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For me bonding! i think, getting angry upon hearing answers which is less expected depends on how the person delivers the message. Maybe it sometimes depends on how you deliver your answers or advice. Instead of giving encouragement to the person who needs it, we tend to discourage them and make them feel guilty of their questions. I can say that they are somewhat kind of a close minded person. They don't accept corrections, convictions or feeling guilty of what they have done. Most persons who really act that way are the most persons who had committed most the mistakes. Defensive type and egoistic attitude. But we must also try to give advices and positive answers to them, avoiding the negative impact towards the person in order to cool them down instead of bursting them with anger.

I think people ask questions and don't prepare their self for the wrong answer. They ask to get a good response not the truth. The truth is not always the best answer, especially when its a relationship question. So when you Ask a question prepare yourself for a disappointing answer every time, that way you don't look stupid when it hit you. Its just human nature to do so

The problem is some people aren't looking for an answer, more than just getting their ego stroked a lot of the time. And that can be a huge problem. I think people just want to hear something but naturally when they don't hear an answer that is to their liking, they are going to get all offended when the answer is not just going to be to their liking. It makes me wonder sometimes why they even bothered to open their mouths and ask the question. If I wanted to hear what I'd want to hear with absolute agreement. I'd just talk to myself and answer myself the question. I certainly wouldn't ask a question to someone, when they might answer something. I think that it is sometimes one, sometimes the other, even if I am leaning towards high ego myself. Sometimes people just like to have their ego stroked to an almost mortifying degree.

I really don't know actually. I believe that a good discussion not only entails positive things but negative things as well. Not everyone will agree as far as that goes because people have their own ideas and opinions. There really is no reason to become angy over a difference of opinion unless of course the person is being just downright mean. Then of course it is better to thaqnk him for his opinion and leave it at that.

It could be both. Many people want their opinions to be the ones that are always right and think that everyone else is wrong. Those kinds of people irritate me, especially the stubborn ones who have been shown that they're wrong right in front of their faces, but still act like they're the right ones. However, I think it's more of an abnormally high ego than low self esteem because if you have a high ego, you think that you're all that. But if you have a low self esteem, most people would at least take the other opinion into consideration while the high ego person might not even think about it because they're right "all the time".