The Sabotaging Friend

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i was reading in one of the womens magazines a few months ago and a story some one had written about her own experience with a friend really peaked my interest. this lady and her best friend of years were great then she noticed that the friend that was supportive all of a sudden became critical over whoever she dated. the career she had that her friend had been so supported of her in pursuing she was making her second guess herself on everything. she became withdrawn etc. this lady even needed her best friend to fill in a arrange a party for her work for her because something came up and it was a huge thing for work and the "friend" literally disappeared after promising to do it to where it ruined her image at work. i had never really thought about it before but ive seen this a lot and not even realized it. i wonder why this happens though? the article said the person could only guess that the "friend" was upset she wasnt being as successful etc and was trying to make sure the other didnt do better than her and that while she was so supportive and her rock that was because it she hadnt been succeeding yet to where it didnt make her look bad compared. have you had this happen? i always wondered how friends would go from supportive to all of a sudden trying to destroy you a little at a time for no reason. i wonder if there is a way of preventing this? obviously you dont want to have a crappy career and be a loser so that you never outshine the other but still seems messed up to be punished by the closest person to you when you succeed. have you experienced this? what do you think triggers it? what can make a supportive friend totally try to sabotage you whether from an event or just trying to pick a part at your self esteem?