Learning to grow.

I think that a healthy balance of both would be my preference if I had one. Now I am not talking about physical abuse...but other means of punishment can be very effective. Positive reinforcement is very important too. All bad stuff can make us feel all bad. I got a switching once and a hand spanking once when I was little...that I can remember..that is all the physical punishment I ever had. My grandparents were pretty laid back and my grandfather would have rather took a beating himself than to have to punish me.

i think they learn through both. The punishment teaches us how we can do without it and the praise we want more of. I think as either parent/teacher/adviser we strive for the praise. But through getting both we see how good life is.

I don´t think that there is any question that people are more receptive to praise than punishment. I am not wholly against punishment as a tool for parenting, but it should be a last resort when other sorts of behaviour have been encouraged.

It seems to me that what you learn is better learned through praise and reward. If the avoidence of punishment and pain are the goal, most of your energy will be use in that avoidence rather then learning the lesson. However I must say that lessons learned through pain are never forgotten.

I believe that it is a mixture that helps us grow. We learn from discipline when we do wrong and this teaches us to do right. We learn and grow from praise as well because this builds self esteem and confidence.

Both, to acknowledge reward i think you need some kind of punishment for reference. Obvious praise is better than punishment, nobody wants punishment. But i don't agree with parents that never punishes the kids. I'm not talking about severe punishments. Just don't spoil the kid. Teach him to deal with the consequences. That exists consequences. That's the main objective of the punishments, doesn't it?

People grow and many things make up for how they grow. Praise and punishment are worthless if they are not done with love. I think that love is the only way to nurture a person. That sometimes means grounding a child or praising him if he has done something exceptionally good.

I was raised with both, i was punished when i did something wrong, nothing that bad though and praised when i did something to be proud of, even the small achievements.. I think people need both to grow, to know when they are wrong and be appreciated too.

some people grew by pain and most of them got trauma in their life people who grew with a lot of pain were hard to get happy but many of them appriciate every kindness they've got but sometimes they will grow their kids just as like as their parent did people who grew with praise ussually got confidence with their life and could get happy easy in their live but they are easy to get stress up cause sometime they just want perfection i think the very best to grew is to get both of them punishment and praise ( with some reward item occasionally) but punishment to give is something just to educate them and make them reallized that what were they do wrong...not something to hurt in phisically or emotionally

Learning can happen in different circumstances. I would not say that punishment is more effective than praising or the other way around. Kids are best handle with praise when they are preschoolers and do not very well understand the rationale. When you praise, they are more likely to do better because their work was recognize. punishment and pain is not likely understandable for them if the did something wrong. Then when they reach grade school , you can start alternating the punishment and praise method. Different situations can be best learn in different ways. Some can be best learn through experience, others through reward and punishment.