She is a spoiled brat and they won't believe it.

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First and foremost, please don't take me the wrong way for posting this discussion. I just need serious advice cause this issue has been bothering me for more than 7 years now. Please don't judge me, cause today I'll be talking about a young girl whose attitude has always been bothering me for long time now. First I'd like to give you guys a history of my family. I am married. My husband's mom adopted a child 7 years ago. She adopted her when she was 1 day old. Their family accepted the child with open arms and treated her as their own. But I think they also spoiled her so much that she had now become a spoiled brat. I also strongly believe that this child naturally has an innate tendency of being a brat. I had noticed this from her when she was around 2 years old. She was very arrogant at an early age. She would kick the door when she wants to enter. My husband's mom, always had been busy at work (reason why I wondered why she adopted a kid to begin with) so she had always hired a nanny that would take care of the baby since she was 1 year old. I had seen her how she treated her nanny. She would always treat them bad and they can't do anything because my husband's family will always say, "oh let her be, she doesn't know what she is doing because she still still young". I told 'em I think they should try to discipline the kid as early as possible so it won't be too hard to control her when she gets older. But they always seem not to hear anything. Instead they took it the wrong way. I heard from a source that they had said that I obviously don't like her and that I have a personal grudge over their adopted child. I think they are right. But they don't understand the reason why. I won't be acting like this If I hadn't seen the kid being so mean and rude to most of her nannies and some people. When she got a little over 2 years old, I gave birth to my daughter. That's when I begin seeing this kid really made my life miserable the whole time I was staying with them. When my daughter turned 1 year old, she had always made sure that my daughter won't be able to get near her grandma. She will always make up stories so that my MIL will be angry of my daughter and will start ignoring her. She is just a kid but believe me she knows her way so much it's like it's really within her naturally. One time, when my MIL was not around, I heard her screaming from their house. I checked immediately cause she was really screaming wildly. Then I saw that the whole living room was a mess. She threw the vases around and had thrown the pebbles on the carpet and everywhere. I asked the nanny but the nanny said the child got upset about something and she suddenly started throwing things around. I scolded her and she kept quiet and I guess that was the time that she became careful about her attitude when I was around. She didn't do only that she told my MIL lies, she was always competing with everyone especially with my daughter when it comes to attention. When she feels like my daughter is getting everybody's attention she will say "Why does it always have to be her" when the truth it has always been about her.. When the spotlight gets away from her even just for a second that's when she starts complaining and thinks she is the underdog. That's what her foster family thinks too. They think that the kid is pitiful because she is adopted and all that. They said they don't like to scold her because they don't want to make her feel that she is not loved and she is being scolded because she is adopted. When she makes a mistake it's like you have to think twice about scolding her because you could end up in the next front headline. They always take it the wrong way that is why there are no people who dares to stand up and fight and tell them about that her real attitude is. I told them before but because of that I think they even made their love towards her in public display, which I sometimes think that they are doing on purpose to annoy me. They bought her more clothes, more shoes, more accessories, more toys and more everything. They always want to make it a point that she has more than what my daughter which happened to be their sister. So now... I learned again from another person the bad deeds she is doing but this time I don't want to speak up anymore. They'll take it the wrong way as usual. They'll think it's a personal grudge. What should I do? How can I endure this injustice going on here.?