How to have a hard heart.

When I help others, I don't expect to receive something in return. When I lend someone money, I don't expect to get it back. That's why I rarely lend people money, I don't have that much to give away in the first place. Disappointment comes when you expect something in return for what your doing.

all you need to do is to be selfish... think about yourself and you alone! just be selfish and that is the key in making your heart hard... and dont mind anything you see.. just ignore it... but thats just me., i have a hard heart to people i see fit that they deserve it... but to people who i see and feel that they need more of my soft heart and care., then i give them what they need., but i make sure that there are limitations...

There are a lot of terrible things in the world to face. I know that it is hard when you try to be "good" and then at every turn it seems that wrong is being done to you. I think that the world has made me a bit more selective about the friends that I make or the things that I do for them. Not that I don't help them out, but I don't ever mix business with friendship if I can help it. That way neither of us is expecting that from one another.

You can't betray who you are. If you are a kind person, stay that way. Just become wiser about who you trust. There are too few good people in this world and we need more. I pray you never become a cold hard person because you'll be miserable and lonely. I am so sorry that so much bad luck has happened to you. That no friends are there to help you when you need it. That means they just weren't the right friends. You need better ones! I am also sorry you've been robbed. I've never gone thru that and I can imagine it's terrifying. Please be strong and be kind. We need people like you!

It'd be nice if more people in the world had the nice qualities you have - then you wouldn't need to develop a heart to withstand these bad things. It's a shame you see the world that way, and I admit I'm disheartened by all of these cruel things the world has to offer, but that doesn't mean you should close off your heart completely. That empathy, kindness, and honesty you have can get you far, so don't rid yourself of them. It's a matter of developing a shell against the bad and learning when it's right to let your positive traits show.

Don't give money to anyone, many would come back for more. The reality is that many people don't help when they're helped out, so adjust to it. Well don't take money and don't give anything back in times of need but just don't hand out money, lie if you have to but money will just ruin your relationship with them.

there are two kinds of people in the world. the first group leaves their parents house, with the teaching that the world is a safe and good place where there is justice. as long as you keep your values and work hard, you will struggle and have hurt, but it will pay off. on the contrary, the second group leaves home with their parents teaching that the world can not be trusted and is dangerous. i think the truth lies somewhere in between. i tell my children that this is a dangerous world, and it's rough out there. but, i also tell them that along with hurt and pain, comes joy and happiness. there are bad people in the world, and you will have to meet up on some of them, but you will meet up on some pretty good people as well. you should have love, kindness, respect, and care. that's part of being human. it is a gift that you give out to others from you, though. it's not an entitlement. those gifts you give to those who are worthy and give you the same thing in return. don't cast your pearls to swines. if you give your best to the worst, it will be wasted. you don't have to be anybody's fool. your experience are not there to harden your heart, but to make you learn. so, you don't run up on the same thing the next time, or at least be able to make a better choice. don't through away who you are just because there are some not so nice people out there in our lives. keep your values, just don't let your heart over rule your head. be vigilant. good luck.

Don't regret the good qualities you have and the better things you did. You have extra rewards for those and blessings may just come later. Don't change, having a good heart is better than having a hard one where you won't have a peace of mind. You may not have a chance for this kind of world for now but you store riches in heaven.

I know what you feel and I can relate to it.I also had same experience like yours. In times when we are the one facing trouble/s...and no one is there to help us. We felt all alone and dejected and that's how our mind and heart start to feel a little rebel.We suddenly felt how unfair the situation is..but NO, change your mind.Still smile and tell yourself you are a survivor and you can beat all the challenges you are facing right now. I had my heart broken and that made my heart a stone one.It takes me almost a decade before realizing that love is not to blame.I found someone who showed me my way back.I hope I am on the right track now. One thing i've learned, we can change..from the good person we are we can also become mean..but please, keep the goodness within.There is a good reason behind why these things happen. And I promise you, there's a greater reward awaiting for you...just wait and stay as good as you are. Sometimes we never understand why life seems so mean to us after all the good deeds we've done.Don't be sad,or never feel bad for every good deeds won't bear bad result. Just wait for the surprise, maybe it's on its way ... :)

Heart is everybody's character, keep heart happy and the original pure. You are a good person ,and soft heart can feeling other body's feel.more sincerely. As you said you meet robbed times and you meet friends not help you in money when you have fiancial difficulty who is you helped before with money.You are honest,somebody cheat,do bad things never apologize. In the world ,there is no place will not give human money if they need money. but the difference is the money belongs to everybody or you are poor,you are rich different degree. Everybody should share opinion to others and open their mind to the friends who are in the planet other continent.For we know somebody cares. We are one family. The person you meet is out of normal person's deal.Never think about them .but consider whether it is misunderstanding or some one want to break your two friendship. Keep your mind always shine, the minds more, the justice power on ,then no out regulation people. Then the heart feel happy. Heart will grow great no matter what kind of its type.