How do you make someone fall in love with you

Philippines
March 19, 2012 9:03pm CST
well, it's not really a personal experience. i just kind of been doing a little pondering about it... I have this childhood friend of mine and she has had a crush one of our high school classmates about 9 years ago. And apparently, this crush haven't died down until now. both are still single and with no commitments whatsoever. Although my friend had a boyfriend in college (so to transfer the attention to someone else), she realized it wasn't really working out at all, so they broke up. Now, she is in consistent communication with her "long time crush". she knows every schedule he has, every important events in his life and makes it a point to at least great and gift him especially during his birthday. but despite every effort she does, it seems to me like the guy treats her just like the old times... good old friend... that's all... then i came to realize that it's so hard to make someone fall in love with you....
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10 responses
• United States
20 Mar 12
You can't make someone fall in love with you. There are certain factors that will show compatability, but if that spark isn't there for someone, it won't work. Chemistry is incredibly important....if that isn't there, no relationship will work. You shouldn't have to "make someone fall in love with you", the love will happen on its own if it is there. There is no forcing love. If you want to help your friend, all you can do is suggest that she is honest with her high school crush. If he feels the same way, it will work itself out. If he doesn't feel the same way....well then at least she doesn't waste any more time wondering what could have been.
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@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Mar 12
yes Leonarsp nice reply great I agree with you love can not be attained forcefully and we must try to avoid getting love of someone because it hurts at the end when inspite of our all efforts we can not get love of anyone .......... Hare Krishna Ganesh
• United States
20 Mar 12
by showing him green card,lots of money and all those stuff which comes in luxury
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@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Mar 12
ha ha ha ha ha ha lol lovebird yes may be its true in world we are living in today but I have to get love of Lord Krishna and none of what you suggested works for me ........ So how can I get love of Lord Krishna is more important ......... Hare Krishna Ganesh
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
20 Mar 12
dear friend in todays time unfortunately love has become a resource that is short .......... The path of love is very tough and below r principle to follow the path of love ......... LOVE IS TO SACRIFICE LOVE IS TO GIVE RESPECT LOVE IS TO UNDERTAND AND SEE WORLD WITH EYES OF OTHER LOVE IS UNREASONABLE AND SEES NO LOGIC So its not easy to walk on path of love so be careful while trying to get love of others as it hurts if we fail ....... SO better get love of GOD that is better ......... Hare Krishna Ganesh
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
20 Mar 12
Well, being up on someones butt all the time ie. knowing having to know all their business, sending gifts all the time is certainly not the best way to go about getting someone to love you. In fact those are the kind of people that end up getting used because they are seen as nothing more than a door mat to the other person. You can't make someone love you. In the end its all up to the other party. It may help some if you will give this guy plenty of space and knock off the stalkerish/suffocating behavior.
• United States
20 Mar 12
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. The same thing applies to love. You can't make someone love you. It seems to me that your friend has gotton into a comfortable buddy relationship. The guy thinks of her as a friend and not romantically. Sometimes love does bloom from these types of relationships but other times it does not. Has your friend ever explained to the man how she feels or has she said nothing? Just maybe if she lets him know then who knows, love could bloom. She really needs to stop admiring from afar and lay her cards on the table and if it is meant to be then it will happen. If not then she needs to move on.
@tagakolo (46)
• United States
21 Mar 12
You can not teach people to love you the way you love them.what she can do is to open her heart to someone who loves her back.It's a waste of time to wait for a person to fall in love with you.If i were her,i will try to forget him and find someone who appreciate my love and stop wasting my time with someone who does not love me back.
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
20 Mar 12
It's easy to know if it's going to work... just be forward! Girls, be sexier to the guys, and shw them what you want, for the guys, treat them right, take them out... if these kinds of things aren't getting through, then just.... TELL THEM! Is it that tough? For someone to tell the other, "I really like you!" If you say that to them, then they're going to think about it, and give them a bit of time, because the more they think about it, the better chances you have that they'll be feeling the same way. If they don't like you (which is a pretty rare kind of thing, when they've been friends forever already, and if they're attracted to eachother, as well) then they'll tell you, and you know you gotta move on and go somewhere else. In that, if your friend finds some other guy, that could even lead to the long time friend being jealous, and really go for her. It really has no negatives, only positives... so tell her to do it!
@cearn25 (3456)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
Be the real you. Don't pretend to be someone else. That you make someone falls in love with you. But not all people would fall in love. Be prepare for that. Anyway, perseverance is one factor I see on the girl who had a long time crush. I am also like that before. So I can say that I can relate with the situation. But it didn't end up well.
20 Mar 12
it seems that this "crush" is only thinking about friendship right now and nothing more, you cannot "make" someone fall in love with you, love comes naturally, there has to be something special about the other person for someone to fall for them, so i think your friend is expecting too much, after all these years her crush has probably saw her as a friend and nothing else, the only way she may get his attention is by telling him how she feels, but making someone love her will not work
@beenice2 (2967)
• Sackville, New Brunswick
20 Mar 12
I wouldn't do that because you are grasping at air. Why forcing someone love you, where is that coming from, it is surely just based on nothing,sad to say but you just going to get hurt if you try something like that,can to man walk together if they don't agree, no.