Love is really just confusing. How much do you love your partner?
By cleverland
@cleverland (150)
Philippines
March 20, 2012 10:14pm CST
I don't get it when a person broke up with his boyfriend/girlfriend for so many years and then started a new relationship (sounds more like a rebound), then after a few months, they get married.
How can they move on so quick. I had this friend who had a 8 year relationship. They were planning to get married 2 years before they broke up. Her boyfriend was even the one who initiated the plan. And then, later on in the relationship, her boyfriend started acting weird and every time she talked about marriage, he would shut up or wouldn't react (obviously, he didn't want to talk about it). My friend got tired of what was going on as if she's the only one who cares. The guy doesn't care anymore and seemed like just waiting for her to cut him off. They broke up.
Just about after 3 or 4 months. The guy wanted to be friends with her asking her if she's fine...Then, he posted a picture with his new girlfriend in his website. A few months after that, maybe again 3 or 4. He got married.
My friend was, of course, is confused, disappointing, heart broken.
We just all told her that, maybe in you're entire relationship, you love him more than he loved you.
So, I'd say in a relationship, love given and love received is not always the same. It could be that you love your girlfriend/boyfriend 90% while their love for you is 60%..I think that's just how it goes.
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7 responses
@jsae29 (1120)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Love is really confusing at times. I really pity your friend. I think his ex-boyfriend is just playing macho. Some men likes to connect to their ex-GF, specially those who they feel is still in love with them. It feeds their ego, make them feel more macho. So I suggest to to your friend not to entertain the guy anymore and stop thinking that he's still in-love with her. Also it would be easier for her to move on if she forgets him.
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
21 Mar 12
I also feel that love is confusing. Not only is it confusing, its complicated; it takes two! Most men are afraid of commitment, or if they feel they have not met the right one, they just don't want to either say anything about it for fear of hurting your feelings, and keep dragging the relationship on; or they bide their time and wait until something better comes along. It's not only men, but women do this too. We are human after all, we are not built for monogamy, as the human brain was designed to ''hunt'' Hunting for something better, or hunting for the satisfaction of hunger (such as affairs)
Tell your lady friend to move on, the guy she was with was obviously a dud. He couldn't come clean about his feeling to begin with, and only waited for the perfect timing to get rid of her. Typical... Again its human nature, we are born selfish.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
22 Mar 12
Yeah that is a sad and true situation for many. Can be heartbreaking for many people who are in that type of situation. I hope though that your friend is able to find someone who loves her as much as she loves him. It is really heartbreaking because she was in a relationship with him for so long.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
21 Mar 12
I think the boyfriend wanted to marry the other girl. In other words , he was seeing her When he started acting weird. He was waiting for your friend to leave. The guy isn't good enough for your friend. She is better off. I feel like he is married but he will cheat on her sooner or later.
As for your question.I'm sooo lucky. I love my guy as much as he loves me. how do I know? He shows it! Please tell your friend the guy for her Is out there. But she must take the time to heal and Then she should keep her eyes and heart open. I found my guy or should I say he found me , after a bad breakup. tell her she is the lucky one! She is free to find Real love.
@shirley2all (141)
• China
21 Mar 12
yes love is confusing.When we just fall in love with each other, my boyfriend loves me much more than I love him. Because at the very beginning I focused most of my time on my job. While now I am getting more mature and it is time to get married, I put all my heart on our love while he is busy with his business under the pressure of marriage and future life. No doubt, we love each other.For your friend, I think she should clearly understand the man is not worthy.Just move on to another new life.It would be better for her.
@kccrystalsachi (117)
• Philippines
21 Mar 12
Love is a mixture of confusion and risk. Also, love is just what makes us happy or sad. It really depends on you and your partner. Love is all this but everyone would still choose to be in love irregardless of what it brings to our lives because without love, everything will not be worth living for.
@bonding2 (219)
• South Africa
21 Mar 12
i believe the guy was cheating on your friend with the other woman and was waiting for the opportunity to breakup with her so that he can move on with the other woman. Coming to loving equally ,it is practically impossible because even siblings from the same mother are not loved equally by the parents. if you can get someone who loves you above 50% then it is okay
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Mar 12
It is not always the way you think it is. I think it's better to move on, to try to move on and make the best out of your life as sit there and grieve for years (I wasted 14 years of my life with that and would never do that again).
For men mostly it's "easier" to move on as it is for women. For men it's also harder to be alone (nobody who takes care of you). It's proved men have a new gf (generally speaking) within 3 months, women (generally speaking) within 5 years (they are sick and tired of taking care of ..)
It's also proved that the way men and women think about love is different.
How much I love my partner? Not enough to do anything for him and also not enough to give up everything for him and also not enough to let my life ruin by him if our marriage is over.
