Absence makes the heart grow fonder and can make it go away further too
By success1625
@success1625 (533)
Trinidad And Tobago
March 13, 2012 1:09pm CST
Was thinking while driving today, that I've not seen my boyfriend in two weeks ( and trust me considering we use to see each other EVERY OTHER DAY before we became boyfriend/girlfriend this is basically new to me,loll), and most likely we won't be seeing each other for the rest of this month as he's deeply engrossed with his school work.
But while thinking about the phrase "absence makes the heart grow fonder" I said to myself yeah and it make the heart go further to. But does that mean that you don't love the person??
After seeking advice recently on mylot concerning an issue I was having with my beau, I've deceided that I am going to support him in his bid to attain his degree, because in his words "it's for the two of us to have a better life" (granted I already have a house, a permanent job and a new car and he only has his job; he's a teacher) I've also deceided that I'm not going to sit around pining for him.
There are things I can do,places to go, activities I can get invloved in, and whenever he's available, well we'll just spend that time together.
I'm done fussing about what the ideal relationship is suppose to be, thanks to all the views of you my wonderful mylotters :) you were a big help.
I've also concluded that whilst I'm getting adjusted to our situation, it's not going to be forever and I do love my beau :)
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
13 Mar 12
That made beautiful reading! 
I think that what is an ideal relationship for one couple is something so strange for another couple. I see my son and daughter-in-law and I couldn't possibly be in a relationship like them. I guess they have it off to a tee but I don't understand it all as he goes off to work and she is never sure what time he will be back. They don't seem to get a lot of quality time together as he runs his iwn business and it is time consuming, even at week-ends. But they are so happy and I don't say anything to them about how I see it from the outside.
You sound very wise to be supporting your future hubby 
and indeed there are many things that you can do, even thinking about when you will be together always. Are you creative? You could make things for when you will have your home together in your spare time.
You can always be here with us and I hope that you have told him that here you are in good company 
I think that what is an ideal relationship for one couple is something so strange for another couple. I see my son and daughter-in-law and I couldn't possibly be in a relationship like them. I guess they have it off to a tee but I don't understand it all as he goes off to work and she is never sure what time he will be back. They don't seem to get a lot of quality time together as he runs his iwn business and it is time consuming, even at week-ends. But they are so happy and I don't say anything to them about how I see it from the outside.
You sound very wise to be supporting your future hubby and indeed there are many things that you can do, even thinking about when you will be together always. Are you creative? You could make things for when you will have your home together in your spare time.
You can always be here with us and I hope that you have told him that here you are in good company
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Mar 12
Aww thanks for saying that sweetie. And I like your idea about being creative, I'll definitely work towards that.And yes I'm definitely in good company with you guys, no doubt. I pray that relationship between your son and his wife may it continue to blossom :)
Stay sweet mysdianait :-D
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
well, it could be true. I mean because of the need for comfort and love, any available substitute becomes welcome-able. Of course there are exceptions. My girlfriend and I actually just talked about this hours ago. We were talking about how it would be better for her to have a job abroad, but she objected the idea because she was afraid that she might get lonely and the possibility of finding comfort from another man. I was actually shocked to hear this from her, it made me feel sad, but said that I know she won't and I would still try to be there for her however possible.
Anyway,I'm happy to hear about your decision with regards to your relationship. I do hope it goes smooth and well. Good luck!
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
18 Mar 12
I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriends as we both have work in different states. We only started dating months ago and only met a couple of times. Of course, true to the saying, it does make our heart grow fonder as it said. But also sometimes make me wonder whether he'll grow tired of this kind of relationship. But we live in a world of technology. Far from eyes, near to ears right? We have phone, video call and email. I also told him that I am still here to stay and stay loyal as long as he is the same. Things still can work out when both side want to try. Good luck with your beau as well. Things will work out fine in the end.
@Cherish14 (2693)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
hi there,
i am in a long distance relationship. it is tough to tell you the truth. i don't get to hug or kiss and see him everyday and it makes me very very sad. he only comes home here to me once a year for 3 weeks. i love him and i don't want to lose him. what we have is just too special to just let go of. we are each others first boyfriend and girlfriend and we have been together for 7 years and 8 months now. but it is okay i understand, he lives and works there and our communication is constant. we call and message each other in every change we get and we are on skype everyday. i think it is all worthwhile 
@ellefable (48)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
i know someone who is in the same situation as you! the guy lives in the us now... where's your boyfriend btw? and you are in the phil? good luck with your relationship!
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
13 Mar 12
I understand where you're coming from. My boyfriend and I usually see each other about every day but sometimes we can't because our work schedules conflict. If I go a few days without seeing him I'll really start to miss him and be thankful when I see him next.
But, if we don't talk all day or something or can't see each other, sometimes I'm not that bothered with it. I do believe that absence can make the heart grow fonder, but at the same time it doesn't.
I'm kind of worried about this because my boyfriend leaves for the army soon and we won't really be able to talk or see each other for months. I love him with all my heart but I'm just worried that after awhile I'll just stop missing him so much.
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@success1625 (533)
• Trinidad And Tobago
14 Mar 12
I know you're worried, while reading your post I kept saying to myself "wow she must be really strong" because he'll be going away just now, for months. I do pray honey that the love the two of you have for each other will help to maintain your relationship while he's away.
@cleverland (150)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
Long distance relationship is hard to work out. My brother had 7 years of long distance relationship, they see each other every 2 years or sometimes not. They broke up for a while, maybe for several months. Got back together afterwards. And now, his girlfriend's pregnant and probably they're on wedding plans.
I think it's really hard...but, it's just really bout how deeply you love each other. Anyway, with my brother, they've been together even before they work abroad. It's really the love..When there's so much love, everything follows; understanding, patience,trust, honesty etc.
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