How We Became HELPFUL and CARING?

That is a hard question Neil, because I'd like to say we are taught how to care, but I think it depends on the individual's level of compassion. Perhaps this level of compassion is destroyed due to circumstances or what they have experienced in life. I know that if I am not aware, I am seem uncaring, but it is usually the environment, like I am distracted by everything what is going on around me, or even something not seen, like I am hungry or cold. When one has distractions like this, it causes him or her to quit focusing on others and focusing on his or her own needs. Okay, that is enough of Communication class, but I think if you were to ask your girls if they had considered helping their mother, or were they distracted, you might find they had something on their mind or something. As for tagging, I notice sometimes I have to tag multiple times, I think it is a glitch, so if I already tagged, I just hit the "skip" button...

Tags, comments, discussions. I am so confused! I think people do have goodness in them naturally just as there are psychopaths born unbeknowst to themselves or others until their actions show them for what they are. I think some kids at teen age years don't want to show any emotion or caring for others because it isn't cool too.

Hi, being a helpful and caring people, I think It's natural to us to be that way. It's automatic from us when we saw people in need. We always intend to help others what ever status in life we have. Maybe in runs trough our culture. And we are known for that. Regarding the tagging system I experienced that too, tagging my own response to comment. But sometime it skipped and directed to the main discussion. Maybe your right it's only a glitch.

If you help and care somebody, it is from your heart. If you see people who need help just think of yourself. Time will come you will be the one who need help and need to be cared of.

The first answer is. Doing to others and we would like them to do to us. If you can go through like with this one thing in mind you will have the secret to human relationships.

i agree... we do learn it from our first teachers, our parents. but at some point in our lives, we spend more time outside of our family than inside. that makes the influence of our surroundings more influential. so i suppose parents should always be there to guide their kids. Tell and remind them every time that they should be caring and helpful whenever they can

I would like to say that being kind and caring is within us and has nothing to do with our parents or family. I grew up with a father who loved to scam everyone to support his gambling addiction and a mother who never cared about anyone except herself. But this never really stopped me from showing kindness to people, even if I am being scammed by these people. I remember just the other day that my hubby was surprised that I let a little girl sit on my lap while going home. Our place here in San Mateo is a little remote and the jeepney ride home is filled to the brim with passengers most of the time. This father had his little girl climb inside the jeepney while he hung by the side rails. I took pity on the little girl because she was almost thrown off the jeep so I let her sit on my lap.

neildc For me it started before grade school as my father was a doctor and i wanted to be one and help people. then too my parents took, my mom's father into our own home so I had my dear grandpa to give me prime examples of compassion and caring and being helpful. My parents, mostly my mom,also showed me be example too.then when I grew up I became a nurse's aide as I loved helping other people.I think the tagging thing must be a glitch I have not se e in it myself.

Hello my friend neildc Ji, I am the firm opinion that human beings have nature to copy others, so newly born child start copying and learning immediately after birth. Simlarly, children copy parents. In today's paper also researchers have found taht active parents will induce activeness among their children. So obiously, it is inherited from parents only. May God bless You and have a great time

I think parents can help a lot by the way they raise kids but once we are like 18 we really can think for ourselves and become the person we want so it's really the individual's fault. It's easier to not care, it's more painful but easier. Many people are sad, depressed, complaining but they really never help others and it's a two way street, when we don't give we don't receive and that's why we feel lonely and empty. Volunteering is a good therapy :D

We got it from our parents and how they brought us? Partly yes and partly is a choice. The society plays a big part and the freewill. I wonder why some kids from a very known good parents become brat and spoiled, can we put the blame totally to the parents? No parents ever wanted to raise a bully and bad kid, but there are kids who grows up bully and bad. It's a choice and freewill, parents always give guidance to their kids, it depends on the kid what way to choose, either the path leading to good results, or the path leading to destruction.

We can be helpful and caring when we can render our service without any string attach to those persons who are needing.......

That's the question of nature (genes) versus nurture (upbringing/external factors). How much of our personality comes from our DNA and how much from our upbringing? The truth is they just don't know yet. They've proven aggression can be genetic, but as far as I know that's about it. Personally I think it's a combination of both. When it comes to being helpful and caring I think it's mostly due to upbringing. It's something parents pass on to their children.

In my analysis and personal learning, I came to realize that in our life, there is are different stages. One stage is when we usually focus on ourselves. The benefits we can get, how we can get more than others, how we are ahead, how we have more while others have not. There are still many people in their old age who have this thinking and attitude. They have not grown up. However, there are people who doesn't stay on that stage but grow up to a point where they are more focused on others more than themselves. When a person is in this stage, he demonstrates by helping others even when it requires him to spend or lose something or may cause inconvenience. He has arrived to a point where he is willing to be inconvenient for the convenience of others. I want to be in this stage. It's difficult to practice it on a daily basis but if we do it more, we can form the habit of caring and helping for others.

any one can put a tag on your post you dont really have to do it its normal

Its either within us or it isn't. I'm going to agree with Angelgee up there on the first page because I've seen more than enough parents do everything they can to raise good, well behaved children only for the kids to grow into evil spawn. My parents taught us about selflessness and all that, but I also exposed to many very cruel and heartless individuals day in and out. I really believe its those people who treated me unkindly who are the reason that I want to be helpful and caring today rather than because of anything my parents taught me. Maybe that doesn't make sense, but if they had not treated me that way I would never be able to understand what other people are suffering.

I guess, it is innate to most of us to be helpful and caring. We have our conscience that nudge us to help and care if we know what to do in a situation. In the case of your wife's daughters, maybe they are at a loss on how to deal with such situation, or they simply doesn't want some mud spattered on their clothes.

we must be caring and kind care and everything else. it is very important how we raised what is our attitude towards people who can not cope and they just need a little help. I always hope I can help and be caring and kind to be careful and loving. caused by access to multilingual good that somewhere there are people who need you and you can help them. nice day!...

Helping others is good to be apply because the more we help the more we are helps by others. It is good to helps others,and example to what you said.Yes i have problems posting here in the past days,don't know maybe my lot has problems.

hi sir , helping people is really great but there is an important thing we have to teach our friends sons and daughter that we have a rule for everything : if u give helping hand you will got helped one day .