Why do men in good relationships cheat?

I don't think it's fair to think it's the woman's job to keep the man interested. It's a partnership, not a dictatorship. There should be an equal amount of pleasing and being pleased in the relationship. I think a lot of it is simply men's genetic wiring along with their desire to see what else is out there. Women seem to nest more whereas men feel the need to prove that they can get better. As for it being worked out, I think that's a very individual decision. It's the person who's being cheated on (man or woman because let's be honest - women cheat too!) who ultimately decides if they can continue a relationship with someone who betrayed their trust - and they should never feel like they have to just because of the vows they made when the vows were broken the moment their partner cheated.

"It is really hard to stay faithful, can't blame anyone, i'm only human", these were the words of my friend. He has a nice job, a nice home, and a very kind beautiful wife, but in spite of those, he has a mistress. What really puzzles me why on earth should he be in such a situation knowing him as as a principled gentleman, a loving father and an affectionate husband. He fell in love with another woman who is quite the opposite of his wife, and admittedly he is happy being with her, and yet he don't want to lose his wife. Confusing...

I have to agree and disagree with one of your statements,"if it doesn't get fulfilled at home he will find it somewhere." Yes, if a man isn't being fullfilled at home, more than likely he is going to go somewhere else, but I work around mostly men. I listen to them talk and I know many of them are being satisfied at home, but they are also being satisfied outside of the home. I have also seen a few women that I work with who throw themselves at these men. It's sickening! What irritates me even more is seeing these men give in and not just sexually, but they spend money on these women, buy them food, drinks, gas, and even straight up give them money. I will be honest, I can tell you which men I work with would cheat, would "like" to cheat, and the ones who have no interest in it. Sometimes and most of the time, it is the ones who most people don't think would cheat who are cheating or want to cheat. I don't understand why men do it, I think sometimes it has to do with the women who are throwing themselves on the man and other times it is a self esteem issue. I do know one thing, if I got cheated on, then I don't need it. Some women can forgive and forget, but you never really forget.

hi there, men are polygamous in nature and yeah i hate that fact. but i think also women have to keep their relationships more and more interesting and alive as if it is still their first dates, because i think when men are becoming bored, they tend to look for someone more interesting. or even if they wont look for someone like that, eventually they will meet someone, even a coworker, who they would find more interesting than you are. i wish people don't cheat, but rather, just break up with their partners first before they look for someone new. but we know sometimes, they want to have some fun outside the relationship without losing their girlfriend/boyfriend. but if you really love your partner, you will never do anything that can hurt your boyfriend/girlfriend right? oh and yeah i guess it can be worked out, just as long as you give it a chance and forget about the past. it is kind of hard though, but at least you tried.

I think it always comes a bit from both sides. Not that I'm saying the partner is to blame for their cheating, but if they're all completely happy in their relationship then why would they search it somewhere else, right? It's not exactly true that men have a one track mind btw, some of us do know how to contain ourselves. In my experience (yes women cheat as well) it's not possible to continue loving someone after they destroyed every bit of trust there was in the relationship, but I suppose it depends on the people involved. Some can deal with it, others can not.

I don't think that it's only the men that cheat I have to believe that both men and women cheat, which side does it more often than the other I don't really know. Why is it a womans job to keep the relationship interesting? If both parties aren't participating in keeping the spark alive in a relationship then really what's left? Companionship? Convenience? I have known different couples that one or the other have cheated on the other without really having a reason, I have to believe if that urge to be with someone new creeps up, your bored with your relationship, lacking excitement, thrill? whichever it gives that person the desire to cheat to fulfill what they themselves are lacking not what the relationship they are involved with is lacking. Role play pretend your partner is the other person and not the one your with? There are ways to fix what's wrong or what is causing the feeling to want to be with someone else, but it will only work if both parties are on board with making it work.

Sometimes when men are extremely nice, thoughtful and caring, they are trying to compensate for their actions and could be feeling guity. People in healthy relationships argue sometimes, so whenever everything is always peachy-peachy, that is a sign that someone in the relationship is not being honest.

I think that often we can become disillusioned and disatisfied with what we have in our lives. We may feel like we are in a rut. The temptation to find something else and cheat on a relationship can become something to relieve the mundane existence we feel we have been burdened with.

its really hard to tell why men can do infidelity even he has a happy family. maybe there is really a problem within the relationship that they keep on denying to themselves. only the couple really know why such thing will happen and most especially the husband. sometimes, unintentionally, a wife can make moves or actions that can make her husband find other woman and most of the times the husband is just acting normal as if its all okay with him only to find out that he is having an affair. as always, the wife is the last person to know. it can be fixed as long as both are willing to do so and it depends on how deep the affair already is. the wife will naturally feel devastated about it and the husband will keep on defending his self. but at the end of the day, they should agree on what is really important for them.. most of the times, the husband still goes back to his family after he find it hard to live without them. the question is, will the wife still willing to accept him. for me, i will in a condition that it will be the first and last infidelity he will do. how can i be sure then? i really don't know but trusting him will be hard and he needs to prove him self worthy of the trust again.

I don't know why they turn so quick and whats in their mind.I think sometimes woman are very attractive to man,and it is deceiving you.I hate that kin of man i don't like because they are cheater.

First of all I don't think that's a woman fault that a man cheat on her(because he does not get enough at home). So many cases happen where woman take care the family and the husband well but cheating still happen. Sometime it's just a character of some men that they can not stand of seeing beautiful or sexy woman even though he already has beautiful woman at home. Or some man just want to do it during the lunch break at job. So again to me I don't always believe that man cheating is caused by woman. Second of all, marriage is about two people making compromise in live, so everything should be mutual. Take care the marriage to stay strong is not only woman or man job but both of them should work together. If the feeling between each other is no longer mutual, no respect from each other or cheat the othe part then something wrong and both woman and man take responsibility to solve the matter together. It will never gonna work if only one part try to fix it. If there's love left between them they should be able to work together

so many people both men and women easily get bored in relationships ,they get tired of doing the same thing ,watching the same face ,discussing the same things,in as much as i don't condone cheating, no body eats the same type of food everyday.the way out of this is to spice up the relationship by developing other interests together and try to look hot for him or her, most guys stop bothering about that once they are in steady relationships

Yes but TRUST can be a big issue here. You may keep on trying to forget the past but since there are instances that issue might be brought out during a heated argument, the victim should be more patient with the situation. Being cheated the first time, is a tough thing to bear. Because men tend to exaggerate their exploits while women tend to downplay the and if women downplay them, it proves that they too are having a good time in this infidelity game but don’t really care to talk about it. Females have a different way of architecture than men in that they don’t think that love making is important to survive. Some do prefer to go shopping instead than fully engage in an entire afternoon of lovemaking.