Best friend caught stealing from you.
By samson1
@samson1 (738)
Jamaica
March 19, 2012 11:14am CST
How would you deal with the situation whereby you have evidence (for example by using CCTV) that your best friend has been stealing from you? Would you be conerned that disclosure of this evidence will affect your relationship with your 'best friend'?
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6 responses
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
19 Mar 12
If a friend weather we are best friends or not and some how I caught them stealing things from me that are clearly mine I wouldn't be friends with them no more. I'm sorry that is crossing the line because real friends don't take things with out asking first. I would never be able to trust them again and I think or same friends would have trouble wit that. If they gave me back everything they took I wouldn't call the police on them for taking my properity but if they didn't I would call the cops and have them get my stuff back or what I knew that my friend took from me pay me back for what it was wroth.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
20 Mar 12
Good response. It's also good that you will afford this person with the opportunity to return the stolen items, or else you'll get the poice involved in this case; as a means to minimise the embarrassment caused by the incident. Let's hope that this 'best friend' will comply, learn the lesson from the incident and never repeat that horrible act again.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
21 Mar 12
Good thing its never happened to me. But if it does I know what to do. Its just the responsible thing is for someone to try to return what they took no matter what the consequences might be even if that ends a relationship.
@BigMoney25 (1286)
• Philippines
22 Apr 12
It is a bad feeling and experience to see your best friend steal from you because that person is the only person you gave your trust to and yet he/she will just destroy that trust. It's unbelievable, very hard to imagine but after that I will never trust that person ever again and I will just try to move on from what happened.
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
22 Apr 12
I support your point that such an experience like this is very hard to comprehend.., at any level whatsoever. BigMoney25, I suppose -as an act of self preservation- perhaps, (as suggested by you) the better thing to do is to learn the tough lesson from this experience, and move on. Well said.
Thanks for your comments.
@choybel (5042)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes something will push a man to do something you could never imagine him/her doing. In this case, find out if this has been done on a regular basis or just that one time. If it was a one time thing, maybe you could confront this to him and ask him why. He could probably have a story behind it, one that you could see pass through this crime. After all, he is your best friend. But if this has been done regularly, then that's a different story. In this case, you should confront him and tell him how disappointed you are for this actions and really express to him how he has lost your trust and friendship.
@seemared (771)
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22 Mar 12
That has never occurred to me and if it does it would be some sad moment and I would talk to him about why he did it.
There have been instances that my friends hid at our bedroom and watched me and my partner in action from a to z and enjoyed the whole scene and I would discover them snooring behind the curtain in the morning or so.
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
19 Mar 12
hi, i agree yes, need to face her and tell her whats going on and then depend on the cause that let her do that, you decide what to do , try to see whats behind thes action or thing from her side maybe who knows whats going on in her life, listen to her then decide
@sahlifame (32)
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20 Mar 12
maybe..he or she had reasons.,but this is a kind of betrayal..frankly asked him..why he or she did this..dont judge him or her because of her deeds..try to analize first if this is the first time he or she did this and that..if you really want to make your friendship longer..try to listen to her/him first..
@samson1 (738)
• Jamaica
20 Mar 12
Let me ask you these question. Whether this act (of stealing from you) was discovered for the first time, or if it was proven to occur on several occasions, would'nt the first discovery affect the integrity of your friendship with this 'best friend? After analyzing the situation, what other conclusions could have drawn, other than this person cannot be trusted with your property?