How to stop attracting boys to me?

I don't talk much. I'm the quietest gal in the school. I only usually go with girls too. Aside for that I have this guy who is almost always with me that I know is not attracted to me because we had been classmates since grade school and he knows me too much to know that I'm not interested in anybody but boys still come and ask me. Most of them are classmates in some subjects. But we don't get to talk much since most of the time after that class I'm off to my next subject. Nothing more, nothing less. I only go to school for my business there--go to school.

I am not interested in anyone. And I rarely smile...unless if there is something for me to smile about like something being funny. How do I get to encourage anyone when all we're going to talk about is the school lessons and stuff?

You know, I can't help but think like that too. But because it seems bad of me to think like that, I chose to just leave it alone for quite a while. Don't worry. I am firm in my decision to never be involved in any relationship while I am still too far away from completing my purpose in life.

I don't want to be rude or to be a snob. I just want to discourage them. If I could, I'd wear something that says "Don't ask me out. I'll immediately turn you down."

oh don't do so, will get more difficulties from that.

This response, Leeper, is the funniest. But you do have a point and I got you. That would be a nice thing to do if I weren't just shy in public or trying to maintain my name clear from any scandal and stuff.

But I did tell them that I've got this strange illness that just suddenly appears and everything about me will be red and very itchy. Sometimes I bloat and just can't get to breath...which is a real thing thanks to my asthmatic family genes. I also tell them that I have these strange dreams that tell me to keep out of them and that I believe in ghosts and the supernaturals. And that I have this one guardian with me that I cannot see but constantly feel. Pst...I never really tell the guys this but, I can feel whether they're in the same room as me because I always get this funny feeling on my side whenever they're near. It's like my guardian is poking me and saying, "Hey, that guy's here. Stay clear." or "go to that side and try not to be seen as much as possible."

Fart in public places? Would be better if she fart at the attracted boy instead!

Just typo error in my last paragraph, you can entertain their questions, but answer them truthfully that you are not interested in any relationship at this point in time. Regardless of how many guys are courting you, do not change the way you are. Be yourself and dress yourself in a modest way. In fact, GOD wants that a woman should wear in a modest way like in 1 Timothy 2:9-10: "I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God." Hope this will somehow help you.

Just curious, are you a protestant, braveheart07? Anyways, I have my reasons why I cut my hair short. I could not take care of it if it gets longer. I'm afraid I don't have the time for it. Another reason why I cut my hair short was because I've had enough with long hair. I cannot tie it up because it finds a way to loosen itself. And besides, where I lived is quite hot and my long hair gets to suffocate me along the way. Yeah, when I was still a kid, I was proud of my long hair, but that changed when I've gotten less time for myself and more time for school work and the preparation for a future I am not even sure that will come. I also used to dress modestly but I'd rather wear loose clothes because it doesn't help me much with my movements. Practicality threw away my self-consciousness. I cannot afford to look lady-like when my "job-to-be" is a technician or something like that to be surrounded by things that emits radiation and stuff that can harm the body. But thank you, for sharing those wonderful verses of the Bible! I had known that God had taught humans how to eat well and live well but not how to dress up. Thanks again and Happy MyLotting!

That sounds nice...if only I'm not a student, I can get the ring that looks like a wedding ring...now as for the engagement ring...I better start looking.

yeah, that's a good idea Christoph...which reminded me I do had a girl friend before who did that thing just to get rid of the guy she didn't like, but it wasn't a wedding ring...more like just an engagement ring.

I don't know about that...I always wear a poker face or a scowl. I always make sure that my face would look either the two whenever I walk about. Yeah, I smile but it's only when I talk to someone, especially when I know the person I'm talking to. Maybe it's just those guy's game or something. It can be because of my color, seeing as my skin color is quite unique compared to what they see around or because that I'm more strict to myself than others. I'm fairer skinned than the other girls and I blame it on genes. Aside for my nerdy look, I have quite some skills exhibited in school especially in programming and stuff...but I don't know if it attracts them. I thought it's the other way around until someone told me that a female programmer is...hmmm...was it rare? I don't quite remember. This just lead me to be more confused than ever. But anyways, I won't have problems much because I don't have that 'come hither' look. I'll just have to learn to leave them be and continue to discipline myself to become a responsible citizen. Thanks for responding, by the way. Really appreciated it! :)

You don't know how many times I've imagined that I am invisible. But I'll try to do just as you've advised. I used to be good at being unattractive. Now that I've lost weight, I'm getting more attention, unfortunately.

I don't need to pretend that I'm busy. I really am busy because I cannot live being bored. I'm a workaholic. Sometimes too much that even my mom becomes concerned for my health. You are correct, though, it would make trouble to tell others that I'm in love with somebody else or already going out with a guy because others would become curious. I guess the best way to do this is to tell them that I like girl instead of guys--Just kidding! But it's a trick my classmate used to shoo guys away. I think I'll just continue to ignore them. I just need to lengthen my patience more and/or meditate more. At least as much as that I won't lose my head. Now that it's summer vacation, I can rarely see them anymore. And the other best thing is, is that my mom wants me and my brother to take a break from school so that means no OJT and 1st semester for me yet. She was scared about what happened to me last time might repeat again--it was due to over stress and over working that I got so sick I almost said "Hello" to God.--It means more time to become a mole at home. Have a nice day and Happy MyLotting!

