Holding on or letting go? :(

Im actually sort of having the same problems right now. It's hard to let go, learned that the hard way. My previous relationship, the guy broke up with me. I was crushed and I promised myself that I would never do that to someone else. So, now, I've been with another guy for over a year, but it doesn't feel right. I thought breaking up would be easy because after all, you're the one who chose to leave, rather than being left. But when I did say that I wanted to break up, I was crying my eyes out. I couldn't let go even if I wanted to. This is partly because I know that I would be causing him the pain that I had felt when I was left. It made me feel guilty. Plus, the guy was being so nice, telling me he loves me but if that's what I want then that's what he would do. I guess only you can answer that. I would not even say what I did next because even me thinks it's a jerk move. But just let go if you really feel that there's no reason to hold on. If you're letting go because you're afraid of something, then muster up you're courage and hold on. But if you know that there's nothing there, let go. It would hurt you both, but in the end, it'll save you both a lot of pain. But still I know, easier said than done.

What was the reason that you want the person to stay or to let go? If you want him to let go for the reason that you don't love him anymore, that's being fair. Because no matter that you want him to stay if there's no love anymore time will come it will only end and it will be more painful. But if you still love him and you want him to let go, that's really confusing, so may i know what was the real reason why you want him to let go? As far as im concern, if i love the person and i know that he loves me too i will fight for him no matter what.

i agree with you that it is a braver and more dignifying to let go someone than to keep him/her without the necessary emotional attachment anymore. however, i also go for keeping someone as long as there is room and attachment to fight for. love is worth fighting for especially if true emotional sentiment is involved.

It's hard to let go someone we love. However, it is even harder to keep and stay in a relationship when someone doesn't cooperate or lost the love. It takes a lot of courage to let go of someone, but it's the best way than holding on to a love that will never prosper in the end and will hurt you more.

Holding on is opening yourself to more pain. While it is heartbreaking to let someone you love go, if it is the best option, do it. You will have more time to move on. Analyze the situation carefully. If your partner no longer cares, I believe it is time to let go but if this is only a misunderstanding or a usual problem in the relationship, do your best to remain strong and supportive. It is difficult making a decision while you are hurting. Give yourself sometime to think things out before you make the final step.

had a relationship for almost one year. when one year was about to get finish she started avoiding me and ignoring me . i said many things that don't leave me i can't live without you etc etc . later i asked my self a question why am i holding her even though she is not willing to . she did what she wanted so was no one to hold her . and made her go.