Leave or left behind
By jonnifc
@jonnifc (1017)
Philippines
March 14, 2012 12:13pm CST
There are a lot of people who go to other countries to work or to start the process of migration. When this happens, there are important people who gets left behind. They say it's easier to be the one who leaves because he gets to be in a new place and experience new things. But he ends up longing for the one he left behind and everything else in the place he left from. And they say it's harder for the one who got left behind because she gets to live in the same place. She sees places, experiences, eats food and even smell things that have memories attached to them. Memories with the one who left. I've never been the one who was left behind, but leaving, I think, is equally painful. Living with longing is just as painful as living with memories. What do you think?
2 responses
@TheIzers (680)
•
15 Mar 12
Both facing different challenge and and I believe it would be hard for both side. I left my bf years ago to start a new job at other state and it wasn't easy for both of us even though I saw new place, met new people but my mind binding somewhere else. Same as my bf it was not easy at his side he call me every day just to hear my voice, both of us were just miserable. So definitely I said painful at both side.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
I agree. But you know, there's a part of me that thinks we should welcome tests or obstacles in our relationship, such as geographical separation. It will be painful but if your relationship goes through it successfully, you'll know that it's meant to last. You passed the test. But then again.......it hurts.
@god_is_good (683)
• Philippines
14 Mar 12
Those are wonderful points to ponder upon. I agree with you that there's always pain whether we are the who leaves or left behind. In my life, there are times that I was the one leaving. I don't exactly know what my parents felt when I left them for school, and when I left them to work in another place. I felt the pain when someone important left me for another country and returned back with a very painful news. Until now, the memory still lingers in my mind and in my heart so I still feel the pain of being left behind. However, it's one way for us to grow in our emotion and learn something, then move on.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
I also wonder how my father felt when he had to leave us to work in another country. But I know that every once in a while, the feeling of wanting to spend some time with him kinda crept up on me. I guess we do grow when we learn to accept some of these hard emotions and get past them. Somehow, though, I can't help but think that I don't ever want to lose the "missing" part, because if I do, it would just mean that I don't care about them as much.
