a relationship like no other, what would you do?
By obe212003
@obe212003 (2299)
Philippines
March 21, 2012 9:11pm CST
I was watching a talk show yesterday, sort of a confrontation of some issue with two opposing sides.
On the accused side is a young girl, i think she was 20 or 21, and works as a GRO (guest relations) in a bar. She was having relationships with three guys; the two in their late 20's and the older one tagged as "her sugar daddy".
As discussion heated up regarding the reputation of the accused of enticing men to get money, witnesses on both sides would come up and join in the issue.
The sugar daddy was openly admitting his love for the accused and his plans of living together since having had a relationship for almost eight months with her. The accused admittedly too was grateful for him as he was taking care of her financially and emotionally.
When the accused's mother show up, the sugar daddy was surprised to see her as apparently she was his ex some 22 years ago. The mother confessed her relationship with sugar daddy who after getting her pregnant left her, and then gave birth to who is now the accused!
There was a moment of silence and everybody [the audience] were in tears. The sugar daddy was devastated and the accused was shocked.
This definitely is one of the most sensitive issue dealt on the show and even the host and the counseling panel were almost out of words to give a definite sound advice.
Later on, the sugar daddy after knowing his lover to be his own daughter, asked for forgiveness and opted to take time to think it over.
If you were in his case, what would you have done?
5 responses
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Sadly devastating for the father, as well as the daughter. He actually did not know that he got the mother pregnant, and he only knew about it on the show. The priest, who is a member of the counseling panel, explained how destiny played on him with such an unexpected situation.
@elidarrieta (45)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
It was so humiliating on the part of the sugar daddy and destructive blow on the part of daughter. I can't believe that this will happen but nothing can be done to recover the damage except for accepting the reality. This is one of a kind relationship issues that i have seen so far. I'm running out of words to advise too however, everything happens for a reason. Let old days passed and move on to a new beginning.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
24 Mar 12
Reality really bites as it was a really devastating situation especially the guilt that the father will have. Moving on would be a difficult process, but probably his plans of helping his daughter for a better life would be crucial, and his presence surely is needed.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
i really do not know what i would do if this happens to me. knowing that i had an intimate relationship with my own daughter does not seem to be a good idea. there will be awkward moments moving forward. for me, i think the best way to handle this is for me to get out of my daughter's life but still take care of her needs. i would not be able to stand the thought of me having an intimate relationship with her. 
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Very well said, i quite agree. Although the fact that the father decided to have time for himself to figure it out, i still think that it will forever haunt him the rest of his life. Knowing his daughter's predicament, the best thing he could do is to make sure that she could have a better life.
@lakerfanster (2577)
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22 Mar 12
Wow that is an amazing turn of events, it's extremely rare but I have heard of relatives getting together when they didn't even know that they were related. Such an awkward situation.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Not only it is amazing, but it got almost everybody [the audience] including the host and the counseling panel in tears and disbelief. The show even ended up in the evening news of one of the local channels here.
@hello_kitty1981 (44)
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22 Mar 12
This is what a kind of situation. But as for me both side of the accused do mistakes. First the mother who don't even tell the father of the accused about her condition when she's pregnant"I think". Second the father never look for his family for a long time. Maybe the situation use the accused to show the world who her parents really are. This is so hard for her but she need to go on with her life. Maybe she could say bad both for her parents for lying to her all of her life. This is a lesson we could learn. People don't have the right to judge but they doing it wrong.
If this would happen on my case. Honestly i don't have a guts to look at may parents eyes. not because i'm shy that i have a relation to my father. Is it because i'm a mistake that they both made. But i still try to walk straight, work hard & go on with my life. with or without them.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Sadly though, the father simply reasoned out that he has to work and he was unable to bid goodbye to her, not knowing that she was pregnant. They had no communication whatsoever in 20+ years. The girl was told of the events by her mother, and went on with their lives. The girl worked in a bar, entertained guest and having relationships with men for financial reasons. She even told her mother that she had a sugar daddy who was quite good to her emotionally and financially and not knowing that he was her real biological father.
The most disturbing part was that the mother came out in the show, and she was insisting that their relationship needs to stop as she does not want to have a grandchild from the father of her daughter!
