman and nicely let her know her size is an issue. Then suggest that the two of you start working out together, and eating differently,healthy.
Don't let her do it by herself, be a support system for her even if you're a slim guy already. The two of you will be healthier together. My boyfriend works out with me and we don't live together, but he'll ask me from time to time "did you remember to workout today?" and that's because I "instructed" him to do so. He's my support system.
Men are visual creatures I get that, and sometimes we women get slack and let ourselves go, but my point is there are better ways to achieve results in situations like or similar to this one.
I'm a plus size 34 year old woman, I wear size 14 clothing to be exact, and my boyfriend is a really slim guy and even though he loves me how I am, because in his words "there's more to love" :-D, I'm currently on a mission to lose weight, not because he wants me to but because I want to be healthy, to live the rest of my life with him.
Oh yeah and we're going on an easter weekend vacation next month and I want to show off in a bathing suit and make him go "bow chickie bow bow", lolll.
Hope you're having a great day mylotters.
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9 responses
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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13 Mar 12
"Men are visual creatures" made me laugh. Women are FAR more visual (in my experience) than men - at least men with more than one brain cell. I have yet to meet a woman who really would accept a guy in spite of his looks but I know a couple of guys who are like that. Anyway, that's all generalisations and stereotypical nonsense: we're all different.
Personally, I think that guy needs a darned good slapping. He sounds like a child in a man's body: the "fat" excuse is precisely that - an excuse. He'd have left anyway because he wants to live a single life with lots of luxury and no responsibility (as shown by his lack of sense with money). He's just convinced himself that it's her fault - in typical leaver style - because it's easier to live with himself if he believes such utter nonsense.
That said, now I think of it I do know a couple of guys who are this stupid. But then their wives are generally the "dumb blonde" type who think that because a guy's macho, he's a real man and therefore a great catch. Never understood that, either.
Personally, I'm thin and always have been. My lady used to be thin but she's put on a LOT of weight in the last few years. So what? She's still the most wonderful creature ever to exist on the face of the planet. And she's MINE! So there! 
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@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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13 Mar 12
Thanks. Much nicer than one of my former employers who stated on my review that I had "a lack of ability to take things seriously". And he even put it in the "negatives" list! The cheek!
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 12
lollll, sounds like he had issues. you know they say misery loves company and I guess he wanted you to be miserable with him,lolll
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 12
You sound like you're loads of fun, I liked how you express yourself, made me smile, heh heh. And that's right you claim your woman,and be proud,lolll. Much kudos and props to you *thumbs up*
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@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
I am the very exact opposite of the word fat. Even for a guy, my figure is just not something I am okay with. My girlfriend who I have been with for the past nine years has started to gain weight and figure. She was slim and slender before but now we both know she is not. I tell her this but of course I also tell her that I'm okay with it. She would feel disappointed, naturally, but that just makes her want to work out. I always tell her that I'm okay with it and I don't want her to tire herself, but if she insists then I'm just there for whatever support I can give. She is still starting her routine to getting back her former figure and I usually make fat jokes about her then she would look at me with a smile and frown face then I would just laugh out and say, "You're still the sexiest woman to me". To me it just doesn't matter. She's a great person and I'm lucky to have her, we love each other, period.
I couldn't understand how that guy would do something so horrible. I wish he now lives a life which he deserves, miserable and lonely. I'm not usually one to wish somebody negatively but I'm just wishing he gets what he deserve and that's what I think it is.
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 12
Well I applaud for your approach in dealing with the situation and for the way you're supporting her, in spite of your in between fat jokes,lolll. Keep the love and support going :)
@wrknggirl68 (96)
• United States
13 Mar 12
Wow! That guy is a piece of human trash! I also agree with what some others are saying on here that it was an excuse. He would have had another reason if that one didn't exist. He just wanted to have his cake and eat it too! I'm pleasingly plump but I need to lose weight--FOR ME--! My small frame is overwhelmed and my knees hurt and I miss the flexibility to just run out and do things that tire me now. My husband and I love each other with all our faults--and there are some: )! That's the real deal. This sham of a man will never find true happiness until and IF he grows up. I hope you get your money back!
@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 12
Actually sweetie I got so mad at him, I didn't even want it back. I just wanted nothing to do with him, so I'm counting it a loss. Thank GOD it wasn't much so I'm at peace with that.
But yes that's another reason I want to lose my weight, my knees and back are killing me so when that happened the bell went off in my brain, it's time to get walking.
And you are so right, it is the real deal when you and spouse can love each other no matter what, tires and all,lolll
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
14 Mar 12
Some men be such jerks and your friend is one! I am a plus size woman. I am a size 32/34. I would like to lose weight because I am having a few minor health issues! That is a different discussion!
If this guys wife got bigger he should of confronted her,in a good way,about her weight and said he'd help! Instead he leaves her for another woman and is getting in money problems! Your friend is so stupid in more ways then one! So when his girlfriend puts on weight will he leave her to? Beauty is skin deep!I think this idiot needs to wake up and realize how stupid he is! He gives men a bad name!
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Mar 12
My dear you said everything I wanted to say but didn't and then some. Your question about his girlfriend putting on weight was so on point. I'm in complete agreement with you, he's an idiot and deserves every single thing he's getting.
@apoljuice1 (730)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
I'm sure he wouldn't have liked it if his wife thought he was too thin for her tast. I ust gotta say, good riddance. Besides, he might be scott free of a heavy partner, but he sure ha heavy problems. I bet he wishes he had his old life back. That should teach him a lesson.
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Mar 12
I agree with you good riddance, but I'm not so sure he wants his old life, when I spoke to him that day he wasn't sorry for what he did at all. But I do hope that he learns a valuable lesson, somewhere along the line.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Mar 12
Men are visual creatures? Well I can tell you women are visual creatures as well. And if men would realize that they might take care of themselves way better as they do. I find it astonishing how men each time seem to think and really believe we women like the way they look. Fat, thick belly, too hairy, hair out of nose and ears, too slim, etc etc. The only difference between most men and most women is that women can also appreciate the inside. This doesn't mean they are blind for what the guy looks like but in the end it's not the most important thing (and perhaps they also hope they can change them a bit). Men don't care, they dump you no matter what they look like or how old they are, for someone new. Just because you are too fat or too dull or too badly dressed or you delivered their baby.
I hope his ex is happy without him and lost a lot of weight. Happens frequently with women who are dumped, find theirselves back and have a great life without the never ending critiques of the (ex) husband. P.s. did you still borrow this guy money?
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Mar 12
No sweetie I didn't borrow the money from him, I loaned him the money, and left him with it 'cause I just didn't want to have anything more to do with him. Like I mentioned before, prior to him leaving his wife, because he was a well of guy he would always help people out when he could. He was a really cool guy before all of this...sigh, it's just sad.
@TrvlArrngr (4045)
• United States
14 Mar 12
What is crazy is that she was a bigger girl when he married her. If he didn't care for that type of woman - why was he even dating her? It just does not add up. Seems like a lazy excuse. She is better off without him!
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@r3jcorp (1382)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
Two years ago, I was really fat but very confident with everything. Now, I lost around 20 pounds and I thought this is my husband has been wishing for. But, he was asking me to eat more and to have more weight. He thinks that I look good with having an extra pounds and he was worried about my weight. I lost weight not because I reduced my food intake or exercise but because of worrying too much on problems.
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@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
I am fat also.But how can i be thin? i cant escape of eating.feel ungry if i diet...