Hey, that's not a bad idea. Joke.

You are correct...I don't want to stink. Because I smell myself too. Those guys will have to stay away though... if I smell like a skunk. But I don't wanna die by lack of oxygen too.

If I am correct in what you're trying to say, I'd rather make it clear by saying I am very happy with my solitude. And instead of being nice and kind, I think of myself as a villainous person who finds my advantage over everyone's dismay. I'm too frank also that people will find me too proud--that's already a fact. And I won't be changing this part of me anytime soon. I'm glad that since it's already vacation over here, I can finally stay at home and become a mole for the next few months to earn myself some money online. So I won't be having another problem like this for quite a while...

As a guy I can tell you that we are attracted to the way a girl looks but for some of use personality is very important. I'm not the type of guy who likes dumb girls. So even if you say you are nerdy maybe you're a nice person and that works in your disadvantage so to speak because being attractive is definitely a good thing in life. You should give boys a chance, sooner or later you'll have to. Don't be scared that they'll take up too much of your time because you can still manage your time.

Hello, psychoartist! Thanks for communicating your thoughts...and I appreciate the frankness very much. I can only dream of the day when I become frail and gray, as it would seem that I could not reach the age where I'll go old... And I wonder if I will really feel depressed should I become old. I always think of myself as a being of solitude. I am happiest whenever I am alone. Don't worry, also, this discussion is not to attract future online friends or something that has a hidden agenda. I started this discussion in order to find ways to really stop my actual dilemma--mine and my sister's, actually but this is a discussion created by me alone so I'm alone at this. But now that I am to stay home for quite a long while, I guess you could say that I have no problems now regarding people looking at me like I grew another head. How do I look at other people? I see them as prospective employees/customers to my plans in the future should I be successful in making a business/corporation or a prospect business to invest in. There is no need for me to compare myself to them, physically or mentally. Should I compare myself to someone who is unique? I also thought of the problems of the world, focusing on my local area for at least a decade--yes, I spent most of my teenage life thinking of all the problems of the world and "why the heck am I in it?". Philippines is a country that is trying to survive in a very big and competitive world. And the only answer I can think of is if someone would give the people at least one of what they need that might solve quite a percentage to it's overall problems. My function? If I am successful with my current plans...and still living, I can provide the jobless with jobs in the next 5 years--so long as they are capable of it. The hungry, homeless and people who are in poverty? That's the reason why there's charity. If I have a proper income, why can't I give the charity 25% of what I earn? So long as I know that in order for me to gain something valuable, I have to let go of something valuable for others as well. In order to be rich, one has to have nothing. Have you noticed that most of the poor people has everything yet they still see poverty in their life? It's quite a mystery to me. They have a lot of money--cash on hand--compared to those people who are rich. Should I really be thankful that I am born? I only know that my existence--a very short one at that--has a purpose. And it does not involve me finding a partner or friends...So yeah, I am way ahead of you on your advice to me. I already started with my struggle to learn and make money while I still have no employment. But I am thankful for the reminder...that I have less time at hand so I need to hasten the process of things around me, so that I can finally create my last will and testament and finally rest in peace than die and still leave my family with debts. Have a nice day and Happy Mylotting!

I'm okay with just looking. I'm thinking that this might just work...if I could just get a guy to help me around. Maybe I can ask a friend or something, but it kinda makes me feel bad using another person just to get what I want for an end. But I'll try this...if I can...

No, I don't think so. Honestly...I don't know. I've never really been attracted to anyone since birth. Yeah, I've got crushes like, I like his hair, I like his voice or I like how funny he is but not 'like' like 'the like' towards another person. It's difficult, yeah, emotionally, considering that I don't want to seem rude or snobbish...it became more difficult when one of my mentors told me that college is a hunting ground for guys. I don't think I am that pretty but, I am fair skinned compared to other girls...so I am quite noticeable in a crowd but not standing out, I think...I wish.

lol. I don't think I'm attractive enough to get prince charming to kneel down in front of me. And I am not after Mr. Right or Mr. Rich or anyone right now. I just want peace and not feeling like I'm under watch at all or being asked out. I WANT to push them all away at the moment...or any moment...maybe I should get into meditation everyday to stop the stress from building up...maybe that will help me... -__-"

I've thought about this idea for quite a while but may I know what you mean about risky? I'm feeling guilty enough just thinking of using a friend to just get what I want but how is this course of action risky? Just curious and I really want to know.

Maybe you're right. It's okay to be admired, just not to be approached and to be asked out by a fellow class-man or by a total stranger. Because it really gets on the nerves whenever I go to a public place alone and am in a hurry to get back to some appointment...

I am underage in my head, yeah. I am not prepared to be in a relationship and I don't want to be in a relationship especially when I still haven't finished my true purpose in life...my goal. I find that if I will be in a relationship at this time, it would become a wall to what I wish to achieve and that is something I would want to avoid at all costs...Do you get what I mean?