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@bonding2 (219)
South Africa
March 14, 2012 6:49am CST
why is it that when a man loses his source of income in a relationship ,the love dies instantly ,instead of my love or darling ,he will now start bearing his real name
5 responses
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
14 Mar 12
My husband lost his job last year and we didn't lose our love or our relationship. Some men just let things break there ego instead of getting right back up and going out in to the world and trying for a new job. My husband found a job with in a week of losing his job, filled for unemployment didn't get any money but we did have to go 2 month with no income because his job didn't start for another month. We had at that time a 6 month old and his job didn't care to let him go when he didn't do anything.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 May 12
Sorry to hear that your husband lost his job. It's a good thing thought that you both were able to make it through that time. That your relationship was able to endure the stress that the loss of a job would bring on a family.I'm glad that he was able to find a job quickly. Times like those can be overwhelmingly stressful.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
1 May 12
We where lucky. It took him one whole month to get a job he didn't start till it was 2 months later but over all he has been there almost a year. Makes more then what he did at his old job. He is now trying as of today to get a management or get a job at one of the hospital around town. Where we live there is a lot of medical things and if you can get in to one of those you are set for a while in a every good job in this lower economical area we live in. My parents paid a month and half worth of rent for us in that time frame. Right now we are almost money wise in stable condition.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
We are living in a material world. We cannot survive on love alone. It is not true that when we are hungry, love will keep us alive. I think it is quite normal for a relationship to sour when there is no source of income. It's not actually love for money but how do we survive in this world without it? If my partner loses his job, I would not be particularly worried because I am still capable of supporting him but what if both of us don't have income?
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
Welcome to Mylot Bonding!
Like they say... "No money.. No honey.."
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 May 12
Yes money is important to most people. Money in many ways is a protection. It is a great resource to have but it isn't everything. It has become more difficult for people to balance how they feel about money and keep a realistic view about obtaining it.
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 12
i hate the condition too, but modern life is all about the money. I hope someday this will change.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
1 May 12
Yeah it is really sad to see the situations of today. With the way the economy is everyone is having a hard time. So they focus on money and what it can get them. It is very difficult to be different and keep other priorities first.
@NMorris (6)
• United States
15 Mar 12
not sure it's clear what you mean, but I will say that on the average men suffer more than women when losing a job. There can even be deep shame in it. Relationships can go through really rocky periods because of it. Because of expectations. They take their active role of contributing more seriously.
I, famously (among my family and friends), do not. :-) My light and breezy attitude has been truly beneficial.
