More than 10 years age gap and different races, can this be possible?
By nytrisco
@nytrisco (567)
Philippines
March 19, 2012 9:56am CST
Can this be possible? Or should I say, could this work out just fine? I heard a lot of love and relationship stories about age gaps of 3 to 5 years and it went well. But how about a 11 years gap?
I am currently dating an office mate of mine whom I find very attractive, not because she has a beautiful and angelic face, but she got almost everything that I want to a girl. Street wise, intelligent, funny, etc etc. I am 24 and she is now 35. Well you know how stupid a love is right? Well At first when I confessed my feelings to her, she taught I was just joking due to the age gap. She was thinking, maybe I am just looking for a motherly figure because my mom died when I was just 12 years old. But I told her how serious I am so, she allowed me court her and give it a try. She want it to be very slow because she hates surprises and just enjoy every single day that we were dating.
Second thing, about the race. She is half Chinese, half Filipino and still follows a lot of Chinese traditions (except for marrying only Chinese guy.) And me? I do have a Chinese blood somewhere inside me, maybe a quarter or so. One time she told me about a a Chinese tradition for a newly wed. If the father of the bride thinks that she married a deserving guy, he will then give her daughter a present, whether it is a car or cash. And so I was thinking, what if her parents didn't like me or thinks that I do not deserve her because I a currently a minimum wage earner and their daughter do earn triple of the minimum wage. Or maybe because I am not a pure Chinese, something like that.
So do you think this will work?
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11 responses
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
19 Mar 12
you can not always help who you fall in love with. i personally haven not dated anyone older than me but i have seen it done many many times. it is possible that it will work as long as you both feel the same way and do not care about the age :)
also i wouldnt worry so much about what her parents think until it gets to that point. i know you are probly worried about her not getting that present if her parents approve of you or not but in all honesty if she loves you the way she says she does then it shouldnt matter what they think or what they would give her as a present :)
i hope it all works out for you and good luck :D
@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
21 Mar 12
you are very welcome :)
that is always the best stage tho :) i also use to worry about a lot of things and i still do sometimes but i have tried to just relax a little more and i seem to enjoy life and the things i am doing or who i am with a lot more :)
@sahlifame (32)
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20 Mar 12
good day to you?!!you know what?that's all possible if you're really meant to be together..me and my live in has 22 years in gap..and we had different beliefs and cultures..im from upper region here in the Philippines...while he was born in Islamic beliefs in the lower region of the Philippines where he was born..i cant believe at first that im really falling for him..i really love this man that im talking about..its all up to you how to keep your relationship stronger and longer like us..i am half Vietnamese and he is half chinese and half filipino..and i love him because we give and take..you should know first what he or she likes or dont..know her favorites also and try to impress him or her..
@stealthy (8181)
• United States
19 Mar 12
I have no experience with dating someone of a different race; not because I am opposed to it but it just hasn't happened. I dated a woman who was 11 years younger than me and married another one who was 13 years younger than the me. The marriage lasted 5 years and ended for reasons not related to the age difference. I have dated a few women who were older than me but only by about 3 to 7 years. None of those got particularly serious but again that was not because of the age difference. I am in the U.S. and I don't know if that would make a difference.
@myzhian (584)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Well I guess age is just a number. A good relationship depends on how mature you are do deal with it. Communication and time is most necessary to make it work,successful and worth-living, custom and traditional differences is can be fix or organize through communication. You will need all of these to keep your love and affection.
@no_ming (137)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I have a cousin and she got married at the age of 18 years old and his husband is 32 years old. Even though she's 14 years younger than the guy they still understand and love each other. they have two beautiful daughters now.. Because of them, I now believe that age doesn't matter as long as love binds them everyday.. So,for me it possible that you can be together forever if you really love her then no one can stop it. You both are now in the right age ..
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
20 Mar 12
I think that this could work for both of you if you both know what you want out of a relationship. I hope though that are parents are accepting of you. That probably will be a big thing for her. But who knows as they may be exciting that at the age of 35 she is now seeing someone she may marry.
@ecaron (678)
• Canada
20 Mar 12
I was once married to a man ten years older than me and we had two lovely children together and it was good for the first five years then our age difference began to give us problems but you're relationship just might work out. Love doesn't care about race or age, just go for it and Good Luck!
@artauxeo (287)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
i have this girlfriend right now who is really in to me. i'm 30 years old filipino, and my girl is 18 years old japanese. and we're doing fine right now. i know, someone will think that's too absurd. well, this how it goes. i'm a mangaka, or what you call a japanese manga artist, working here in the philippines. i have a big fan base all over the world, but few in japan, where, ironically i should be getting fans there, but they are too purist that they don't want other artists with different nationalities besides japan doing their manga for them.
but i don't have time to talk to them or check them out because of work. and it just happened that i met this cute japanese girl, which really looks like an anime come to life. so... i can't let that moment pass by, and started dating her. ^__^
so the answer to that question will be answered if our relationship continues for years. but i am pretty sure nothing is wrong when you both love each other. ^__^
@gracepadirog (201)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
For me,it's just fine to have a lover with a 10 years age gap and different race. Because if we talk about love, age doesn't matter as they say, and that's true as long as you love each other age is not important at all. And even race is not important also as long as you love each other because the strong feelings of love from both of you will keep you both from harm, and will make you happy till' the end of time.
@shebacs (178)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
If you love each other, really love each other and want the same things in life, then go for it.
But also have to 'court' the parents though. Like any other, parents are critical on their children's partners or spouses. So your intentions must be true.
