I am 36, single...so scary life!

jasmeena..how are you?? iam indonesian..we are same indonesian.. i know, when in our culture, when woman more than 30 years old, it was weird.. weird for their self, weird in their parents opinion.. i really know it i just suggest you, don`t easily giving up the real prince for you will come to you in the right time..

Hi Jasmeena, I know and understand what you feel. I am 26 and facing pressure about this marriage thing already. From the environment, where I see all my friend are getting married, and not me. From my parents, well they don't say anything but I understand what they feel and what they think since my sister has boyfriend and maybe will get married soon. I am close with a guy whom I think is not ready to commit. I don't know what his problem but I don't wanna push him into that commitment thing. So, I like to tell myself this : Marriage is not a guarantee that I will be happy. Though I feel bad about me not getting married and not have that planned yet up till now.. I still believe that if I happened to be single for my whole life, then it means it is the best for me. It is hard. But, I am doing this. What I know is, it is not right to push ourselves into marriage with someone we don't love just because we want marriage. There's nothing wrong with being single as long as we are happy with it. Well, marriage is not an option, it is a choice.

Um you remind me of my younger self. This ". i am nice to him, but i still don`t have feeling to him (but i have no choice as he is the one who is serious and willing to take me as I am as I have bad past). " is rather dangerous thinking. Slow it down. The world is not going to end. Some people don't marry until their 40 something or older. You'll find someone. Just don't settle for some guy just because he is paying you a bit of attention. Your parents are right.

I'm also 36 but I'm not pressured to what life's bring me, don't find love let love find you. Love comes when your least unexpected ..be positive and you'll never know what's in store for you.

since i was 16 i have been in 4 long term relationships, the last one lasted 16 years, i have become single for the first time in many years and i love it, i have my freedom, i can come and go when i please, my house is cleaner, and i am much happier, i am sure you won't be single for long but me, well i am happy being single and i won't be looking any time soon

Better to live with people who genuinely love us than to live with those we love, but she does not love us, because if there are people who genuinely love us, we will be loved and appreciated. So if there are serious people who genuinely love Jasmeena better do not hesitate, he could be your soul mate.

hi jasmeena, really you are quite innocent girl,donot worry one day one good person will meet you and marry you,god is there,when it should be happen,only on that time it will be happen,do you know that marriages are made in heaven,it is written in your fate that you may be cheated that may happen surely,but do not know fear nothing will happen,all things for the best of you only,have a nice day

I understand how you feel abou it. I also feel the man is not a good one. Find another. There are still plenty of honest guys out there.

It's really hard to be in a situation like that and you don't know what to do. Well, I am afraid also if I will be able to find a guy who will love me before I reach that age. I am almost 30 now and hope to find a guy who will accept me as whole. And will love him as well. There are guys who come but we can't say that he is the one cause there are attitudes which we can't accept. we are all human and we all have imperfections. It's just that we have to learn how to love and accept people or change the worst attitudes they have.

I tried in believing that there are instances in our life when we can dictate if not influence our future and destiny. There are turns that has to be taken in stride while things can be dragged fast. However, when it comes to bringing a man to become our lifetime partners, I always believe that a Divine intervention is much more powerful. There are people who are designed to be our lifetime partners. :)

Hello jasmeena.. I know you're experiencing some stress now related to the fact that you are getting older yet you cant find the right guy for you.. Just relax girl.. Age doesnt really matter in LOVE. In gods time you will surely find you right man whether how old are you.. And please try to ignore that guy.. you dont want to end your life with someone who cant be true to his self.. :)

It is a very sad news. I share your problem with my friends. And then i will tell you. Have a nice day.

Yes you may be in your 30's and single but would you rather be married and totally unhappy? Just wait for the right one, there is someone out there for everyone just gotta be patient

All I can say is... don't see it as a disaster and the worth thing that could ever happen. I know it's hard, but a nice, normal man is worth the waiting. If you become desperate, it could "glow" from your aura. Try to take up a hobby, indulge a bit in things you like, spend time with friends... if you are content with yourself, you're gonna glow in the best meaning possible, and nothing looks better than a happy face.

It sounds to me like this guy is trying to impress you. Some guys are like that. You should talk to him and let him know how you feel about his elaborate gifts and that it bothers you. You should never settle for less than what you want because you do not want to be alone. There is someone out there for you and you just need to be patient. I myself am single and I prefer it that way and am in no hurry to remarry. Take your time because if you settle for what you do not really want then you will only end of being miserable and life is too short for that.

