What do you think of a white lie?
By Archaiwy
@Archaiwy (599)
China
March 14, 2012 8:11pm CST
One should be honest to others. But sometimes, in order not to hurt others, he has to lie and in some cases when others find he has lied, they regard him as dishonest.So he is hurt.Mylot friends, is it fair for the person with a white lie?What do you thinnk of it?
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15 responses
@elementah (106)
• United States
15 Mar 12
The only situation in where you should tell a white lie is to keep their feelings from getting hurt and give them more self confidence or something. Although, it is not good to do that if it hurts them somehow. Like if your friend is wearing something really hideous to her first date, you should tell her in some kind of nice way that she should wear something else or something. Like "I think that other outfit looks better on you." But if it's something insignificant, then I think it's appropriate for a white lie.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
16 Mar 12
yeah, i quite agree with you.There are only some cases where one can lie in order not to hurt others. If the lie has no good to everyone,it is bad.One should be kind and true to others although sometimes the words don't sound somewhat bad.So when one tells the truth, he had better learn how to speak well.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Mar 12
I think you should never lie to anyone even a white lie can get out of hand. One lie leads to more lies is how I see it. Even if the truth hurts some times its better to say it then keep from someone and try to cover it up to make it a better half truth.
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Mar 12
Although the honesty is a virtue, however, sometimes I think the white lies is necessary. For example, if your friend who had a terrible haircut and asked for your comment about it. Most of the time you will say you look great. Won't you?:) It is nothing wrong with it.
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@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
15 Mar 12
I think sometimes well-intended white lies can escalate out of all proportion, and actually become damaging. I think it is possible to be honest without hurting someone else's feelings, largely by the way we say something to them. Before we dive into honesty though, I believe we ought to plan out what we are going to say very carefully first, in order not to upset somebody else. I do think at the end of the day, most people prefer a totally honest approach.
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
Even if it's a white lie or a black lie, It's still a lie. But sometimes we really have to lie in order for us to protect someone. It maybe unfair, but in the end we're doing this for the sake of protecting the people you love. It all depends on how grave the lie can be.
@konomashii (49)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
yes, it would be fair, but of course not for all instances,like asking them "how do i look?" as their friend, we'll say "you look good" even not, or "pretty much better".that's life. we have to tell lies in order not to hurt anyone we love.
Anyways,in my opinion, there's no such thing as "white lies". They are still lies. whether good or bad for ourselves and friends. they are still considered lies. Is there any good lies??i don't think so.But "THERE IS GOOD IN LIES". am i right? if we are REAL FRIENDS of our friends, even if its upsetting, we should tell what's TRUE. its the best way of showing our love and sincerity to our loved ones.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
The end justifies the means. When lying is done to protect in such a way that it would be positively beneficial, then to some extent doing so would be applicable. Actually, I would consider it an honest way of extending help, lol! But on the contrary, if it would be too often or leads to another lie, then the means would not justify the end.
@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
A white lie is a small, almost insignificant lie that should not be justified at any time. That said, I use them often. For me, still its a sin. Telling the truth should be the good thing to do rather than appreciating someone with a lie.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
15 Mar 12
A white lie or a lie of any other color (smile) or form is still a lie.., only that it (the lie ) is categorized as such. Interestingly, these categories of lies have been established to express the relative seriousness of the effect of each type of lie being told.
However, should'nt we be concerned with the immediate and long term effect of telling a lie on the integrity of the relationships that we have with each other? I think that if we bear this major concern in mind, then persons should be worried about the 'potential fallout' that may occur, should they consider telling lies.
@TingYuGuo (2)
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15 Mar 12
I think that if a person lies in order to protect someone, the person should be forgiven. we shouldn't regard him as dishonest.nobody in the world never lies.it is not fair for the person with a white lie if people regard him as dishonest when he lay to others just in order to let someone he loves not to be hurt.
@cleverland (150)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
It's forgivable, but still, it's a lie. All of us had somehow done this in our lives, so I guess it should not be taken to heart. It could be unfair only if the person whom we lied to feel that way and anyway they're allowed to. I think it's just about telling the truth eventually and forgiveness from the other party.
If it's a very serious case, then honesty is really required. No more, no less than a lie or even a white lie will make the situation better.
@florizel (58)
• Philippines
15 Mar 12
If you really love a person and sometimes you've done something wrong to that person whether intentionally or not, for you not to hurt the feelings, white lies is necessary. But if you know that the person is brave enough to accept the pain then you better tell the truth, so that you will not deceive her/him and you will not be accused as a liar. It's always a case to case basis, remember that, Truth will set you free, but things that they don't know wont hurt them.
@Cranos (273)
• Belgium
15 Mar 12
Well that's very situational because it depends on so many factors from the people involved to what the actual lie is. Sometimes even a white lie can do a lot of damage and other times it can easily be explained and forgiven. So someone who told a white lie won't always be regarded as generally dishonest and if they do, it's not certain that he deserves it.
I'm sorry if I got confusing but I'm not sure if it's possible to give a more general answer than that.