to love again?
By manisan_ako
@manisan_ako (43)
Philippines
March 22, 2012 12:15am CST
I have a friend which is in a relationship for almost 2 years. They have a long distance relationship kind of love affair. They seldom seen each other. During their first year, he committed mistakes but she forgave him. Lately she found out that he had another girl. He lied to her again. I will not deny, but she is deeply in love with him. she can not seem to let go of what they have. she can't let him go. and he doesn't want her to break him.. But I can see that friend is not happy anymore. I always found her crying everytime she think of those mistakes he had done. I can see that she is happy whenever she's with him but everytime they depart, I have this feeling that he will cheat on her again and she think the same. Inshort, we, her friends can't put trust to him anymore and I know she feel the same way too. But she still love him though. What should she do? Should she hold on or should she give up?I hope we can help her by giving advices..
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8 responses
@hanisme (19)
• Philippines
29 Mar 12
well, your situation is same as what my best friend is going through..she talks about what her boyfriend been doing to her for how many years, and im all ears to listen to her every time when her boyfriend cheat on her, lied to her etc. and i'll just listen and giving sort of advices and i also keep on telling her that get rid of her unfaithful boyfriend of her and find some one else that will love her, only her.
@manisan_ako (43)
• Philippines
2 Apr 12
very well said.:)) I guess your friend, I am lucky to have you..hehe..Don't worry, she woke up already and realized how stupid she is. lab u manisan..
@steffy89 (23)
• United States
23 Mar 12
In my honest opinion she should give it up because its obvious he doesnt love her the same.He cheats and lies continiously and shows no intrest in her.She needs to find someone who is close to her and is willing to see her almost everyday.Girls should find someone,whether its a guy or a girl to love and appreciate her for who she really is,not for what she got.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
23 Mar 12
I know people like her.
they will do anything to stay in relationship no matter how much they are hurt.
there is nothing you can do or say to make her realize that this relationship is killing her. she will have to see this herself and decide for herself.
long distance is always difficult. but doesn't mean impossible to maintain.
I had long distance for a year before getting married.
I am now married for over 11 yrs.
when the two people in this LDR want it to work, there is no bad connection, no other people or events around him, no work pressure, no computer / money problem can ruin it.
it really depends on your friend and her bf and it seems to me her bf is not worth her time and effort
@egram09 (78)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
I've been in that situation, and its really hard to let go of someone whom you really loved. As for your friend, just let her take time to realize the issue by herself. But, don't left her alone, be there for her all the time. listen to her stories about them even if it is repeatedly said. One day you will all knew that your friend realize that she deserves someone better than her guy.
@atwilson (540)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 12
i would suggest her to leave the guy. why? since the guy had hurt her heart painfully. If she continues to love him again, she will be more hurt. she will get nothing, just the pain. Before she goes too far, It is better for her to forget the guy by now. At first it may hard, but believe me. day by day, She can do it. I'd also ever experienced that. :)
@entrerri (14)
• Bulgaria
22 Mar 12
Sometimes,maybe even most of the times,it just doesn't work.I am a guy ,but i was in a similar situation-loved a girl so much,while she cared too little for me.It was a road whose end was near so i took a deep breath and ended it.She immediately started dating others and i understood that i had done the right decision,because it was obviously better to let her go and be happy,than condemn two people to being unhappy.
So,my advice is that your friends break up with him for both her and him being happy afterwards.
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
22 Mar 12
Hello manisan! :)
Long distance relationships really can be risky. I know, you know that!
Well, as for the guy, if she really love her, he should learn to wait and be loyal to her. Same as to the girl. They should be loyal if they really loved each other and learn to sacrifice for a long distance relationship. Having this kind of relationship really can be hard specially you can't see each other. You'll never be sure of what each other has been doing while you are both apart. Understanding and trust as well as communication has to be done in here.
Well, as for the guy, if she really love her, he should learn to wait and be loyal to her. Same as to the girl. They should be loyal if they really loved each other and learn to sacrifice for a long distance relationship. Having this kind of relationship really can be hard specially you can't see each other. You'll never be sure of what each other has been doing while you are both apart. Understanding and trust as well as communication has to be done in here. @livetrent (52)
• Australia
22 Mar 12
He isn't right for him. He knows how much he has your friend whipped. I suggest you sit your friend down and tell her what you see as an outsider looking in. But be careful because your friend might be defensive and lash out at you even though your trying to help. The saying is true 'love makes you blind'. Let her know she deserves better!
