What is love exactly?
By babytaffster
@babytaffster (2232)
Chatsworth, California
March 18, 2012 1:55am CST
I do have strong feelings for my boyfriend and I am now asking my self the big question "do I love him?" I sort of feel like I do but I'm not sure. I thought I was in love a couple of times and it didn't work out (one of them was my ex fiance who said he would do anything to make it work...then he slept with my friend. I'm not mad at her because she had no idea we were going out) now I wonder if it was love or just indigestion..no but seriously if it was love why don't we love eachother anymore? I can easily say to my best friend I love her and I can say I love you to my dog and I know I love them. But why is it easier to easily love a dog or a friend but very difficult to know if you love the one you're with? I want to say I love you but I don't know if it's because I do love him or because it seems like the right thing to say. So that's why I'm asking what is love exactly?
13 responses
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
18 Mar 12
it is easier for us to love our pet because they will never hurt us,however love is give and take ,caring and wanting the happiness of your partner. there is no perfect relationship ,that he hurt you doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
18 Mar 12
Not the dog in this picture. She's still alive. My old dog Lucky (we called him Lucky because we rescued him) his nickname was Fella. He was a beagle/terrier mix. God I miss him.
@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
18 Mar 12
Baby if you are not sure with your boyfriend why let yourself suffer that you are not
loving him because it is unfair for his feeling towards you are getting serious each day you meet each other.Love is more than just anything you could put meaning on it.
Love can be realized when there is a quarrel between you and your boyfriend and that you felt that he was missing in your eyes even in a short while that you tend to miss him like a year already,that is love but you have to make it and felt it.Real love can not be predicted by just one stroke of your fingers yet it can strike your senses once you have encountered the one that you really love.That is what we call love at first site and you will not lose that site in your memory because love was already developing in your heart.
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
18 Mar 12
I don't see him very often because he lives in Orange County and I'm in Los Angeles and he works full time. So we only see eachother about once a month, twice if we're lucky. Two weeks ago my dad was out of town so he stayed at my house for three days straight. Which was awesome because we never had that much time together before. And when he left I was extremely depressed. I mean when we see eachother we spend the night together and I'll miss him but I wont be as upset when he leaves. Maybe it's because we spent so much time together that I got depressed. I see him again next Friday. I'm happy about that but I'm afraid I'll miss him even more (oh god that is so sickeningly cliche. sorry about that) So I'm not really sure how to interprate that.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
As I have read your response I could tell that you express jealousy to your lover.
That is a sign that you really love him yet you are just not decided whither you love him or not but you are Baby.You both are meant for each other.
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
19 Mar 12
Love is the self-satisfaction and joy at the meeting. And a sense of excuse for something when you miss your lover. Love is your sense of the world smiles at you as you are together. Love is give and sacrifice and commitment to those you love.
Finally, love is a sense of satisfaction and belonging to those who love.
@CelticSoulSister (1640)
• Southend-On-Sea, England
18 Mar 12
I think love is something that when you're in it, you know instinctively and this love can feel different from person to person, or from relationship to relationship, being all but indefinable in words. I think it is possible to have strong, positive feelings for someone without being in love with them, yet love can also be very fragile and I feel it's possible it can break up if both the people involved in the love relationship aren't at the same stage of love within it as one another. Perhaps it was love with your ex fiance but maybe he did something to alter your level of love for him when he slept with your friend? I think it's easier to fall out of love than it is to fall into it.
@babytaffster (2232)
• Chatsworth, California
18 Mar 12
I don't care that he cheated, we all have physical urges that need to bed met. I care that he blaimed it on me. And there is way more to the story. But that would be one hell of a long and confusing post.
@Mashnn (4501)
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18 Mar 12
I think you still have not been able to get over the last breakup that is why it is very hard for you to trust your current boyfriend or even be able to let yourself fall in love with him since you are afraid that what happened would still happen to your current relationship.
@honest_efforts100 (1607)
• India
21 Jun 12
Love is a feeling that no words can explain. I don’t think you can answer that question. For love to work there has to be trust and honesty at all times. If any of this is broken, it starts the beginning of the end.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
19 Mar 12
Love is trust that you simply cannot fake,
will take more than imagination for this to break.
Love is the feeling all about being secure,
having that good feeling that has absolutely no cure.
Love is that thought that comes when you know,
that what you share is honesty that starts right here and now.
Love is acceptance that comes without any strings,
anything attached will fly away on its wings.
Love is the confidence that you will never falter,
that is the promise that people make at the altar.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
18 Mar 12
I don't know how this so - called "love" is work out for all of us. I saw people deeply in love, and they can do anything for each other. While I saw others with mouthful of "I love you", but they cheating each other behind each other's back. For me, I tried to learn to love, and I tried to love someone once, or twice, at the end, I end up hurt and I can't really trust the existence of love. Maybe love is a strong feeling, and it won't be easy to share by 2 persons.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
18 Mar 12
Love is a feeling and a relationship with a lover is different from all the other relationships we have, it's a commitment and the rules for it are different too. I agree that I find it way easier to say it to my kids, other kids, animals etc. I haven't figured out if it comes to my husband either what kind of love that is. I won't have sleepless nights about that since I know that what he calls love is completely different (also different showed) as what I call love.
Might be this is the confusing part too. Men do see love different from women and also culture difference is an issue here.
I think love has to be the trigger..to take care, to want to be with someone, to share, to have faith and trust in someone and that person should do exactly the same for you. Without asking for a payment, reward, without blackmailing, threat etc.
@vimal1990 (116)
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18 Mar 12
ya Love is a strong feeling inside the heart... which is like a stupid thing like possesiveness and affection and something else.... surely its a big hurting one if the person whom you loving is not a good one...
@lamineramzi (59)
• Romania
18 Mar 12
well nobody can give a exact definition about what love is. Everyone thinks love differently than others. I can say for myself that love is just a temporary feeling that u have when u start a relationship, but this feeling won`t get u too far if u don`t have a reliable trustful relationship, with respect and help from each other. Love is a nice feeling that get u to the sky and make u dream, but the true life is different, so u better think if u can get the relationship u have in a different level based on trust, respect and same goals in life.
