There are times when my friends really fail me.

I can certainly relate. Do you think it has anything to do with the way your friend(s) look at you if your answer or comment tends to be bizarre? Body language tells alot. I really do the same thing to friends or acquaintances especially if we are talking about something that is different. I generally use my family as references because they know me best. In my defense, I can say that friends in the past have lied to me about various things and I question their honesty. Therefore I put up this defense, in my mind, and think they are questioning my honesty. As I get older it doesn't matter whether someone believes me or not because I know the truth and really don't need to prove it. I try to surround myself with people who are positive, outgoing and very friendly. It lifts my spirit and hopefully in return I can lift their spirit with the same attitude.

I do not know what thing you have to prove to your friends. But I do agree that sometimes we have to rely on our self and not to our friends. Because sometimes they too have problems of their own that needs their full attention. We cannot force them to show concern to us when they too are experiencing hardship. It you know your friend well you will understand. Do not let it hinder your friendship. It is just how it is sometimes. Just be brave and face it. When I am down What I do is listen to religious songs that tells me that I am not alone. There is God. He will be with me through my successes and failures.

Should your happiness really depend on the actions of others??? I think not. Perhaps it's time to be the best of friends yourself. Teach your friends how a good friend should be. Let's never forget that communications is key in all relationships.

Well I guess may be because you yourself are always ready to give proofs to other people. See if you do something, do it because YOU like it, because YOU want to do it, because YOU know YOU can do it better than others. Whom do you want to prove it and for what? If you are speaking the truth, you don't need to keep giving references to people about it being a fact. If they believe you, then good, if not then why do you feel you need to make them believe that what you are saying is true. I feel that you have taken too much burden upon yourself of proving to people about your worth or may be everything you say or do. As far as demoralizing friends are concerned, I would say that those you claim to be your friends or who you think are your friends and they demoralize you...they are certainly not your friends. Good friends will always be around you at the time of need, they will support you and boost your spirits. It will be better to corner from such friends. Be positive, think good and stop proving your words and actions to other people. Say and do things which are right and give you happiness. Good Luck!

There is nothing you have to prove. This is just what you think. If it would really come to prove those who expect this from you won't believe you anyway. Just stick to yourself, be yourself, do what you like and what is good for you. If people can't accept you that way, don't invest in them. Stay away. With being yourself you will find people who like you and accept you and respect you. I alway sticked to myself, already as a kid. And yes I had very bad times, lost many people, also had to delete many so called friends and bad family out of my life. the result is I am me! I am free and I feel so happy. It was worth it.

I visited a childhood friend this past summer and although it was a fairly nice visit, I couldn't help but feel sorry for her because her husband had had a stroke and is not able to do much and not able to live with her anymore. She is sad and depressed and there was nothing I could do or say that would lift her spirits much because she knows that her husband will never be the same again. I noticed that she never laughed but we sure cried a lot over her situation and my pathetic life also, I think that a person just has to do things they enjoy and make their own happiness.

Sometimes we realize who are true friends are. It seems with the friends you are describing they are not true friends or they wouldnt treat you that way. My sisters friend never comes to her kids birthday parties and my sister always goes to her kids birthday parties. A few days ago her friend invited her and her daughter to her daughters birthday party. My sister asked if it was just for her and her daughter or if her son could come too. Her friend told her that her daughter didnt like my sisters son so she would feel bad for her daughter if my sisters son came to her daughters party. Wow what a great friend. I might not like all my kids friends but I tolerate them and am always nice to them and never exclude them out of respect to my friends.

Honestly I can't understand your point at all but then as I could imagine your friends are always against of what you are saying. Sometimes some of them have the guts not to take your side. I have some other friends who became my agony as well to the extent that she always contradict my statements. I hate that. Then now one of my cousins is doing it. So they must expect that I can also be against of their statement if they don't want to take my side while I am right.

hi there, my friends sometimes fail me too like in the sense that they are not being good friends to me. i don't like it how they wont care because it is not their problem and it is mine but that's okay now. i don't give it much attention now and i just shake it off. and with that i feel liter and it doesn't give me that much stress. if they don't care that much then i wouldn't too. i just learned so much from the past. and there is nothing for me to prove, if people don't like me then so be it but i wont live in their expectations. life is too short to be pleasing other people, including your family and friends, but you cant do what make you truly happy and free.

I have to say I have some really amazing friends very rarely do they bring me down, if they do it's because they are trying to knock some reality into my head.

P.S. I had a friend whose really tough on me..Like she has always had to say something to what I say. Yeah, there were several times that we almost fought. But then, we control ourselves. We understood each other, be quiet and far from each other for a while (like 3 hours) without talking.. Then we would talk again as if nothing happens. We don't hold grudges and anger. I think that's important.

So then just don't let them let you down. Try to overcome getting hurt every time you're being questioned. It's a challenge for you to just be you, sharing you're opnions, gain respect without the need for you to prove something. Or just tell em the truth that you're hurt and if they are you're true friends, they will listen to what you said that you're hurt and they'll be careful the next time. If not....well, I don't know then.