Ok hold up, hold up. Thirty four (34) year old woman on the floor here (I'll be 35 in August), jasmeena you need to take a deep breath and as one of the posters said relax. First of all why this urgency to get married?? I'm not against marriage, I believe strongly in it. I've got friends and family breathing down my neck to get married, I've got a sister who is 26 years old who recently gave birth to my 7 week old niece, and I've got people joking and telling me how I let my younger sister pass me and how I allowed her to give my parents their first grandchild, so what am I waiting on, but you know what I don't care, marriage is a lifelong committment and I'm not going to allow myself to be pressured into it out of desperation and as aforementioned I'll be 35 in August so you know the clock's ticking. I've learnt that when single, make use of that time to know yourself, what you want out of life, your goals and dreams, establish what you want in a relationship so you won't settle as you seem bent on doing which brings me to, Point number Two. Why on GOD's green earth do you want to settle for some guy who does not meet the approval of your parents, who appears to be fraudulent, pretensive, and insincere. Sweetheart you don't settle for a relationship because you want to get married, that spells destruction ahead for your marriage. Know your worth,and you're worth alot hon, and you've a choice. A choice to wait for the right guy. I may come across harsh, but I'm a realist and straight up talker. I don't beat around the bush, furthermore it doesn't make sense fretting about something or trying to force something. Occupy your time with some kind of activity, go out for dinner, movies with friends, family or even by yourself. Yes by yourself. When you continue to dwell on the fact that you're not married, it can lead to depression or to this discussion that you've posted. You don't want to come across as desperate. And another thing, don't try to forge some bond with some unscrupulous character that you don't love or even like, when you least expect it love will come knocking on your door. Being 35 and single isn't scary, it'll only be scary if you allow it to be. I've a girlfriend who got married at 37, her husband is a dream. She never expected to find love with him or in him. She waited and yes she use to wonder sometimes, but she kept herself busy, and one new years morning he came on her doorsteps told her he loved her and he would like to date her, she was 36 at the time by the time her birthday came around she was married. Today they're living happily ever after with two kids in Canada, she's living a dream life, all because she waited, she didn't settle and trust there were alot of unsuitable suitors who wanted to be with her. Enjoy your life right now, stop dwelling that you ain't got no man, he's there, just exercise patience and love will definitely bring the two of you together, you'll see :-)

Hi jasmeena i understand how you feel ,when you had a bitter breakup especially when it wasn't your fault ,it is very difficult to move on ,be that as it may, you have to learn to love again as one bad egg doesn't spoil the bunch. Concerning the guy who you want to be real ,most men have realized that becoming real is the hardest way to get the women you want . You may be different but why did he get himself caught . give him a chance

First of all, try to relax a bit and don't panic. This are the times when our patience is being tested by Him (you know what I mean by Him,right?). Things happen on the right time and in the right place. Let us just say that you have not meet the right person. But what I see in you is that you are still comparing your past Guy, to the Guys you meet right now. Try to to be honest first of all to yourself. The issue here is not being honest the issue here is you being scared to trust someone. That guy that you are talking about. What makes you say that he is not honest, to think that what he is doing is to impress you and make you special right? Giving you valuable things does not mean that he is not honest. Didn't you think that he is working to much to buy those gifts just to impress you? Yes,lets just say that he is wrong when he dis obeyed you and went to the hospital, maybe he is just trying to get close to you and your family. It is really hard when someone judge you with your actions without knowing your intentions. What I would advise you regarding that matter is to let that guy know what you think about him and know his side. Try to lay the cards down, at least give him a chance to depend himself and after he says his intentions and still you are still scared to commit(Yes you are the one that is scared to commit) on this guy then let him leave with his honor at least thank him for the effort. As you have mention that after all the effort you still cannot find any feelings for him, right? I think you have a person in your heart but since you are scared you can't even look him in the eye, for God sake... you are already 36, times like this you need to put an effort. Remember you are not getting younger... Let that person know your feelings maybe he has the same feelings for you. One last thing, you don't marry a person because you need to, you marry a person because you Love to. It is better to grow old not married than grow old married with a wrong person. Try to look beside you maybe that person you are looking for is just under your nose... I am sorry just been carried away by your situation, but this are only my honest opinion... I do hope this enlightens your perspective. Thanks...