Does being single for a long time mean that A person is boring?
By jd107nette
@jd107nette (1454)
Philippines
March 16, 2012 8:36pm CST
i've never had a boyfriend before and i've heard people talking about me saying that i act like an elder sister or a mother towards them so they feel that they must move away from me hahahaha.
but does it mean that if a person is single for like, uhm, 10 years, does it mean they are boring already?
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12 responses
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Hi!
I am single too. I dont think i would consider myself boring. Lets just say that i am quite "reserve"???
@dazzledlady (1618)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Me too, I am single and I do not consider myself boring. I maybe boring to them but not to me. I always believe that I do not deserve a guy who does not take his time to know me better. hahahaha "reserve" yes, there's more than meets the eye. And I think that in a relationship it is important to know your partner better to make a lasting relationship. Relationships are trial and error but I do not think that you should try without weighing the probability.:P
@rosesthorns14 (803)
• Philippines
23 Mar 12
Not at all. It's their opinion but you know yourself better than they do. If you've been single for 10 years, that is not a good excuse to be called boring. It means you've been loving yourself too long that you have no problems being unattached to anyone.
@yanzalong (18988)
• Indonesia
18 Mar 12
I wish I were single, you know. The opposite of being single is being married. If you are not single that means you are married. Getting married is a must for men in my religion on condition that the men have capability to do it (financially and physically). When you see someone still single, you can not draw the conclusion that he or she is bored. It doesn't have anything to do with being bored.They may be still seeking someone they like. Bitter experience might make them more careful, you see.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
17 Mar 12
Not necessarily. Maybe you have to wait for that someone that would like someone like that. Actually, not even sure what you mean, but if you tend to like to tell them what to do, well, I must admit I wouldn't want someone like that. I'm sure you will find someone because that were true, that would make me very very boring, since I didn't find anyone until 45. I had some girlfriends, but never serious enough to get intimate with. And at one point, I went 17 years with no relationship and it wasn't because I didn't want one. So if I found someone, so will you. But really, when you do, try to treat him as close as equal as you can.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
Just because you have been single for the past 10 years , doesn't mean that you are boring. That's your preference and you are perhaps happy with it, so don't be bothered by what other people would say about it.
But if it bothers you now, then perhaps you can socialize more, so you could meet someone that you could eventually share your life with. Pray for it .
@karstine29 (694)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
haha.. i don't think so. Most of my friends envy those who are still single because they can still enjoy their life well. Most of my friends are enjoyable to be with even if they live their lives independently. Maybe I don't feel bored with these friends of mine who are still single because we enjoy our lives as a group.
@ellefable (48)
• Philippines
17 Mar 12
it does not mean being boring at all! maybe you are not ready yet or you haven't just met the one. or maybe you prefer to be single, that is your choice. do not let what other people say bring you down, have confidence with your self and try to mingle with other people. im pretty sure you will find your match soon!
@EwanScarlette (51)
• Singapore
17 Mar 12
Not Necessary sister!, you see, it doesn't mean your single for 10 years means your boring,if your wanting to meet someone special, maybe perhaps you've yet to find the guy of your lifetime yet, you need to understand that such situations needs a spark to start the fire, why don't you start finding one if your talking about that, but getting to the primary topic now, those "people" who said that you act like an elder sister or a mother towards them definitely mistake you for who you are, all of us have different personalities, consider finding someone who has the same interest or at least don't think your boring ? Hope that helps :)