Concept of Civil and Church Wedding
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
March 20, 2012 9:29am CST
What is your opinion about having wedding inside the Church or Civil?
What is the first thing that comes to your mind about Church and Civil Wedding?
Do you also think that having Church wedding is expensive then if you don’t have the budget then you are going to get married on Civil? Why do you say so if that is the case?
When I am reading forums when it comes to weddings the first thing in the mind of people is that when you are going to have Church Wedding it means that is automatically expensive and if you are in budget you are suppose to have wedding in Civil. Which I think that is wrong mentality because nowadays there are some Church weddings that offering it for free but that is wedding of the town meaning you will be having wedding with other couples all together. These are for people who can’t really afford to have wedding inside the Church. More so they also have wedding rite as well that you don’t need an entourage. The problem with other couples is that they are not thinking in innovative ways on how they could really budget the wedding whereas they can do other ways in order for them to save.
My opinion about it is that when you are having the wedding inside the church it only means that both of you have the same religion and you want to be blessed by the Sacrament of Matrimony and the faith. You want to be blessed by Jesus and God as well. While if you are having the Civil wedding it is because both of you have different religions or it is because they are not Catholic nor Christian.
So I hope the opinion of having Civil and Church wedding is not always about the expenses because in other terms it is just being like the Church is for luxury while the Civil is affordable. I think that is kind of offensive to other couples if the mind set of most people are like that.
3 responses
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
31 Mar 12
My husband and I had a church wedding. It was expensive, and we had to save up the money and take extra work in order to afford it, but it was worth it.
My brother chose a civil wedding, and when my parents heard about it, they were very surpriced because in my family we usually get married in the church, and I think that my brother was the first person who didn't get married in the church. I think that it was the price of the wedding that made them choose a civil wedding. They had just bought an expensive house and they wanted to get married, but they didn't have the money for a big church wedding. Instead they had a small wedding with their parents and their brothers and sisters.
In my brother case I think that they actually did make the choice based on the price of wedding, but I don't think that is always like that. I think that many people choose a civil wedding, because they aren't religious.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Mar 12
That is actually my point as well and I think that must be valid. Because civil wedding may vary on religious aspect especially if they have different religion. And yeah also if they are not that so religious. I don't really believe that the mentality of having church and civil are always varies to the price. Whereas example there is the Manila Cathedral offers Php 4000 of simple wedding mass, only the sponsors are included in entourage. You don't even need best man and maid of honor.
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@reco13 (605)
• Philippines
26 Mar 12
Church wedding tends to be more expensive since it requires more preparation (invitations, souvenirs, gown, guests, reception, etc.) This may be eliminated and have a simple Church wedding but perhaps, women likes it more when their Church wedding is really memorable being wed only once in a lifetime. If I will be married, I will choose Civil wedding first and when we have enough budget, we'll have the Church wedding
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
31 Mar 12
It is really natural to women to dream a church wedding. Because that is like a debut that they want to be a Princess who was able to get the Prince Charming of their life and show it to the world of how much they are proud about themselves by the time that they are getting married. But then we still have to keep in mind that marriage is still important matters why we are celebrating the wedding. I myself has dream wedding as well but not as grand as I can see to others. But if I can't make it then I won't force it. If I want something extravagant of course I am the one who will earn that money and spend it. I don't want to rely it all to my husband to be. The only thing I can rely to him is just the wedding ring. Any thing else I don't know yet.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Mar 12
While if you are having the Civil wedding it is because both of you have different religions or it is because they are not Catholic nor Christian. - this is not entirely true in my opinion, maybe not in my experience.
From my experience, My Siblings got married in Civil because they didn't have the money for the Church Wedding. Church Wedding is every Brides dream i think.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
21 Mar 12
That could be entirely brides dream if they will really follow the whole tradition and especially if they will follow the new trend as well. It is becoming luxurious because of the suppliers especially if the materials are from well known or popular industry. I remember our carpenter had his wedding inside the Church for free but that is Kasalang Bayan (Wedding of the Town) then they just held the reception just inside our house. It was like a family affair that their siblings just cook.
The Manila Cathedral is also offering the wedding rite which you can also pay by donation.
