Peace as a MOM!
By ymitchell42
@ymitchell42 (79)
United States
March 16, 2012 8:30pm CST
As a mom of a 3 year old at the age of 42, you say 'there is no peace", but I have learned patience and endurance after being blessed with and raised a 21 year old and a 19 year old. At times I wonder what I was thinking but with older children I have lots of help with the 3 year old. My 3 year old is an awesome helper and as long as I keep her busy with the chores that I have to accomplish, it makes it all worth it. When we have lunch or dinner together she begins to ask lots of questions, which make me understand how much her mind is active in wanting to learn and know things.
As a child growing up, I never really got close to my mother until my adult years. We are best of friends now and with the best relationship ever. I respect her so much as a mother because she gives me so much insight and wisdom. I want so much to be close to my children, so I can provide that wisdom passed down from my mother in the early stages of thier life.
The more you talk to your children and listen closely to them, without any distractions as they talk to you, they seem to trust you more and understand they can come to you with anything without you judging them, but understanding and offering advice. This is how I have peace as a mom, by just listening to my children. How do you obtain peace with your children?
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Mar 12
hi y mitchell I loved the three year old stage of my two,.sadly we lost our little girl when she was just 8. this is something one just worksthrou gh and lives through.we were blessed to have her for at least those 8 years.both were a lot of fun at three and of course a few temper tantrums. but you now after raising a 19 yr old and a 21 yr.old have all that great experience. so it should be easier this time around lol.I can bet the older kids do have fun with the three year old. they are so avid to learn at that age and ask real deep questions at times. I was close to my mother when I was little and when I was adult too. I was close to my son as he turned out to be our only child. sadly he and his dad were never close and I never really understood why not. It hurt my son and when my husband finally did reach out my son no longer trusted him.so I was caught in that war between father and son, .loving both but feeling irritated that my husband had not made the effort when his and my son first wanted his dads love and attention. Go figure .
@ymitchell42 (79)
• United States
17 Mar 12
Hi there Hatley, I am sorry for your loss I had a loss as well carried my son for 20 weeks and delivered him with one gasp and he passed away. It is the hardest thing to lose a child. I cried for at least week until I realized God healed me and I was able to have this last one. Kids are strong spirited and showing them love at an early stage really helps them get through all the stages they go through. Stay encouraged and be blessed always.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
18 Mar 12
For me, I have found that the most important thing that I can do as a mother to find peace is to make sure that I do have a little bit of time every day that is my time. If I didn't have that little bit of time every day, then I think that I would have gone insane a long time ago.
The other thing that has always been important to me is that my children (they are nine and five years old) know that they have to listen to what I have to say. However, I also want them to know that I am there for them whenever they have something that they need to talk to someone about.
In that way I want to be a disciplinarian first and a friend second. When they are older I will be better able to be a friend, but at the age that they are right now, they need a disciplinarian more than a friend.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
i always find peace in my little son. whenever i feel giving up, he is the source of my strength side from God. i am a working mom and being expose with lots of stress in my work environment, i am always looking forward to going home. i always wonder how this 21-month old son could wipe away the fears and make me feel secure whenever i am with him. i find it really magical when my feelings suddenly change from being irritated and with lots of burdens to a calm and peaceful me, whenever i am with him. the moment i see his face, his smile and how he is delighted by seeing us at home at last after a long day of working outside, i cannot explain the joy i am feeling. i can not explain it more and words will not really be enough.
