" Wedding Vows should change every year."

I don't know about that. If you're marrying someone you love, then it should be forever and in sickness and in health. To me, vows shouldn't have to be changed every year like that. When you're married, you should be committed to that person and you should be able to love them and be with them for the rest of your life. I think that now, people take marriage way too lightly and then they get divorced or now, changing vows every year. I do think that every 5, 10, 15, etc. years a couple should renew their vows just to keep things alive for them and remember what they signed up for when they married that person.

Maybe this this therapist had an unhappy marriage or something. In essence, vows are supposed to be something the couple holds onto till they die. We all know that there would be challenges or obstacles along the way that really test married couples to keep these vows, but that's what makes marriages stronger. So I think changing vows isn't necessary. I mean, it's like making a promise and then changing it because you made that a year ago so it's no longer applicable. It's just, well, lame.

I think advice like that is why there are so many divorces and people living together without being married. Marriage is NOT supposed to be a temporary thing. It's a commitment, not a game. It's sad to see things like this.

It's a shame she's a therapist. She should probably have been a divorce lawyer.

I don't wedding vows in my religion but for us, marriage is a commitment for life. A vow that made on wedding day as in some culture should be kept for life as well. It's like a pledge. Once made and finalized, stick to it. Why should it be change over time to cater the changing world.

Then I think we should also have a new partner each year I fail to understand why they have this Vows kind of thing anyway when two people get married... One one end, they say Love has no boundaries, and should be unconditional and on the other, they base the start of a love relationship (the marriage, which is supposed to be for life), on Conditions and vows... Hypocrites? Sorry, I am in a playful mood today and you know behen, there is no one to play with right now... it is 38 Degrees C outside and even the grandchildren of my landlady have gone to school...

it is not a job contract, it is a marriage and a marriage should be firstly based on love, committment, respect, etc. i have been married for almost 25 years so this has worked for me.

That´s an interesting idea. It makes it very businesslike however, and I´m not sure I like that.

I don't know about every year... I saw another discussion on another site talking about marriages themselves only lasting a year and then you reevaluate... I don't like the idea of going into a marriage with the expectation that it will fail. But maybe going back over your vows and rededicating yourselves to each other every five years? Maybe ten... then if you survive the seven year itch, you have a ceremony to renew your vows and start over. That seems reasonable.

hi, If the love is still there between the couple even in the 50th year of togetherness, there is no need for any renewal of any vows, contracts, terms and conditions of a happily married life. They both can continue till 100th year as well. LOL.

I know people who use renewing their vows on a special anniversary, like the 25th, as a way of telling everyone all over again that they still mean them. I believe it's not so much for themselves as a testimony to others that committed love can last a lifetime. It's a way of saying "If I had the choice again, I would still marry you." Most people who go into marriage with the idea that it's only for as long as the person meets their expectations for a partner will probably not stay married very long.

Marriage without commitment from the start isn't really marriage at all. If you have no intention of staying together for the rest of your life you don't really understand what marriage is and you really shouldn't call what you have marriage.

Seems like that therapist had an unhappy marriage life themselves and are thus giving this advice. I feel that when you get married and are committed to each other then it is for life. When we make our wedding vows then they are for life and they are not a joke or a temporary thing that we keep changing every year. Yes, a lot of things change with time and that there are ups and downs in a marriage but changing your vows each year is not going to be making a difference because if you need to keep on changing one vow for another it just shows that there is something wrong in this marriage and that you can't keep committed to your vow then how can you be committed to each other...

I think if married vows will be change every year for sure many people will not be afraid of getting married or even without love, just the excitement, they will get married since they know its not forever.

Awful, the therapist is ignorant and none too bright, in my opinion all the best urban

It might make people think before they do things they might regret later....I haven't been married for so long I really don't know what would be right in this situation....

I think that therapist is wrong. Wedding vows are the same as a promise. Whether you're married or partners for life, the promise to remain committed to one another is the same. What this therapist said is basically that it's ok to make promises/vows to each other, but you don't have to keep them. So the way to get out of it is to change the promise/vows whenever it's convenient and you can't stay true to your word. By taking this advice, it cheapens the value of a promise. No, I don't think the wedding vows should change each year. I think they should always stay the same. What I promised my husband on our wedding day I still believe and stay true to now almost three years later. If those changed annually, I don't think our relationship would be all that strong! On top of that, I think we can promise forever because we can have our forever together! Each person's forever can be whatever he or she wants it to be. I don't know what caused this therapist to think this way, but she probably had some negative experiences that caused her to be so afraid of commitment. Great discussion!

hi there, why wont you ever marry? yeah i don't like the thought of that. because if you love a person, it should be unconditional and no buts and what ifs my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years now and i want to marry him in the near future and be with him for the rest of my life. i know a lot of things can happen. things that we don't know about. but that doesn't mean we will leave to that thought. we just have to work it out because there is no perfect relationship. even though there is no marriage, like for those who cannot afford to get married, if you are committed and really love your partner then no need to keep renewing your vows.

For some they never want to keep their word,they actually say one thing and mean another;for others they mean what they have said unless they die.For poeple that are really gone on each other,the wedding vows are uncalled-for.

I think its a bit silly to change your vows every year. That would be spending more money to do a wedding renewal. I think every 5 to 10 years is more realistic if a person wants to do that. But I don't think a person that is married has to change there vows. If they feel that vows that they made the first time they got married is still how they feel years later then they should keep them. If they feel that maybe they should make up there own then they should. I don't think there is anything wrong with not changing them or changing them. Me and hubby have talked about writing our own this next time around maybe but we aren't sure we might keep the old school vows that we made the first time around. I'm sure in 3 years the vows will still feel the same for us and mean much more then they did the first time.