Vice of jealousy

In your post you talk about two completely different feelings. Envy is not at all the same as jealousy. Jealousy has to do with love and being afraid that you might lose or share the person you love with somebody else. A boyfriend or a husband can be jealous at every man his girlfriend or wife looks at or speaks with, a mother can be jealous at the girlfriend of her beloved son, and so on. Jealousy is normal and human, when kept under control. No jealousy also means no love, but too much of it also means sickness. If your boyfriend does not dare to speak with other girls or to say "Hello!" to a girl he knows, because you are jealous, than this jealousy is definitely sickness. But, if you are jealous when your boyfriend flirts with a girl, then it can be considered a "healthy" jealousy, as long as you don´t make a big fuss about it. However, envy is a very bad thing, and envious person is a bad person. There is no amount of envy that is "healthy". Every amount of envy is sick and destructive for the envious person. If I envy my neighbour because he drives an expensive car or has more attractive house, or has a better job, then I am sick and have a serious problem in my head. Moreover, this envy blocks me, and not my neighbour. He is still going to have his car or house or job, but I will eat my own liver all day every day until I completely destroy myself mentally. Envious people are doomed never to success in their lives, mostly because they never think about their own lives and their own potential and qualities, they insted always think about other people´s lives and qualities and feel sick about it. These kind of people are unhappy, miserable and never satisfied with what they already have. If you feel sick because someone has something better than you, than you are doomed never to have such a good thing yourself. You block yourself with envy, and you only damage yourself with it. And yes, envious people are very insecure about themselves, that is why they are doomed never to succeed in their lives.

Hi didi Though I am not a religious guy, I still have read some of those texts. I believe in one concept - You havent brought anything with you and you will not take anything with you - from the Bhagwad Gita. I didnt believe in this but over the years, I have learned and started to kind of have a liking for this. This has helped me overcome many ills and evils that I had - and today, jealousy is something that is quite distant from me. I have learnt to give away rather than aspire to achieve. Some say I am a loser but whatever it is I am happy. I have more of mental peace and that I treasure.

i kinda like the first part of your discussion; that jealousy is a state of uncertainty. this one made me think of things and future that i am uncertain of. and i thought of many things. so in the coming days, i will try to be certain of what i want in what i do. certainty makes conviction and builds confidence. thanks for the discussion.

Being jealous is just normal.But you have to control yourself on things that you are being jealous of.There are times that you are jealous because you want something but you can't have it.There are ways to get what you want.You have to work hard for it to get it.You can be jealous because you saw in another individual the qualities that you lack at times and that's why you are jealous.We should know that we are born different from the others and that there are things that we lack but it doesn't necessarily mean were not valuable.Every human being is special in his/her own way.

jealousy can also be healthy in a relationship..i also hate that too much confident and that"you cannot find a better one" line.. but too much jealousy can also destroy a relationship, it is when we cannot control jealousy and we are just too shallow with our reasons..